9 September 2020
"Memories to Savour"
The intentional practice of remembering moments that were a gift from God.
Memory allows us to “savour” the many gifts God has given us. I am trying to establish this as a more regular practice, so I thought I’d share with you how I arrived at this point…
I had been noticing how exceptional the early Spring weather has been here in Australia – the last week has been stunning! I am beginning to believe winter may be behind us (although I say that cautiously).
My kids are looking forward to the September/October school holidays as the weather warms up. The October Long Weekend is getting closer which heralds the beginning of Daylight Savings and longer afternoons. The local grocer is getting some early season mangoes on the shelves, so the better mangoes are not too far away! I love all the varieties of fruits that signal “summer is on the way” … and that means my wife will soon be making mango smoothies! I love summer mangoes!!
But Summer passes way too soon, before we’ve really had a chance to relish the gifts it provides.
It would have been nice to have our Canadian grandchildren fly out with their mum and dad in the New Year, but that looks unlikely due to Covid. I had hoped that Joanne and I would get to ride in a few bicycle classics with hundreds of other riders, but Covid stole those from us too. I’m still hopeful we can get away to our beloved Snowy Mountains over Christmas; last year it was not Covid, but the bushfires that stole such precious times from us.
I always enter summer with higher hopes than can possibly be met. Thankfully, lest we despair, God has given us a grace to rescue our hearts when lovely moments pass too quickly, or when we haven’t had the chance to get the Sabbath we need. This grace is found in a surprising practice.
Before I unpack that practice… we need to be honest about the common occurrence of loss that has become so constant, that we’ve grown completely numb to it. It is our inability to make time stand still. We can’t do it, not even for a moment. No sooner have we stepped into recalling some wonderful life experience - whether it’s a birthday; a fantastic holiday; that Christmas morning when you were nine years old and you unwrapped that present you’d been pestering your parents all year long for - and suddenly those moments get swept away in the unceasing river of time, swept far downstream and out of reach.
Every precious moment will suddenly be “last week, last month, last year” before you can even blink… such is the pace of our world today. It steals these moments from us.
Few of us remember the taste of our first ice cream - do you recall what flavour it was? What about the first book we read, or movie we saw on the big screen - do you remember the title?
When we fail to recall such events, it is a loss! The speed at which we live our lives, every endearing moment is being swept away even as you read this sentence. And it does such harm to our human spirit and our life with God.
When I was a child, I used to hate it when one of my parents would say to me as we came to the end of our traditional summer holiday: “All good things must come to an end.” I hate that phrase… it reminds me of finger nails scraping on a chalkboard; or dirt falling on a casket!
To rescue us from such despair, God actually gives us “a future and a hope” (Jeremiah 29:11) … To be more specific, Jesus said in Revelations that He will one day make all things new again! So, all good things do NOT actually come to an end at all. Not even close!
In the meantime, God in his mercy has also given us the grace for this recurrent, incessant, unavoidable, daily experience of loss. That gift is memory.
It is through memory - if we make use of it – we can go back and drink more deeply, savour more fully, and take in the full gift of wonderful moments we’ve been blessed with. It is actually my experience that the full gift of those moments can never be truly taken in as they unfold… but only much later as they are reflected on and appreciated more fully.
I was at home recently by myself. To pass time, I was tempted to grab my phone (this is what we all do now, without even thinking) and scroll through news, posts, messages, my inbox. But that wasn’t what my heart needed, and I knew it. My soul needed “summer”; it needed something to remind me of joy. I needed to choose not to just surrender to the magnetic draw of technology that leads to busyness, but to go back and drink more deeply of a sweet gift of summer that passed too quickly.
I opened my phone’s photos and began to drift back through years of images. Eventually, my heart was drawn to a particular image that reminded me of a special day’s fly fishing with one of my sons in the Snowy Mountains.
It was high on a mountain stream, a region that was not easily accessible. We were surrounded by snow gums and early morning mist rising off the stream. The fast-flowing water cascaded down, fall after fall over well-hewn rocks and boulders. The sound of that rushing stream filled the canyon with the wonderful sounds that only moving water makes. There were large majestic pools, but that is not normally where the trout are hooked. Between the larger pools are these smaller ‘bubble runs’ (lines of foam and bubbles flowing downstream) where trout congregate underneath, poised to strike at any insect that fall into these ‘bubble runs’. We stalked and cast to those runs with all the patience of skilled hunters pursuing their prey. That day we landed around 30 fish - all catch and release, and if I recall correctly, I think my son caught about 20 of those trout! Most of that day involved trudging through cold fast flowing water mile and after mile, and by the end of that day we had gone so far upstream, we barely had the energy to hike back out. Back when we eventually arrived back at the 4wd, as we stripped our waders off, we sat by the waters and rested our weary bodies, enjoying a well earned snack before the drive out.
Oh, what I’d give to do that day all over again!
As I remembered that beautiful day sitting at home alone (a day that truly was a gift to me and my son) - my heart began to settle down. I let out a deep sigh. I was at peace and became immediately aware of the goodness of God. I worshipped Him and gave Him thanks. “Thank you for that special day Abba” I whispered in prayer. I thanked a good God for the sweet souvenir that it was. Revisiting it allowed me to see so much to treasure in it; the mayflies; dragonflies; the smell of damp moss on the rocks; the contrast of a hot day and cold mountain stream; the magnificent Rainbows and Browns we landed; the joy on a teenage boys face! I also remembered how extremely fatigued we both were. Not stressed, but a ‘good tired’, that healthy “been-in-nature-all-day” tired.
What a wonderful gift it was.
And the beautiful thing is, that day became even more of a gift to me through the intentional practice of remembering it. We can all do that by deliberately recalling a special memory, going back and lingering in it, enjoying it all over again.
Memory allows us to “savour” the many gifts God has given us. I need to do this more often, so I can establish this as a regular practice for my heart.
May I recommend you try this redemptive use of your own smartphone? We all have a library of memories within our photo folders. Pull out your phone during a break, but instead of checking for messages, or going to your inbox, browse through your photos, allowing Father God an opportunity to surprise you with an image that takes you back to a particular day. May I suggest allowing God to choose the image and the day for you? You will know it when you see it, just keep browsing until an image ‘launches off the screen’ and captures your attention. In other words, don’t you pick the memory – let Holy Spirit pick the memory for you!
Give yourself permission to try it.
Be sure to pray and invite Father God into the process before you begin. Let Him guide you into a precious moment. When one image “jumps out”, linger there, savour the gift of memory. And give thanks to a Holy God for what He brings to your recall about that day.
I hope this brightens your view of the summer that lays ahead, and hopefully seeds the idea of rescuing memories to savour – memories that until now have been hidden away in the river of time.
Go and ‘fish’ a few out…
It’ll do your heart good!
Lots a love,
Until next time…
Flyfishing photo By Ziga - Own work, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=1957090
Other images from Pexels.
7 August 2020
Why aren't we longing and praying for the return of Christ?
Will you join me?
After my last blog I had one church leader call me and catch me off-guard with these words: - "Thank you for that last article… it has encouraged me to begin praying for the return of Jesus".
His words stopped me in my tracks - because I suddenly realised I have never really prayed that as a consistent prayer. I may have written an article last month about my sense that Jesus’ second coming is only a generation or two away… but I never connected the dots that maybe I should also be regularly praying for His return!
I mean, I can't recall the last time I heard anyone say that. Can you?
I asked this leader if it was common in his circle of Christians to be praying for the return of Jesus?
He pondered that for a minute and said: "Actually, no. No one I know is praying that prayer… but after reading your article I felt strongly convicted that I needed to start".
He also went on to say: "No one even talks about it... I’ve never heard a sermon on it that I can remember. I certainly have never preached on it at our church before… but that is about to change."
That's my experience, too. It feels very revealing to me about the times we are in, as though there is an unholy spiritual fog that wants to place ‘scales over our eyes’ to prevent us from realising that the risen Christ did indeed promise that He will return.
To me, Christ’s return to the earth, and his ushering in the Kingdom of God feels like a pretty central part of our Christian faith. Kind of crucial, really. But as I have attempted in various conversations with Christians to bring up the imminent return of Jesus, the mood often turns awkward – or just goes silent - like I wanted to talk about aliens or Bigfoot!
If I push into the subject, highlighting I believe the return of Jesus is not as far away as some may think, their mood turns foreboding like I wanted to talk about their likelihood of getting cancer.
I simply don't get it.
As His disciples - are we afraid of the second coming?
Is this not something we should be looking forward to?!?
Two ideas are absolutely basic to a Christian understanding of this world. First, that you are created to know love, joy and peace. Second, you will not truly know that love, joy and peace until the Prince of Peace comes again and brings into fullness the Kingdom of God.
So, what's with the awkwardness of Christians talking about his return? And, more fascinating (and troubling) - what's with no one really praying for it?
Every one of the major Christian Creeds clearly mentions Christ is coming again. Here is the key line from the Nicene Creed referring to Jesus’s return:-
“He ascended to heaven
and is seated at the right hand of the Father.
He will come again with glory to judge the living and the dead”
I was ordained under these Creeds!
Belief in these Creeds has become the barometer for me as to who are my true brothers and sisters in the faith, because sadly there are plenty still claiming to be Christian whilst having discarded much of what the Creeds declare to be true.
At this juncture I feel compelled to venture a question that Holy Spirit may use to challenge some of us:- If you are not personally longing for and praying for the return of Jesus, could that suggest you are more committed in your heart to making life here on earth work better for you - more so than pursuing the Kingdom of God?
It has been my experience that our prayers often reveal what we are really after.
So if you are not praying for the return of Jesus, you are probably either not looking forward to it, or have just been oblivious to the fact that Jesus is actually going to one day return.
You were created to know true love, joy and peace, and you are not going to truly find it until your heart is set on the pursuit of the Kingdom of God. (Matthew 6:33 “Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you”).
At the end of the book of Revelation, we find the church is longing for and praying for the return of Jesus: "The Spirit and the bride say, 'Come!'" Note the exclamation point, as in, "Please come! Come now! We want you to come!"
Also note when it says "The Spirit and the bride say, 'Come!'" in Revelation 22:17 - that verse is an invitation to the whole Church (i.e. ‘bride’) to be praying with the help of Holy Spirit (‘The Spirit’) to usher in Christ’s return.
So, none of this has anything to do with aliens or Bigfoot. It centres on the great Christian hope!
It should be the eager expectation of every dream you ever had come true. This is the expectation of the abundant life coming to you in all its fullness. Not to mention our dear Jesus coming for each of us – for you!
That church leader was convicted by God to begin praying for it daily! Why shouldn’t he? The Scriptures implore us to do so. I am now convicted to do the same. Will you join me?
Until next time,
8 July 2020
How close are we to Christ's return?
We may have some heart-homework to do ...
We’ve had three major events in 2020 that have shaken the planet!
Firstly, the pandemic.
Secondly, the global financial fallout that has left us on the edge of an economic depression.
And thirdly, we are now witnessing the world-wide outcry against racial injustice.
These really are interesting days!
It got me wondering whether these events are heralding the onset of the Last Days? Are we closer than we have been prepared to admit?
Haven’t you at least wondered at some point in the last few months how close we are to Jesus actually returning? I know it’s crossed my mind more than once!
One aspect the New Testament points to regarding Christ’s return, is that when every nation has heard the Christian gospel, it will signal we are near the end times. So, how are we doing regarding the spread of the gospel?
Many scholars and commentators suggest we have reached the whole world already (the gospel just hasn’t been accepted by the whole world!). Other evangelism ministries suggest we are not quite there yet and vary in their estimates, but basically suggest we are between five to 20 years away from reaching that goal.
Interestingly, I was reading the blog of Greg Laurie of in the USA entitled “Digital worship may create America’s next spiritual awakening”. In that blog dated 14 April 2020, Senior Pastor Greg Laurie stated that since social distancing forced his church service online, their first live stream was to 250,000 people. If that wasn’t impressive enough, within a month that grew to over one million viewers! But for the most startling statistic, I’ll just quote directly from Greg Laurie’s blog:
“But here is the most surprising thing to me about this new, burgeoning online congregation. At the end of my message, I extended an opportunity for people to pray and ask Jesus Christ to come into their lives. At last count, over 31,000 have responded. That’s in four weeks”.
31,000 lives coming to Christ in four weeks! And that’s just from one congregation that went online. It seems to me we might already have a spiritual awakening underway!
Another indicator of the Last Days is an increase in famine (according to Matthew 24).
I’ve read articles that show great concern for increasing famine in some third world nations. This risk has escalated since some major first world nations, focusing on their own country’s financial woes, have pulled back their financial aid to those in the third world.
Then, of course, the world-wide outcry against racial injustice has revealed the great anger that exists in many people’s hearts over centuries of human beings treating other human beings horrendously!
This is also evident in a ‘domestic violence pandemic’ brought about by the pressure cooker situation of living in such close quarters for extended periods (which is no excuse for domestic violence by the way!). Many have also sought false comfort leading to a ‘pornography pandemic’ as well. Our social concerns are many. But our planet has bigger issues ahead!
Matthew 24 also foreshadows an increase in the threats and rumours of wars, and that earthquakes will increase. It also speaks of ‘pestilences’ – and note that word is plural, meaning that the Scriptures suggest more than one plague or pandemic could be on the way.
If these are all just the beginning of birth pains (the beginning?!?), we may need to see this Covid19 pandemic as possibly a dress rehearsal for more major events to come.
We don’t have to look past our own country in recent times to see the difficulties … horrendous bushfires followed by damaging floods, and then a pandemic that cripples the economies of the world!
Where are things headed?
It appears we are heading towards some kind of climax… are these all the ‘birth pains’ Scripture describes in the lead-up to the Last Days?
We have to understand that the New Testament is clear on the promise that Jesus will return. No one knows exactly when the Second Advent of Christ will occur, but we must recognise that at some point in history there will be a generation on earth that will be the last generation.
If not our generation; then possibly our children’s generation. With the rate of change and the escalation of disasters, I can certainly envisage Christ returning before my grandchildren reach retirement!
As Christians, we must arrive at the realisation that with the ‘shaking’ going on all around us, the return of Jesus could yet be in this generation!
Surely this global upheaval has our attention and is forcing us to consider some tough questions!
For mine, the key question has to be: - What if the hour of Christ’s return is in my own lifetime?
Let’s just imagine for a minute that we are close to Jesus’s return – His Second Coming!… How does that make you feel to consider that question?
Excited? Thrilled? Expectant?... Or terrified and anxious?
As I tried to picture the reality of Jesus actually returning, my honest first thoughts were: “Holy Cow!?! Are you for real? “
Matthew 22 says “I am coming soon”. If those in the first century thought Jesus was coming soon, surely we are so much closer to that Day!
Scripture suggests we should be expectant and looking forward to His return!
Revelation 19 states “The Bride says – Come!” … in other words, the Bride of Christ is meant to cry out expectantly “Come, Lord Jesus!”
Where is the hope that we are meant to have as followers of Jesus? What is that hope meant to be in, if not the return of Christ and the hope of eternity?
Whether there is a second wave of Covid-19; or more economic fallout leading to a major depression; or more earthquakes, or more wars, or even more pestilences… regardless of what lays ahead, Jesus states clearly “All these things must happen. Do not be alarmed” (Matthew 24).
I wonder what we have been learning about ourselves under these types of pressures? (The last few months will have already surfaced how we’ve coped - or not coped - with an uncertain future. For many of us, we missed the part where Jesus said: “All these things must happen. Do not be alarmed”!!)
Regardless of how we have responded in recent months to these pressures, we have to come to the realisation that this is actually our time to shine as believers in Jesus Christ! We have been given eternal promises that point to a great hope!
Moving forward, you and I do not get much of a say in what happens next regarding global disasters, but we do get a major say in how we choose to respond to whatever the future holds. We have been given a great opportunity to reflect our hope in a glorious God who has promised that He’s coming back to gather his children.
But Matthew 25 offers a salutary warning – it talks about foolish bridesmaids who lacked wisdom. They failed to ensure they had enough oil in their lamps and in the end they missed the return of the Bridegroom!
We must keep watch – for none of us knows the hour of His return.
And we also carry a responsibility to shine Christ’s love and witness to His truth to ‘whosever’ might respond during this window of spiritual awakening that is occurring right before us.
Some questions to leave with you that I have been pondering:
Am I ready for some hardship which could lay ahead?
Particularly if that hardship (persecution?) may lead to many lives won to Christ before the final harvest?
Am I willing to pray for a spiritual awakening?
How might I participate in offering hope to this lost and broken world?
Am I willing to pray for resilience in my heart, to be ready for such hardship?
Would I be prepared to suffer a few difficult years, to see a harvest won for Christ, that ushers in the return of our Lord?
If I really believed these were the last days, how would that change the way I live today?
I believe we’re closer to our Lord returning than we have ever been before in history. You could do worse than sit down with pen and paper and journal some honest reflections to the above questions that I have been asking of myself. (To be quite frank, my honest answers to those questions have surfaced issues I need to wrestle out with a Holy God! So I certainly have some ‘heart-homework’ to do! Why not give it a try and see what Father God may want to reveal as ‘heart-homework’ for you?)
Until next time, (…assuming Jesus doesn’t return in the next month!)
3 June 2020
A Much-Needed Shaking!
How should we be interpreting what God is up to throughout this pandemic?
What are you doing, Lord? Why have you allowed this inconvenient interruption? What is this all about?
I have to believe that a massive global disruption such as the one we are facing at present must be serving a higher unseen purpose. It has been my experience that God often uses disruption to surface what is really going on in our hearts.
So, if God uses disruption to address things in our hearts, it’s only reasonable to ask why?
I believe it’s because Father God is trying to recapture our hearts!
God is constantly pursuing our hearts, trying to get our attention. He is always disrupting, rescuing, redeeming and restoring the hearts of His children… and with a disruption of this size… well, God has certainly got our attention now! Let’s face it, everyone on the planet has been disrupted by this virus. God has finally got us asking some very important and needed questions.
I think at least part of the “Why Lord?” question can be answered from Hebrews 12:26-29: (italics mine): -
26 At that time his voice shook the earth, but now he has promised, ‘Once more I will shake not only the earth but also the heavens.’ 27 The words ‘once more’ indicate the removing of what can be shaken – that is, created things – so that what cannot be shaken may remain. 28 Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe…
I believe God is using this pandemic to shake us!
When God shakes us, He wants to remove what can be shaken – that is, created things (idols), so only what cannot be shaken may remain.
A wise Rabbi once stated: “Faith like Job’s cannot be shaken; because it is the result of having been shaken!”. Real faith can never truly be established without having first undergone some kind of shaking.
You see, when our ‘normal’ has been stripped from us like in this present season, that kind of ‘shaking’ reveals how self-focused we have become. It reveals things in our hearts that may need to be shaken out.
I had a water-skiing accident quite a few years back, where I tore my hamstring badly. It was a Grade 3 tear and it took something like seven or eight weeks to completely heal. It robbed me of my ability to ride my bike over summer, which meant I lost all the cycling fitness that I’d built up. I couldn’t do any exercise, I couldn’t get outside, nor could I enjoy the outdoors. The hamstring tear occurred right at the start of the Christmas break, so I lost two months of the year’s best weather. All I did was whinge and limp about. I wasn’t fun to be around. But that ‘disruption’ revealed a deeper layer of selfishness and self-focus that God wanted to dismantle in me. By the end of that summer, there were a few apologies that needed to be offered to those closest to me.
Disruption reveals what is really in our hearts.
Allow me to ask… What has this pandemic revealed about your heart in this period?
Sit with that question for a minute …
How anxious have we become and how stressed have we been? When Jesus says, “do not worry about tomorrow” (Matthew 6) - how successful have we been at trusting Him for the future during this season?
I wonder how many of us have turned to other comforters during this pandemic?
Alcohol sales have skyrocketed according to sales figures.
Paul Ninnes from ‘Real Talk Australia’ (a Christian organisation bringing positive input into Australian schools via its programs on sex, relationships and personal identity) stated that sadly, pornography websites were also registering some of their highest visits during the lockdown period.
Disruption and shaking reveals what is really in our hearts!
If I look around and assess the world I live in, it appears we have lost a great deal of our dependence on God. Honestly, I think we sometimes find more comfort on our devices in this ‘smartphone’ world, even to the degree that I wonder how much we really need God these days?
Think about it… we can book a plane flight from anywhere in the world on our mobile phone, and travel whenever and wherever we want! (Or at least you could a few weeks back!)
You can still order any kind of food and have it delivered to your door within the hour. What would you like? Korean? Indian? Chinese? Thai? Italian? Greek? You name it – it’s yours!
You can go shopping online and any product in the world can be delivered to your home within days (or maybe a few weeks is more realistic at the moment).
Think about our healthcare system. Now you can see a doctor online and have your prescription medicine posted to you without even leaving home! To be truthful, I am very grateful for such services, yet sadly I know I run too easily to a chemist rather than ask Father to heal me.
What about education? You drop your kids off at school and they are well cared for, but if they must stay at home they can learn online and not miss a beat. Anything can be researched on Google, and university degrees are available online. We are the most educated generation of all time.
Before the pandemic, how often did we feel pressed to pray for God to intervene or help? Why bother, when my smartphone can give me so many other answers or comforts to call upon!
When you compare this ‘age of comfort’, and what it has done to strip away our dependency on God, it could well be that a loving Father needed to disrupt us.
In the western world, we have become so acclimatised to getting everything we want - when we want it. With this comes a sense of entitlement. We expect to have these comforts, and we want everything to go our way all the time. When something doesn’t go our way - we can get very irritated! Just think about how you respond when your laptop takes more than a minute to start up? Or if the fast food drive-thru line up means you’ll have to sit in your car for an extra three minutes waiting for your take-away order to be completed? Or the person in front of you at the supermarket check-out is taking forever to find their credit card? Can you just feel your level of irritation rising at the thought of those situations? We are not a very patient people.
I’m in a role that doesn’t pay me a big salary – so I have often been guilty of placing more security at times in trying to pay off a home; or in bolstering my superannuation; or in believing the pension will “save” me … more so than a Holy God at times. Forgive me Father.
This pandemic has rocked the economies of the world. No pension fund is safe!
We needed this shake-up!
We have bowed to all these comforting idols in various forms and been completely unaware we’ve been doing it.
Pay attention to this passage from Ezekiel 14:1-7 NIV: (bold font & italics mine):
Some of the elders of Israel came to me and sat down in front of me. 2 Then the word of the Lord came to me: 3 ‘Son of man, these men have set up idols in their hearts and put wicked stumbling-blocks before their faces…
…5 I will do this to recapture the hearts of the people of Israel, who have all deserted me for their idols.” 6 ‘Therefore say to the people of Israel, “This is what the Sovereign Lord says: repent! Turn from your idols and renounce all your detestable practices!
I believe what the world is facing right now, is a Holy God using this circumstance to ‘recapture’ the hearts of His people! He literally states: “I will do this to recapture the hearts of the people… who have deserted me for their idols” (Vs 5).
In His amazing grace, God is trying to ‘woo’ us away from our idols and draw us back to dependence on Him.
I think as Christians we may have fallen asleep at the wheel. We’ve been enjoying too much Netflix; take-away food and false comforts; all the while whinging, whining, and complaining to God about our circumstance. If we are really honest – we would just like everything to go back to the way it was.
But I am not so sure the Lord is going to allow that to occur.
I think He is preparing us for tougher days that lay ahead as His return draws nearer. Are we ready?
My truthful answer: I don’t feel anywhere near ready!
But I for one, do feel a call to repentance: -
“Father, forgive me for my apathy… my sense of entitlement… forgive me for my worry and anxiety regarding the future… I repent of seeking comfort and security in ‘lesser lovers’ and not running to you, Oh Lord. Awake in me a deep need of You – gently shine your light on my wayward heart – forgive me, and release me from my bondage to the idols I have put my trust in. Allow me to see what it is You are doing in this crucial hour, so I may partner alongside you Father. I do not want to miss the kingdom opportunities you are opening up in this season. Prepare my heart so that I am ready”.
Until next time,
30 April 2020
When it's foggy - put your headlights on low beam!
What strange times we find ourselves in!
I thought I might just put a hold on the ‘Addiction series’ I have been running with, simply because it would be inappropriate not to address the predicament we all find ourselves in with this Covid-19 virus that has brought the world to its knees!
Wasn’t it amazing how quickly things changed?
One moment I’m on my way to the UK for the Ellel International Executive Leaders meeting… next minute I’m hurriedly changing flights to get back home before Australia closes its borders!
Upon returning, I had to self-isolate for 14 days. (The team very kindly set up Room 36 at the end of our Motel Units, behind the Conference Hall here at Ellel Sydney – God bless ‘em). Although I’d love to report that those two weeks were a blissful time of peace and quiet… it was quite the opposite! It became a manic period of multiple e-Meetings every day, discussing ways forward with my other Ellel Sydney leaders, or international leaders. And it seemed every decision we’d made the day before became irrelevant 24 hours later as Government restrictions kept changing! Eventually we just felt God nudging us to simply stop - especially when He gave us a specific scripture as a ministry which strongly suggested we needed to “pause”.
So, in obedience, we have closed down our Centre for at least four months, which will take us up to the end of July. Government regulations may yet have a say regarding whether we can or cannot re-open in August, but for now that is not for us to worry about. The more pressing question has been trying to grasp exactly how Father God wants us to spend this time of “social isolation” in which we find ourselves? It may well be a question you’ve been grappling with too!
No doubt for many of you, there could be possible job losses, the stress of having kids at home due to school closures and being stripped of all the normal ways we operate.
These times certainly contain enough disruption to surface our insecurities, make us a little more anxious… and perhaps lose the ability to see the way ahead?
Recently, I was driving home after dark having picked up some take-away for my family. I turned a corner on Menangle Road, and was surprised by the first fog of the Autumn season!
It caught me off guard, and I had to immediately slow down and drop the lights back to low beam to see better and negotiate the road safely. I recall pondering at the time how counter intuitive it is to go to low beam at night in foggy conditions to ensure you see more clearly!
Later that evening my phone ‘pinged’, alerting me to a new blog entry from Thom Gardner from Restored Life Ministries in the USA. Thom is a great friend of this ministry and a good friend personally. His blog title immediately caught my attention with the caption “Driving in the Fog”! How uncanny is that, I thought?!? I suspected Father God may have been weaving a golden thread here, and had a message waiting for me. So, I opened Thom’s blog…
In that article, he addressed this deadly worldwide pandemic with some great wisdom. His words helped me grasp what God was trying to show me through my own ‘driving in the fog’ experience. So, I’d now like to steal from Thom’s analogy to share something with you that I believe is helpful in this present trial.
Thom likened this pandemic to experiencing a disorienting fog that has robbed us of the ability to see too far ahead. He also reminded us that there is no certainty as to when this fog would lift and went on to unpack a story about his own dad giving him a driving lesson many years ago in similar foggy conditions.
Basically, that experience for Thom became a lesson in patience.
Driving in heavy fog requires you first slow down because your vision is severely limited. Heavy fog demands that you grip the steering wheel firmly, and lean forward peering into the translucent mist, straining for a clearer view.
In Thom’s story he recalls hearing his dad say: “when you drive in the fog at night, you will be tempted to put on your high beam lights, but that will actually cause things to be worse”.
The fog reflects the brighter lights back into your eyes, making it even harder to see ahead. Thom’s dad wisely suggested that he slow down, and leave the lights on low beam, so the dimmer headlights could shine under the fog and extend the view of the road ahead. That wisdom from Thom’s dad has stayed with him, and it’s very good advice for any of us to heed when a heavy fog sets in and the road ahead becomes unclear.
I know that at this present time I have felt pressured to ‘put on the high beam’ and race ahead trying to anticipate what is coming further down the road, or around the next bend, with very little foresight available.
But the Lord has called me out on my impatience!
I believe the Father’s word to me (and possibly many of us in this time) is simply this… with the “heavy fog” we find ourselves in now, our Heavenly Dad just wants us to slow down.
He is offering us an opportunity – if we would recognise it - to drop back to low beam, and drive at a slower pace, paying careful attention to all that is right in front of us.
In other words, let’s not look too far into the future… or try not to get too far ahead of ourselves by strategizing every move. Let’s learn in this season to trust Dad’s advice and look to see who is actually right in front us. Maybe pay a little more attention to those closest to us? Possibly spend time investing in your own family; or connecting with others via a phone call, Skype or FaceTime with whomever God is placing on your heart.
But it is also a time for some self-care.
I believe God may be providing a window for us all to experience a time of sabbath rest.
Coincidently (or not), John Eldredge’s latest book Get Your Life Back is turning out to be very prophetic at this time.
Joanne and I have been reading it together during this ‘pause’. It has proven to be quite the wake-up call! If you struggle with being driven; or find it difficult to slow down; or feel guilty for not producing as much as you feel you should be, then this book just may be of great benefit to your heart. I need this book in this season for my own heart! I highly recommend it to you as it will lead to a deeper experience of sabbath. You can find it here.
I’m beginning to see that Father God can achieve so much more through me when I enter true sabbath rest, than I ever could by working harder and faster. My attempts to “accelerate blindly into fog-ridden corners with high beams on” are beginning to feel less attractive.
Sitting quietly, I found myself reading this bible passage, which spoke to me afresh (Isaiah 30:15): -
This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says:
'In repentance and rest is your salvation,
in quietness and trust is your strength,
but you would have none of it.
I have needed to say sorry to God for being someone who “would have none of it” i.e. be still and quiet at this time, and not allow the Sovereign Lord to be my strength. My Heavenly Dad has been revealing this to me through things like Eldredge’s book, Thom’s blog, my own experience of driving in the fog and the subtle rebuke of Scripture.
I have to admit I’m a bit slow. But it’s starting to sink in. It’s time to put into practice that often-found salutation interspersed into many of the Psalms - the word ‘Selah’. Selah means to pause /reflect/ponder what God may be trying to say.
To steal from Thom one last time:
“At the risk of being redundant, switch to low beam… and slow down”
Take advantage of this opportunity provided by a Holy God to just pause and reflect… and let Eldredge’s book help you.
You will be so glad you did.
Until next time,
18 March 2020
"Breaking the addiction is not the end goal. The end goal is greater trust and intimacy with Abba Father".
Last month in considering this topic of addiction I made this curious statement:- The same action that gets us addicted in the first place… is the same means by which we must be rescued… ‘surrender’!
I went on to say that one path of surrender leads to the Father of Lies making us ‘slaves’ … the other path of surrender leads to Abba Father making us ‘sons’!
Think about it… take the example of a person who looks for comfort in alcohol, they surrendered to the bottle, when they could have chosen what was better and surrendered to Father God by taking their pain to Him to heal (instead of to the bottle to hide).
We rarely think of it in this way… but it is indeed idolatry every time we choose something else over and above God.
Every time we choose a false comfort over The Comforter… we are choosing a sinful and damaging practice rather than choosing a merciful, loving God who can restore.
Sadly, this act of idolatry is what gives the enemy his opportunity to gain a foothold.
I know it to be true by my own life experience that when I’ve run back to the same habit or false comfort in the past – all I am doing is strengthening the enemy’s grip over my willpower until it is no longer possible to say ‘no’ (regardless of what it is we run to - eg alcohol, or drugs, or sex, or food, or work, or whatever form the addiction takes). From a spiritual perspective, Gordon Dalbey suggests an addiction is a bit like spilling super glue. If you get to it quickly enough and wipe it up, hopefully it should clean up easily. But if you let it sit long enough and it then hardens, you will now need special tools to remove it!
The spiritual reality is much like that superglue analogy. Take for example 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 NIV which is insightful in this instance: “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ”.
In other words, sticking with the glue analogy (pardon the pun!), let’s just consider the implications of that biblical passage for a minute. Imagine enough time has lapsed for the spilt glue to harden (in other words, if you persist with the ungodly pattern of behaviour long enough - you will eventually become addicted). Then of course once we realise we’re in too deep, we try to stop the behaviour in our own human strength through willpower, or some special technique, usually to no avail! Why? Because we are fighting with feeble ‘weapons of the world’ that cannot remove the ‘hardened glue’. It has become a spiritual stronghold that needs to be demolished! And according to the Apostle Paul, it will require special tools (ie ‘divine power’) to demolish the stronghold we have become trapped in.
We know by experience that sheer willpower or human techniques will not be sufficient to free you from a gripping addiction (because it has now become a spiritual bondage!). You will now require a Deliverer (ie Jesus of Nazareth) to set you free using His supernatural tools (ie divine power)!
Nothing less will work.
What did you think was behind the habit or behaviour you have tried for so long to stop in your own strength? What else would it be if not a stronghold of the enemy? How many times have you said to yourself “I am giving this up right now!”, only to find the next time you are under pressure, or you feel like a failure, or become frustrated, or feel inadequate, or feel not good enough or ashamed… what do you do? You find yourself right back in that same false comfort/behaviour again! (Which then only further increases your sense of failure and shame!).
Sound like a familiar pattern to you?
It has become a prison. Your own efforts to free yourself are futile. You have arrived at a point where only a Holy God can liberate you.
One thing I have noticed about my own struggles is that it has been my poor choices that have got me into the pit initially, but it’s my pride that keeps me there! (I didn’t want others to know I was addicted to anything – I had to cover it all up and get out of it all by myself to save my pride. But it never worked!).
That’s why addictions beckon a deeper healing than simply just stopping the behaviour. Oh, and by the way… just being able to break the addiction is not the end goal here! (Does that surprise you to hear me say that?).
The actual end goal is gaining greater trust and intimacy with Abba Father.
Father God is the only true source of lasting love, joy, peace and comfort. If you are just trying to find a way to break the addiction and stop the ungodly behaviour, but have no intention of deepening your trust and intimacy with your Heavenly Father… then not only have you missed the most crucial point altogether… you may also miss out on getting healed and truly set free.
Breaking the addiction is not the end goal. The end goal is greater trust and intimacy with Abba Father - who will then empower you to overcome the spiritual stronghold behind the addiction.
The only true antidote to addiction is the saving grace of our Holy God who alone can liberate us.
Maybe next month we can explore a little deeper some of these challenging concepts I’m raising here… Actually if some of my above statements are stirring something within you, I’d like to recommend you write out how you are feeling… or write down the questions that are being raised in your heart right at this minute (especially when you read something like: ‘Breaking the addiction is not the end goal… The end goal is greater trust and intimacy with Abba Father’ – what stirs when you read that?).
I’m hoping I might be able to answer the valid questions you raise as we go long in this series as we look deeper into addiction.
Until next time,
6th February 2020
What is it that we are afraid to face or deal with? And why?
Let me ask … when pressure comes on you, what habit, escape, comfort or way of ‘busyness’ do you turn to (rather than go to Father God for comfort and help?).
Whether we are prepared to admit it or not, most of us are addicted to something. If you’re unsure about that, ponder on this definition of addiction from Gordon Dalbey:
“An addiction is something you do consistently to avoid facing the truth about yourself.”
Read and linger over that statement a few times… allow it to really sink in.
In order to identify what we’re addicted to, and how to be free of those addictions, we will need to answer Dalbey’s question – honestly. What do we run to consistently to avoid facing the truth about ourselves? And what is the truth about ourselves that we are running from? What is it that we are afraid to face or deal with? Why?
My understanding of how essential those questions are to this topic is personal. I have learned that answering them honestly gave me freedom from those things that enslaved me, and it’s that personal experience that has helped me invest into many others through this ministry that I serve.
Two key men have been particularly helpful with the wisdom they have imparted on this topic.
The first is obviously Gordon Dalbey. His books have changed my life, and heavily influenced how I teach. I am also blessed that Gordon has been a personal friend and mentor who has invested into me from time to time over the last decade or more – something for which I am very thankful. I highly recommend his book Fight Like a Man where he unpacks many powerful truths on this key subject of addiction - in particular how shame impacts on addictions.
The other man who has influenced me greatly on this subject is Gerald May. Whilst I’ve never had the privilege to meet him, he has ‘passively’ mentored me through his excellent book Addiction and Grace, which carries powerful insights.
What I’ll share with you from here on will draw significantly from both men and these books, as well as my own experience in ministry here at Ellel Ministries.
For most people who come to us trapped in some form of addiction, they are not always just held captive by what we might refer to as a ‘classic addiction’ like alcohol, nicotine, drugs, sex or food. Addiction can have many faces, especially if it is something we are substituting to avoid letting God reveal a deeper level truth about ourselves that we have never wanted to face.
What are some other examples of addiction? You can be addicted to another person – this is called co-dependency. You can be addicted to a style of music, to a sport or activity, or to work. Remember - the addiction will be something you do consistently to avoid facing the truth about yourself.
If we dig deep enough, we usually find a behaviour or habit that we’ve allowed to become ingrained into our personality - like a besetting sin. That behaviour or substance becomes our substitute for going to a Holy God for true comfort. Eventually, if you go to that habit or comfort often enough, you will lose your ability to say ‘no’ to that pattern of behaviour.
You will find yourself trapped. You will have been ‘mastered’ by it, as the Apostle Paul would describe it. A better term might be ‘enslaved’.
You have in fact, become an addict.
In Webster’s dictionary it notes that the word addict comes from two Latin roots, the preposition ‘ad’, meaning “toward,” and the verb ‘dicere’, meaning “to speak”. Join the two together and we get “addicere” which means “to speak toward,” or as in Webster’s definition: “to give assent, to give [oneself] up to a [a strong habit].”
If we’ve “given oneself up to a strong habit”, we have actually ‘given assent’ (approval, sanction, agreement or power) to something in our lives. We have given permission for that habit or false comfort to have a prominent place in our lives - a permission we never should have given to fill a void that only a Holy God was meant to fill.
In other words, if a habit or false comfort is given prominent place in our life over and above God, we end up elevating that habit or false comfort (i.e. we give ‘assent’ to that habit) above the throne of God! We in effect make the habit more important than Him. When we do that. we break the 1st Commandment:
‘Thou shalt have no other gods before me’ (Exodus 20:3 NIV).
In verse 5 in Exodus 20 it adds this: “You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God”.
Friends, whenever I break this commandment, I am committing idolatry - and any form of idol worship will always get me into a truckload of trouble!
However, the bigger concern for God isn’t that we’ve committed the sin of idolatry – it’s that we have chosen to run to a ‘lesser lover’ for the comfort we need.
It breaks God’s heart when we run to such ‘lesser lovers’ rather than the One True Lover of our Soul! We’re rejecting Him, settling for a practice that places us in bondage. If it gets out of hand, it could eventually destroy us and those closest to us. Consider alcoholism, gambling debt and sexual addictions that lead to adultery and family break-up.
Just pause for a minute and consider … a fight with your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend, a relationship breakup, a scolding from a boss, when you feel like a failure, suffer a betrayal, feel rejected … whenever life goes pear-shaped, or calamity and despair descend, what do you do? Often the first thing we run to is some form of false comfort, like getting busy at work, alcohol, chocolate or pornography, etc.
Whenever I responded like that, you could hardly say I was taking my issue or my pain to God to seek His comfort, could you?
In fact, when life’s pressures mount and I willingly (rebelliously?) choose to run to ‘something else’, rather than run to Abba Father, I am choosing something else over and above Him.
I am bowing to an idol.
I am trusting in something other than Father God to rescue me, or take my pain away. That is exactly what the enemy is depending on, because that is the “hook” upon which he gets me addicted.
Every time I run to something else for comfort other than God, what I am doing is really a surrender of sorts. Any time we surrender to a false comfort of the enemy, there is usually a snare waiting to trap us.
Romans 6:16 NIV states Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey?
To surrender to an ungodly habit or false comfort is to ‘offer yourselves… as obedient slaves’ and as a result, we fall into the enemy’s clutches. All because we surrendered to the enemy’s ploy of false comfort – in whatever form that takes for us – and we refused to receive true comfort from “The Comforter”.
Curiously, the same action that gets us addicted in the first place, is the same means by which we must be rescued - surrender!
One path of surrender leads the ‘Father of Lies’ (Satan) turning us into ‘slaves’ and the other path of surrender leads to Abba Father making us ‘sons’.
As always – God lets us make the choice.
Do we want to remain enslaved? Or do we want to walk into our true inheritance as sons and daughters of the Most High God?
If you’re willing to explore the question “Am I doing something consistently just to avoid facing the truth about myself?”, then I would want to encourage you that we have a good Father waiting to break the chains of bondage to our addictions – and more importantly, reveal to us how precious we are to Him.
It all begins with just an admission, that the idols we have bowed to are too powerful for us to overcome in our own strength. We are going to need Abba Father to set us free.
I’m considering unpacking more of this teaching centred around addictions over future blog articles. I’m not sure how far the Lord will lead me in this – I’d love to bring an online course on addictions this year - but that’s all part of the adventure of being a son, asking Him “What’s next Papa?”
Until next time,
16th January 2020
Happy New Year!
Well, I’m not sure how you spent your New Year’s Day, but Joanne and I were looking forward to nine days alone starting on January 1st – that’s nine days without any kids! (We had a rare window to ourselves as our younger children were all enjoying holidays with older siblings or good friends we trusted - it’s been a quite a while since an opportunity like this was on the horizon, let me tell ya!)
But sadly, there were some unexpected interruptions.
We spent Day 1 and Day 2 hiding and choking in a smoke riddled Snowy Mountains location (it was that bad, the smoke alarms were going off in our motel room). Eventually, as the situation worsened, all holiday makers and residents were evacuated from that region on our third day due to the threat of a ‘megablaze’ approaching the Kosciuszko National Park. Take a glance at the satellite image at left showing the scale of the smoke-trail created by the fires on Australia’s south-eastern seaboard – it covers the Tasman Sea and the whole South Island of New Zealand! (Apologies to our Kiwi mates).
In an attempt to find clean air for the remainder of our time away, we scanned the Air Index Quality Apps, only to discover that the nearest clean air was up in Northern New South Wales. So, after a day driving home to Gilbulla and an overnight stay, we continued the next day driving up north to Coffs Harbour - just so we could breathe!
And that left us with just four nights of our time together.
After initially feeling a little robbed, we eventually found a lovely rhythm at Coffs Harbour. We enjoyed beach walks, cycling and surf swims and devoured freshly bought king prawns by the water’s edge. Nice!
To be honest, the main reason for our change in heart wasn’t really the location change, it was a heart change. We simply made the decision not to whinge, but instead invite God into our situation. Joanne and I spent time just praying… pausing… sitting quietly, thanking a Holy God for all we have been blessed with. We deliberately worked at finding more of God in everything we did.
I can assure you that nothing, absolutely nothing will bring you more joy than inviting the presence of a Holy God into everything you do – even your interrupted and changing circumstances.
Turning our hearts towards God and inviting Him to participate in even our most mundane activities is profound – because His presence always turns everything around!
It is a practice I want to actively engage in far more often in the days ahead (this is starting to sound like a New Year’s resolution!) I want to invite Abba Father into absolutely everything I do. If we were only to turn our hearts regularly toward Him and invite His presence into our daily routines, it would change forever how we respond when things don’t go right for us.
This is a truth from which all others flow… learning to invite a loving Father into every hour of our day awakens something in our spirit that allows us to recognise the simple “gifts” God wants to lavish upon us in every situation!
I saw one recent example in the Snowy Mountains. When I could still see (!) I noticed how the wildflowers on the escarpments track the course of the sun through the sky, slowly turning to face the warm passing sun. I thought only sunflowers did that! It’s such a sweet act of humble adoration. I’m beginning to see such acts in creation as invitations to worship the God who is the Author of all natural beauty. How does that great old ‘Hymn of Joy’ go?... “Hearts unfold like flowers before thee – opening to the sun above”.
I’m convinced, if I look hard enough, that every moment enjoying creation will lead me to worship.
When we pin our respite on some special holiday or time away, it’s so easy to allow things to “tick you off” when your expectations aren’t met. But as my wife reminded me, even if the entire nine days had been stripped from us, we have nothing to complain about. We are so blessed.
I’m trying to live in that space more often these days. It is very easy to fall into a sense of entitlement where we feel we are owed something. But, I find those who live with such a sense of entitlement to be very ungrateful people.
I do not want to be someone who is constantly grumbling every time something doesn’t go my way.
Let’s face it - circumstances change. The fires have shown us that. When they do - invite God to show you His silver lining.
Praying you all have an incredible 2020.
Until next time,
With thanks to Himawari 8 for satellite image of smoke on 1 January 2020
6th December 2019
I’ve decided this summer I’m going to chase Sabbath, instead of big trout. I wonder what you’re going to do for your heart this Christmas/New Year break?
I’m guessing you’re bracing yourself for the family reunions that will occur around the Christmas Dinner table in a few weeks time (and dealing with the tensions that can come with family Christmas gatherings!). You might also be beginning to consider what New Year’s resolutions might sound impressive to announce to friends on the 1st January. It's right about here I’d like to step in as an advocate for your heart —which probably needs some advocating for, if you’re like most adults. The pace of life, the constant demands, the drone of media coming our way make any type of kindness for our heart quite hard to come by.
Our lives are so full, we have lost track of our inner-world long ago.
Thus, my hope for this final letter of 2019 is to re-connect you with your own heart and the heart of God. That’s Ellel’s global motto by the way:- “Bringing the heart of God to the heart of man."
You’ll often hear us teach that we all have a human spirit. It is a lovely gift from God. Your spirit is what enables you to enjoy your life, to receive life from Holy Spirit! When you find yourself laughing at something in a carefree way, that’s your spirit feeling happy. When you are moved deeply by someone else’s story, that’s your spirit being moved. When beauty makes you worship, when stillness allows you to exhale deeply, that’s your spirit doing well. Your human spirit is an extraordinary gift from God. And it needs some care.
In Proverbs 20:27 it says “The lamp of the Lord searches the spirit of a man; it searches out his inmost being”… Father God is always searching us out, looking for ways He can refresh and enliven our human spirit. But we seem far more gifted at avoiding the subtle advances of our true Father, and instead losing our hearts in the mad rush of life; the unrelenting pressure, the hurry, worry, fear and lack of any real space to simply just be human again.
So ... what will you do this summer to be kind to your inmost being? Where is your sabbath going to come from?
To clarify, family “visits” do not count as sabbath or “soul care”. I understand the need for family visits, they play an important role in our relational networks. But they are not sabbath, nor even close to a real vacation, for the simple reason that they require from us – we have to give out. Often, they require a great deal. When we enter the gravitational field of family visits, we encounter all the dynamics of family “ecosystems”—everyone’s brokenness, their demands, their disappointments, and the controlling way they operate often with less than helpful advice. It’s just the way it is in a broken world. I’m not saying don’t do family visits and family Christmas dinners… I’m simply trying to point out that they do not qualify as sabbath rest.
Stop and check - what’s the condition of your heart when you return from a week with family? Don’t you typically say to yourself, “Man, that was tough!” And if you could choose between the obligatory family visit, or two weeks in Fiji, which does your heart leap at?
Yeah... I’d pick Fiji too!
Rushing out the door to get to some destination where you go-go-go for an all-out holiday can be loads of fun, but they do not count for sabbath either. Again—notice the condition of your heart when you get back and return to work; you’re exhausted; you need caffeine and Red Bull just to keep going.
You shall know them by their fruits.
Allow me to share personally… I am learning as I grow older that what my heart really needs is space. I need to have permission to be still. I need to just let myself stop - and I’m the only one who can really provide that permission. I have to give myself permission to have no agenda, no deadlines, no one to take care of, or come through for, and certainly ensuring there is no ministry!
I may take my fly fishing gear, but there’s no guarantee I will use it that often - unless my leisurely evenings on a stream or down by the lake connect me more to the heart of God. As my spirit begins to catch up with my body, and I finally enter true rest - I suddenly realise that what my heart needed was not more excitement and fun catching big brown trout… what my heart needed was quiet. Ease. A very slow pace. I find these days I end up hardly fishing anywhere near as often as I used to when we get away for our summer breaks. Initially, missing out on the fishing and the fun used to feel like a disappointment - but I am coming to see it more now as a rescue.
This is very simple really … sabbath makes you feel rested. It makes you feel renewed. It “restores your soul”, to quote the famous Psalm.
Sabbath reconnects you to the God you love and allows you time to linger with Him, unhurried. It also reconnects you with your own heart, allowing you to feel, to think about stuff you normally don’t get to think about.
By its nature, sabbath was never meant to be an adrenaline experience. It’s meant to be a time where we sense the delight of a Holy God in how He sees us; to pause long enough to allow creation to speak to us.
So, as you make your summer plans, how will you factor in your sabbath?
It doesn’t have to be that amazing getaway in Fiji - thank goodness, have you seen the cost of flights and accommodation for a family to go to Fiji?! Sabbath is so much more available and more attainable. It can be a choice to simply set aside evenings every week over the Christmas/New Year break, where all you do is sit on the porch and enjoy the sunset. Or let the breeze caress your face. Or just do absolutely nothing at all… and get to be human again.
Sabbath can be long walks in the sand at the beach; or a park, or a woodland. It’s meant to be slow, kind, easy, simple. Sabbath walks let you notice flowers, birds, a stream—all the things we normally rush past. (My wife Joanne has taught me this).
Nothing in this mad world is going to encourage you to plan and protect sabbath. It’s something you’ll have to choose to do, choose to fight for. But it’s utterly worth it, I promise.
So, before you finish reading this and go on with the dozen other things currently demanding your attention, stay with this question for ten minutes … What will you do for sabbath this summer?
Write it down.
Block it out in your calendar.
Then do it.
Until next year,
14th November 2019
Would you be willing to take the lowest seat at the table?
Many older men I have turned to for wisdom, have all shared one similar sentiment in their conversations with me that has felt like heresy when I heard them share it:
I used to feel something defensive rise up in me. I would get seriously offended at hearing that! I even remember thinking: “This couldn’t possibly be true! Surely, I have to be doing something!?! Something that gets me to the end goal as fast as possible!
I honestly used to believe that to be of any real value to the kingdom, I needed to be doing something significant.
It has been years since those conversations. Slowly, through one painful experience after another, through observations of my peers and their failures, plus the observation of the culture around me, this piece of counsel has proven to be absolute truth.
In fact, it’s me that now advises others:
Somewhere deep in the core of my heart as a man, the idea of ‘no shortcuts’ has moved from a being a painful disruption I did not want to hear, to an absolute truth.
If everyone could just embrace this truth, it would utterly re-orient how we see, interpret and experience what Father God is trying to do in our lives to grow us.
Few have said it better than the co-founder of ‘The North Face’ clothing company, Douglas Tompkins, in the great documentary 180 Degrees South. Tompkins reflects on how the process of conquering Mt. Everest today has been compromised (or short-cutted). He basically says that if you compromise the process of hardship that naturally comes with such an epic adventure - by paying others to do all of the hard work for you - there will no benefit to your growth as a person, or to the development of your character… because the process has been compromised.
Tompkins’s message is blunt, but clear: “Don’t compromise the process!”
I mentioned in last month’s blog about Morgan Snyder of Ransomed Heart Ministries, who suggests we all need a Decade of Excavation in order to allow Father God to develop us into whole and mature saints.
Morgan Snyder adds to this already significant challenge by offering this disruptive question:
“Would you be willing to take the lowest seat at the table… until there is no other seat to take?”
Morgan has struck on a biblical principle here. In Proverbs 25:6 it says ‘do not exalt yourself in the king’s presence and do not claim a place among great men. It is better for him to say, “come up here”’.
Perhaps in order to line up a little more with Scripture, we could re-word Morgan’s challenging question to read as follows: “Would you be willing to take the lowest seat at the table – until you are called to ‘come up here’?”
Would you be prepared to always choose the lower position, in every situation, rather than elevate yourself – until God chooses to elevate you?
It might take the intervention and wisdom of older mentors to help you eventually see the value in remaining at the lowest seat. However, if you can do that for a Decade, trust me … when Father God promotes you - you will be ready.
Until next time,
17th October 2019
What does it look like for a us to go on a journey of restoration that leads to life?
For my blog this month I’d like to unpack what motivated us to create Ellel Sydney’s men’s event called ENTRUSTED (which is quite different to our PROVEN men’s event which we have run in past years).
With PROVEN, we examined John Eldredge’s ‘6 Stages of the Masculine Journey’ and explored what happens when men are robbed of being properly nurtured, trained and matured into each of those key stages of manhood. Moreover, PROVEN highlighted that as men we have been wounded, and demonstrated we have a Father in Heaven who wants to heal us.
On the other hand, ENTRUSTED is a new event. It focuses on answering this key question: ‘What does it look like for a man to go on a journey of restoration that leads to life?’
Most of us men at some point carried hopes and aspirations that we could change the world. Make a real difference. Whatever our dreams as younger boys were, over time our passion and vision got worn down by the river of time, and the weight of life’s responsibility.
There is a progression that a man’s life often follows… when younger we meet the woman of our dreams and get married. The kids come along, there’s a mortgage to be paid and the pressure to perform at work keeps growing. With all these real burdens pressing in, we suddenly find all our margins have disappeared, and it takes everything we’ve got just to hold on and keep our head above water.
Eventually life’s pressures begin to find the ‘unfinished’ places within us … cracks appear in our marriage, we lose connection with our children, our spiritual growth comes to a halt… and we begin to sink. (But we don’t tell anyone! We don’t like to be too vulnerable – especially with other men – so we tend to struggle on and try to figure it out on our own).
Then comes the temptation of all the false comforts that lie to us with the promise: “I will lessen your pain!”. We turn to the bottle, or porn, or something else). Our attempts to ‘self-medicate’ are really just ways to mask our sense of failure, and feelings of inadequacy.
Sadly, if we arrive at this end of the funnel, most us either become passive, angry, addicted, or emotionally shutdown (or all the above!). At this point, you’d think a man would be ready to put his hand up and ask for help - but the statistics suggest otherwise.
If we’re honest, the truth is that we rarely want to deal with what blocks us from becoming the men we want to be. We don’t particularly like how we’re behaving, but it just doesn’t feel safe to go anywhere near the deeper belief systems that drive those unwanted behaviours.
The first key a man must realise is that he cannot make this journey alone. Help is available. There is a Father in Heaven who has made a way, and there are other men out there who also want to get real. It’s more than possible to be re-oriented to find the ‘Ancient Path’ as the Scriptures call it - the narrow road, the road less travelled.
This cycle I described above was a ‘roundabout’ I was personally very familiar with! I needed other men to help me out of the pit I had found myself in. ENTRUSTED was designed as an event to help a man know there is a way to turn all of this around. I just have to educate men that such a journey will take a little longer than they’d like.
For most of us, we’ve been hoping to find a ‘fast track program’ to greater maturity and wholeness, but there’s no getting round the fact it takes time to grow an Oak Tree.
So, if we accept the truth that attaining maturity takes more time than we’d like to admit, we are then forced to ask this question:
“What if God is inviting us to enter an extended season of being apprenticed along this ancient path… this narrow road that leads to life?”.
And what if as part of this invitation, Abba Father desires we learn how to do that with trusted brothers at our side?
Morgan Snyder from Ransomed Heart Ministries would suggest that as men, we need to commit to a ‘Decade of Excavation’.
I tend to agree with him.
It is from all this that ENTRUSTED was born. We wanted to offer a men’s event for those guys who don’t want to mess around any longer, those who are now ready and willing to allow Abba Father to re-set their compass towards true north and begin a journey of excavation and rebuilding.
Dallas Willard stated: “The most important thing about a man, is not what he does, but who he becomes”.
Men, if you’re heart’s desire is to become more - there is a way. There is a path.
ENTRUSTED may just have the answers you’ve been searching for.
Until next time,
13th September 2019
THE IN BETWEEN MOMENTS
This month I would like to write about something a little different and take a break from the Fathering and Sonship series (… which may be coming to a close in the next few months anyway, unless Father God provides new inspiration for that series).
I’ve just arrived in Canada to spend some time with my two sons, Daniel and Ben and their families, before heading to the UK for key Ellel International Executive meetings.
The pace of running an Ellel Centre with its administrative, pastoral and fiscal stresses are quite enough for any man to deal with… but before I arrive at Ellel Grange in England and have to face the added stresses that come with making key decisions necessary for this ministry on a global scale… I just needed a bit of space.
The thought of jumping on a plane and going straight from my present pressures - to a week of heavy-duty meetings trying to solve the problems of the ministry on an international scale, seemed a bit too much for my heart to handle. (There is a fair amount going on locally and even more internationally!). My heart needed my Heavenly Dad to help me transition in a slightly kinder way before the intensity of the Executive Meetings get underway. So, to be able to step aside for a couple of days and visit family and play with grandchildren has been Father God’s gift to me – which is allowing a far more gracious transition.
I think John Eldredge has termed it the “In Between Times”.
We are so accustomed to going hard and fast in our modern world, we seemed to overlook in the Gospels all the “in-between” times when Christ and his followers were walking from one town to another.
For example, when John 1:43 states, “The next day Jesus decided to leave for Galilee” … we project our own pace upon it, not realizing it took the boys three days by foot to get there! Three days just strolling along, talking, sharing the silent beauty, the pauses for lunch; or to drink from a well. Imagine the campfires in the evening and the discussions; laughter and rich conversations that would have taken place.
Christ and his Disciples don’t move immediately from one dramatic story to another like we try to do - there appears to be “down time”, which is deliberate transition time between those demands. Time to process what had happened; time to catch their breath, process, and realign before the next kingdom encounter.
That to me seemed to be the pace Jesus felt was reasonable for people engaged in important ministry pressures. (I think Jesus would agree that pace of life would be better for all of us regardless of our vocation). Those who truly want to walk a life with God need to prioritise such “In Between” moments to survive the pressures of this life. What I’m suggesting might almost feel as though it needs to be categorized as “holiday” time… because if we are honest, those are the only periods we allow ourselves a stroll, a lingering lunch, a campfire conversation. But maybe there is a way we can take just small moments to breathe between key tasks.
In today’s highly paced and stressful world – we try and keep up to its demands without any such intervals or transitional moments. The type of ‘momentary space’ that our soul requires before we charge into the next job.
We go from a tender conversation with a child at home about their dreams and aspirations, to a frustrating phone call with a telecommunications company, as we prepare the next weekend’s teaching content, followed by a quick chat with a fellow worker about broken pipes that need mending, then go straight into a series of meetings (during which we multitask by trying to bang out some emails and texts!), then make surprise arrangements for our child’s birthday, promise to do something for a boss we just can’t say no to, and then show up late for dinner with the family!
And we wonder why we have a hard time finding God!?!
We are forcing ourselves through multiple gear-changes each day, each hour… then after years of this, we wonder why we aren’t even sure what to say when a friend genuinely inquires, “How are you?” (Because we don’t really know. We aren’t sure what we feel anymore. We live at one speed: Flat-out!)
My goodness... no one was ever meant to live like this.
The human spirit is a vessel that God alone can fill. He cannot fill that vessel if it is wrung out, twisted and stressed. Your hands cannot receive a gift while they are still tightly clenched holding onto something else.
Which brings us to how important transitions are… But let me first say we can’t just walk away from our jobs for a week’s holiday in Fiji every time we get stressed. But we can learn to cultivate the grace of small transitions in your life— transitions that can just be a brief pause for a few minutes to breathe and smell the roses – before tackling the next task.
You have to admit that simply blasting from one thing to the next will cause us to have a limited shelf life!
It appears to me that in the Gospels, it was during those transition times the disciples got Jesus to themselves; the intimacy was in those moments. There is a sweetness to the down time, even if it’s just a few brief moments that our heart can savour before moving onto the next item on the ‘To Do’ list.
I believe we can find more of Father God in those “In Between” moments if we become serious about it. What I’m really trying to suggest is that we deliberately create space for such intentional transitions.
I’m trying to do this more—because my heart needs it—to just pause after I hang up the phone and then spend a minute unpacking that call with Abba; before I turn right back to make another call; or check the next email… I need to stop and look out the window and take in the beauty for a minute; to pause after one meeting ends for a moment and ask Father how He thought that meeting went, before I race to the next meeting. To take my time strolling home at the end of the day and just stop for a short while and invite God into a brief conversation about the whole day - before I go inside to greet family and invest in those closest to me.
Simply unplugging from some of our social media will create more room for the natural transitions in every day.
If you have five minutes waiting time, make a conscious choice not to look at your phone. Just...be.
I was at a Motor Registry Office not long back, waiting for my 17 year old son to complete his driving test. Realizing it was going to take 45 minutes before he and his testing officer returned, I instinctively reached for my phone. Then I stopped, and simply chose to sit. Look around. Breathe a little. People watch. It certainly took some discipline to stay off my phone. But it became a valuable space where Father God could connect with my heart.
Eldredge would say accurately: “We truly don’t know what to do with “down time” any more” … Sadly he’s right. We have to re-train ourselves.
I plan to continue trying to train myself to become better at taking just a few moments between key tasks: - by walking out to get a coffee; or a glass of water; or outside into the sunshine – just for a few brief moments. I’m hoping it will do wonders for my soul, and position me better to tackle the next task.
But for now, I’m going to go enjoy my extended “In Between Moment” by building a fort with my three year old granddaughter in the living room of my son’s home - before I have to turn my attention to the Executive Meetings that await me.
How are you going to plan your in between moments?
Until next time,
15th August 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation (Pt 16)
The Bible clearly links identity to sonship! It reveals that the question of “Who am I?” can be answered through good Fathering.
Just about every kid has heard of David and Goliath (even those with no church background) … it’s a familiar story found in the Old Testament. In that story, after David defeated Goliath, the very first question on the lips of King Saul was to ask the identity of this warrior. Who did this kid belong to? I find it interesting that Saul sought to know his lineage, in order to know more about his identity and who he was! The direct question that King Saul demanded an answer for, was ‘whose son he was’?
Clearly, King Saul believed that by knowing who someone’s father was, and what lineage they came from would reveal something of who they were, and about their identity.
1 Samuel 17:54-58
54 David took the Philistine’s head and brought it to Jerusalem; he put the Philistine’s weapons in his own tent.
55 As Saul watched David going out to meet the Philistine, he said to Abner, commander of the army, ‘Abner, whose son is that young man?’
Abner replied, ‘As surely as you live, Your Majesty, I don’t know.’
56 The king said, ‘Find out whose son this young man is.’
57 As soon as David returned from killing the Philistine, Abner took him and brought him before Saul, with David still holding the Philistine’s head.
58 ‘Whose son are you, young man?’ Saul asked him.
David said, ‘I am the son of your servant Jesse of Bethlehem.’
To be someone’s son is to have value, heritage, worth and identity.
The Bible here clearly links identity to sonship! It demonstrates that the question of “Who am I?” can be answered through good Fathering.
In another bible story, this time from the New Testament, we find the Pharisees were attempting again to trap Jesus. During the discourse in Matthew Chapter 22, Jesus involved himself in the conversation by asking them this question: “Whose son do you think I am?”
42 ‘What do you think about the Messiah? Whose son is he?’
‘The son of David,’ they replied.
He said to them, ‘How is it then that David, speaking by the Spirit, calls him “Lord”? For he says,
44 ‘“The Lord said to my Lord: ‘Sit at my right hand until I put your enemies under your feet.’”
45 If then David calls him “Lord”, how can he be his son?’ 46 No one could say a word in reply, and from that day on no one dared to ask him any more questions.
Notice how Jesus asks the question… He does not ask them directly who they think He is, because they have said in the past what they thought of that. (NB in they said to Jesus, “We are not born of fornication; we have one father, God.” The direct implication here was that they thought Jesus was born of fornication – referring to the fact that Jesus’s mother, Mary, fell pregnant out of wedlock. The Pharisees clearly could never imagine anything such as the Redeemer coming from the act of fornication… (But Mary never participated in such behaviour. Mary conceived when she was overshadowed by the power of the Holy Spirit – thus, the Christ was born of a virgin - as the Creeds declare). But the real point I want to draw out here, is that by referencing Jesus as ‘born of fornication’ – the Pharisees were labelling Jesus as illegitimate.
And that is exactly what the enemy does… he attacks our identity! He calls our ‘sonship' into question. Worse, he labels us as ‘illegitimate’ too!
So, what does Jesus do when His identity is attacked in this way?
Jesus pointed out (in the above verse from Matthew 22) that David called the Messiah his Lord, before the Messiah had become His son. This puzzled the Pharisees. How could that be?
There is only one way that could be. The Christ could not be a mere man. The Christ existed prior to David and was his Lord, yet the Christ also had to be a direct descendent of David, according to Scripture. That is exactly what Jesus claimed of Himself, that He existed prior to becoming a man, and was in fact equal with God. This comes up in several places. One of the most direct is where Jesus tells them, using the very same name God gave for Himself when addressing Moses.
Moses asked who he would tell the Egyptians was sending Him, and God said, “I AM WHO I AM,” tell them “I AM has sent [you]” (). Jesus was referencing this passage in John 8:58, to demonstrate that He existed prior not only to David, but Abraham as well. Because Jesus is the great “I AM”!
Furthermore, God had to enter this world in the flesh – ie God incarnate. That is how Jesus existed before and after David. He existed before as the pre-incarnate God; then when born of the Virgin Mary, Jesus came into this world via the lineage of David – as God in the flesh. That is how David could call the Messiah his Lord, before the Messiah had become His son.
The Christ could not be just mere man. He must also be God - who became a man! God had become flesh. Immanuel, God in human form was walking amongst them! The promise of redemption was unfolding before their very eyes…. But all they could do was call Jesus a bastard!
The bottomline? The Pharisees accused Jesus of being illegitimate; and He responded by letting them know that He was their God – He was the Great “I AM”!
So how do we respond when our identity is assaulted?
Are there days when you feel illegitimate, unworthy, unwanted and unvalued? That is usually evidence the enemy has done his job well of robbing you of your true identity…
Christ knows what it is to have his worth and value attacked. Remember - in the Pharisee’s eyes Jesus was just ‘born of fornication’!
But Jesus knew who He was. He drew strength whilst on earth, by regularly and deliberately spending time with his Father; and Jesus’s Father also happens to be our true Father.
So even if our own dads were not able to father us in all of the ways our hearts needed, Jesus went to a lot of trouble to introduce us to a ‘Dad’ who wants to call us ‘son’ or ‘daughter’.
There’s no need for any one of us to remain illegitimate.
Those who choose to follow the One True God automatically become sons and daughters, and we are grafted-in to the Family of God.
As for me, I have come to learn that I am a beloved son of the Great “I AM”. I trust you can find a way to believe that is also true for you!
Until next time,
17th July 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation (Pt 15)
The Biblical pathway to understanding how to become a good “father” is through learning how to first become a good “son”.
Last month I mentioned a story I wanted to share… (I might actually share two stories).
The first story centres around a man in his early twenties who was part of a Church I worked for many years ago. This young guy was very genuine in his desire to become the best possible husband and dad he could be in the future. The problem was, he refused to submit to any kind of authority. Whether it was at work, at church, anywhere – he would not come under any kind of authority. When his employer wanted him to do a task a certain way, he always knew better. When his pastor offered advice regarding key areas of his life - again, he knew better. And he also refused to do any of the house cleaning tasks that his house mates asked him to do.
Overall, this young man really had no intention of submitting to anyone.
Subsequently, he managed to avoid every way Abba Father attempted to mature him as a “son” under the mentoring and “fathering” of other key figures God had placed in his life. Despite this, he fully believed he’d one day just become this great husband to a future wife, and a brilliant father figure to his kids.
Sadly, (and not surprisingly) that is not how things played out.
That young man lost that job I referred to - you cannot keep saying ‘no’ to your bosses and expect to remain employed! Today, he is in his mid-30’s and works as a ‘casual’ in a part-time job. He no longer attends church anywhere and now lives an untidy life as a “Fortnite” addicted (online game) bachelor, who has been unable to remain in a long-term relationship.
That young man’s story reminds me a lot of my own story… his path could easily have become my own!
You see, I thought I had all the answers too. Thankfully, things got a lot worse for me. And that was my saving grace, because it broke the arrogance over my life. At that point, instead of continuing to believe I had all the answers, I started asking a different set of questions!
Questions such as:
“Abba Father what am I not learning here?”
“What needs to change in me Father God, that I cannot see?”
“Is there something unholy that needs to be dismantled in me, Lord?”.
Eventually, I found some key men whom I learned to trust as authority figures in my life. In coming under their authority and allowing them to begin ‘fathering’ me, I slowly began to grow.
For many men and women, we spend years attempting to become better fathers, mothers, or leaders. But we fail to grasp that to grow and mature, we are first required to trust the authority figures God brings alongside us!
Most of us simply fail to understand that true ‘fatherhood’ can only come as a result of first allowing ourselves to become good ‘sons’.
If someone is searching to one day become a “spiritual father”, they would be wise to consider looking for someone who is already walking-in and demonstrating “sonship”.
Let me share that second story…
A few years back, a young man who was part of our ‘Young People’s Team’ (a pre-cursor to our present ‘Year of Discipleship and Training’ course) began to struggle with the routines here at Ellel Sydney. He did not like the workloads, the discipleship training or living in community. Eventually, he started whinging and complaining to all the other students about how “unfair” the whole system was.
The time came to sit him down and ask what was really going on in his heart. He said he felt under-utilised, unappreciated, and in short, hated being here. He was very frustrated at having to do things he felt were “beneath him”. He claimed he had gifts and abilities that should be recognised, and he wanted to be released to teach and minister immediately. He did not want to undergo some “unnecessary apprenticeship” to be proven worthy.
I asked him some questions…
“Do you want to get married one day, and be the best possible father to your future kids?”
“Of course I do!” he responded, angrily.
I went onto to explain that I had seen men spend years attempting to be better husbands, fathers and leaders, yet failing to understand that true fatherhood comes only as a result of first learning to walk as a good son. I suggested to become a good “spiritual father” to others, he would be wise to re-consider his current attitude, and choose to come back under authority and trust the process that was honing his character – so he could eventually become the good father and leader he desired to be.
“I have more gifts and abilities than most of your present staff!” was his response. He did indeed have some amazing gifts and talents, but was sadly lacking in grace, humility or wisdom.
I tried to explain to him that eventually his gifts would take him to a place where his character would no longer sustain him. However, this young man believed he had already “arrived” as a man of God – and we were just holding him back!
Sadly, because we did not offer him a ‘higher seat at the table’ he chose to pack his bags and leave. The reports I have heard since his departure from here basically describe him as still unwilling to submit to authority.
Luke 14:10 reads: “But when you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, 'Friend, move up to a better place.'”. Jesus is suggesting in this parable that we should always take the lowest seat at the table; until there is no other seat to take!
In other words, don’t scramble for power and position. Do not manipulate to climb higher; don’t grumble and complain about how much more you deserve. Instead, seek out and treasure the investment of ‘father-figures’ whom God brings alongside you – and when your character is ready, God himself will elevate you in due time.
When someone does not want to come under rightful Godly authority to be fathered and invested in, and they refuse to learn what it means to become a good son, they are refusing the biblical pathway that Jesus demonstrated by submitting to His Father’s authority whilst here on earth – even though He himself was God! If we fail to come under and refuse to submit to a process of “sonship”, the likelihood of us becoming a good father or leader is quite remote.
Regrettably, the impatient and the arrogant will have to revisit this “crossroads” again and again - like a ‘round-a-bout’ they cannot get off - until they learn there is no other way to mature.
If we genuinely desire to become a good “spiritual father” to others, let’s hope we don’t get too dizzy clinging to the ‘round-a-bout’ of pride! The only exit requires us to first to be humbled… and then we must submit to a process of “sonship”.
There is no other way.
It is always safer and wiser to humbly take the lowest seat at the table… until there is no other seat left to take.
In the meantime, let’s just work on being the best ‘sons’ we can be… and trust Father God to raise us up in due course.
Until next time,
13th June 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation (Pt 14)
I notice that nearly all people desire to become good fathers and mothers. But to become a good parent… we must first learn to be good sons and daughters!
In my previous article in this series we looked closely at how to recognise the difference between a Father and a Mentor – and understand how to receive what both have to offer and how to distinguish between the two.
This month I want to wrestle with the concept of how best we can become Godly authority figures over those under our influence… and it might surprise you that to become that, we first need to learn to submit and come under rightful Godly authority. And if that is a problem for us… we need to learn what is blocking us from trusting those who are placed over us.
Interestingly, as I deal with a lot of men, nearly all carry a deep desire to be the best possible fathers they can be. However, if I ask them how they are coping under their bosses, leaders, or those they are answerable to – I usually hear a lot of whingeing, whining and complaining about how terribly they are being treated and how unfair things are.
Now in some cases, their complaints could be quite valid (because I know that not every leader and boss out there is a safe authority figure to be under). However, there is a general principle I learned from a ‘father figure’ who impressed it upon me and it’s quite simple: - “You have no authority - unless you are under authority”!
No one who is placed in charge over us is perfect, but if they are doing their best to “father” us - if we could stop complaining and choose to accept and trust the process we find ourselves in, there could be some valuable lessons learned.
When we look at the example of Christ’s life, although Jesus was still God (in human form), he chose to submit to a process of growing and maturing which I believe is meant to model something to us all.
Jesus, as the Son of God, could have called down 12 legions of angels to deal with the ‘mess of humanity’ going on all around Him. But instead he chose to trust His Father and follow an unfolding plan which he needed to submit to. It was Jesus’s responsibility as the Son of God walking on this earth to reveal the nature and character of Father God to all who witnessed his life. Let’s take a look at how he modelled it to us…
Check out these verses:
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”
John 8:19: “Then they asked him, ‘Where is your father?’ ‘You do not know me or my Father,’ Jesus replied. ‘If you knew me, you would know my Father also.”
John 14:7 “If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.’”
John 10:30 “I and the Father are one”
John 14:6 “Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
Drawing from those passages, I believe we can say with confidence that the Biblical pathway to understanding the Father must be through learning to understand the Son. Or perhaps stated differently… the Biblical pathway to understanding how to become a good father is through learning how to become a good son.
On closer inspection, you can see a progression in the above passages. Firstly, God gives us a “son” (John 3:16); then it’s made clear ‘If you knew Jesus, you would also know the Father’ (John 8:9 & John 14:7); and finally Jesus tells us that the way, the truth and the life we are searching for is found only in him, the Son. And this Son is the only way to the Father. In fact, Jesus suggests He is the only one who can reveal God as Father to us (John 14:6).
To confirm this progression, have a glance at this next verse found in Isaiah:
For to us a child is born,
to us a son is given,
and the government will be on his shoulders.
And he will be called
Wonderful Counsellor, Mighty God,
Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. (Isaiah 9:6)
It begins with Jesus born as ‘child’;
He grows into a ‘son’;
And eventually he becomes the ‘Everlasting Father’.
Jesus became a father, by first being a son.
Next month I want to share a story of what happens when we fail to grasp this kingdom truth. It’s a story about a young man who wanted to be good father, but refused to submit to the process of first becoming a son…
Until next time,
15th May 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation (Pt 13)
Learning to recognise the difference between Fathers and Mentors
Last month we spent time considering what it means to recognise and receive ‘fathers’ whom God sends into our lives. When we finally recognise and receive these men sent by God as spiritual fathers – their long-term investment in our lives profoundly benefits who we become as sons and daughters.
There are also those whom God sends to come alongside us for shorter periods of investment, as tutors and mentors.
What is crucial – is that we learn how to recognise the difference between a Father and a Mentor – and understand how to receive what both have to offer.
So, what are the fundamental differences between a Father-figure and a Mentor? And how do we make the distinction between the two?
The Apostle Paul alludes to the fact that there are key differences between the role of mentor and the role of a father, when he writes to the saints in Corinth.
1 Corinthians 4:15 states:
“Even if you had ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel” (NIV).
Let’s now look at this same verse in the New American Standard Bible (NASB) which tends to be the closest English translation to the original language:
“For if you were to have countless tutors in Christ, yet you would not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel” (NASB).
In the NASB passage it states that we have ‘countless tutors’ (which I believe is synonymous for mentors, teachers, instructors, etc)… but it also states we do not have many fathers “in Christ” (ie spiritual fathers).
From the above proof-text I believe it’s safe to deduce the following - the main difference between a ‘father’ and a ‘mentor (tutor)’ – is the depth of connection and relationship that is established.
The relationship between a teacher and a student is not the same as a relationship between a father and a son. Fatherhood is reliant upon a relationship that connects a father’s heart to the heart of his child (“The hearts of the fathers will be returned to the children…” Malachi 4:5). This suggests that a spiritual father’s intent is to connect deeply with those they invest in.
Mentoring/tutoring usually occurs in a more sterile and organised environment of a classroom where there is structure and a learning objective. Fathering is meant to be available at anytime and anywhere. Father figures respond organically to the issues that arise in the lives of sons and daughters.
A Mentor/tutor offers a program or a class that develops certain skill sets for individuals who choose to attend. A Father does not recruit ‘sons’ and ‘daughters’ to a program – they are his to invest-in by either birth, or by adoption.
A Mentor/tutor is more likely to be interested in developing that person’s gifts. A Father-figure desires to develop a person’s character.
A Mentor/tutor is more likely to deal with what the person does. A Father is more interested in whom that person becomes.
A Mentor/tutor’s role comes to an end once the task is achieved or the learning objective has been reached. Therefore, the role of a Mentor/tutor is usually only temporary, lasting for a season. But a Father’s role and responsibility is never meant to end.
The role of a Father is for life!
Mentors and Tutors meed to be appreciated for the skills and knowledge they can impart. But mentors and tutors are far easier to find than ‘fathers’. The Apostle Paul says it best:- we have “countless tutors”… but “not many fathers”.
We need to gain ‘eyes’ to discern when Fathers are knocking on our door. We must learn to recognise they have been sent by our one true Father in Heaven and are they are to be received with a thankful heart – they are a rare gift!
(Interestingly, I notice that most men desire to be good fathers. But to become a good father… we must first learn to be good sons! Perhaps that is a topic for another blog…)
Until next time,
5th April 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation (Pt 12)
Learning to recognise and receive ‘fathers’ whom God sends to us.
Last month we considered the advantage the 3rd generation brings – where a child can watch and learn from how their own father relates to their grandfather, thereby demonstrating a model to the third generation of what it looks like to invest in all future generations that come after us.
This month I’d like to look at why we don’t always recognise and receive the father-figures that God brings alongside us.
There are usually some foundational reasons why we often reject and push away good men that are sent by God.
You see, when God offers us ‘fathering opportunities’, we often misunderstand what Abba is up to and we ignore or block His advances towards us by turning away those whom God sends to help.
The reason we often do this is because when we have not been fathered well, it is not easy to recognise and receive spiritual fathering. Often, we just simply reject it based on our past wounds or our inability to see what God is up to.
Personally, for many years, I had no idea how to identify such ‘fathering opportunities’ that came along in my life. Not only was it hard for me to recognise good people whom God sent my way as ‘father’ figures… but even if I did sense that they may be genuinely of God… it was another thing altogether to actually trust them and let them into my life!
When we are poorly fathered, we struggle to discern what is good for us when it crosses our path. Our warning ‘radar’ is unreliable (I more than once sent the good guys away… and welcomed those I should have shunned). In general, when we are poorly fathered, we are left without a template to know what good fathering is meant to look like.
Another consequence of poor fathering is a lack of trust in authority figures which I alluded to earlier. When we cannot trust authority figures easily - we often reject those whom God sends our way believing by doing so, we are keeping ourselves safe.
However, we must remember that Abba is constantly pursuing us, looking for ways He can father us – we just have to become oriented to what our true Father is trying to do in our lives at any given moment.
In my own story… I became desperate to find authentic investment from other men in my life. I had been crushed and controlled by religious men for quite a number of years. Sadly, I learned to become harsh, judgemental, and critical in nature to others – following the model given to me.
A religious man often points out your sin, but has no idea how to offer God’s grace. Neither does he have any insight or power to help you overcome that sin (except to yell “Don’t do it again!”). Gordon Dalbey states: “A religious man has to always be right – but he can never be real”. Religious men do not make good fathers. They cannot lead us to the life we are meant to live.
So, I began to look only for those men whose marriages were truly shining; whose wives were glowing and growing in their own gifting; and whose children were connected deeply with the heart of their earthly fathers – especially their adult children. In the end, you can always tell the good fathers by the fruit of their lives, and the lives of those they invest in.
The good men whom God sent in my direction (when I finally stopped pushing them away) truly did understood how to overcome the curse of fatherlessness and invest into my heart. These men became father-figures who helped me begin the journey towards wholeness and maturity… a journey that continues to this day.
When we can finally recognise and receive these men sent by God as fathers – they profoundly change who we are.
“Abba Father, forgive me where I have failed to recognise those you’ve sent into my life in the past. Please help me grow in discernment to recognise those you send in the future to father me. Thank you that you are always near and never forsake me. I need your guiding influence in my life to become the son of God you ordained me to become. I want to receive every good thing you have for me. Please help me overcome my anxious fears that drive me to push away the help you offer and grant me the courage to accept the gift of good men you bring alongside me – for they will change who I become.
This I ask in Jesus name, amen”.
Looking ahead to next month… we must acknowledge that God also sends others who are used by Him to invest in us for shorter periods as tutors and mentors. But I wonder if we have ever understood the difference between a Father-figure and a Mentor? Both have something of value we need to receive.
In the next instalment we will look at how to make the distinction between someone who fathers us and someone who mentors us.
Until next time,
14th March 2019
Fathering and Sonship – Raising disciples that will change a Nation Pt 11 -
The real advantage of Godly Fathering begins to be seen in the 3rd Generation.
The blessing that began first with Abraham, was then passed on to Isaac. However, the real fruit begins to be reaped in the third generation when Jacob (who is re-named Israel) fathers the Twelve Tribes of a Nation. Abba has always wanted Godly fathering to be at the heart of building strong nations.
This month I wanted to look at the tangible advantage that can outwork in the third generation.
However, we need to first grasp what that advantage actually looks like…
Let’s begin by looking at Hebrews 11:9 where it states: “By faith he (ie Abraham) lived as an alien in the land of promise, as in a foreign land dwelling in tents with Isaac and Jacob, fellow heirs of the same promise”.
The above verse reveals that Abraham, Isaac and Jacob all lived and dwelled together.
That means grandfather, father and son would have all sat together around evening campfires connecting, chatting and doing life together. Son and grandson would have heard Abraham share his wild stories of how Yahweh lured him away from Ur of the Chaldeans to begin his crazy adventure with the one true God. Isaac and Jacob would have been glued to Abraham’s every word.
The great advantage of the 3rd generation is this:- The third generation is the first that can watch and learn from how their own father relates to their grandfather.
Less than a century ago, it was normal for three generations to live and work together on the family farm. In that setting it was easy for the son to watch how his father related to his grandfather. Under those circumstances, modelling fatherhood and sonship was not a ‘program’ that had to be invented – it was a daily lifestyle which was the norm.
Assuming that all things were healthy between the father and grandfather… a son could watch and observe how his dad and grandad related to one another. A son could watch how his father listened to and respected the grandfather; a son could observe how his father sought the grandfather for advice when struggles arose. That same son could also watch how the grandfather affirmed the father; and how the grandfather invested into the father.
That is something I personally never got to witness occur between my father and grandfather.
My memories of my own father’s father (Pop) are limited to recalling him sitting on an old stump in the backyard of his home in Toowoomba. I recall him wearing his horn-rimmed glasses; wearing old fashioned braces instead of a belt; and a stern look on his face whilst he smoked his pipe. I do not recall him ever speaking to me directly.
Sadly, my Pop passed away when I was a young boy. I did not get to witness any positive interaction between my father and grandfather. In fact, my dad never spoke much about his own father… except one comment I recall about the impact my grandfather’s drinking had on him and all of his siblings.
As for my mother’s side of the family… I did get to witness my mum’s dad (Granddad) relate to his two sons (my uncles) over Christmas holidays. But in no way would I have described my two uncles as being ‘close’ to their father. If anything, my uncles were more ‘closed’ around him. I do recall one of those uncles describing his father (my grandfather) in this way: “He is a hard man to live with and even harder man to work under!”
Sadly, the two previous generations (on both sides of my family) could not offer me - as a 3rd generation son - a good model of how a father should relate to a grandfather. I suspect the same would be true for most of this present generation.
But when it is modelled well… the benefits bring immense blessings down generational lines. Imagine as a son listening to your own Dad pouring out his heart to your Grandfather about some difficulty he was facing… and observing the gentle way your Grandfather listened compassionately to your Dad, comforting him, putting an arm around him, offering him wisdom and praying for him!
What kind of model of manhood would that provide a young boy who got to witness that on a regular basis? What kind of father do you think that son might become to his own children if he was raised under that model?
This is what Jacob got to experience daily in watching Abraham relate to Isaac! This is why Jacob, in the third generation, could offer a benefit that enabled him to father the birth of a nation.
With my own five sons and daughter, I have attempted to invest into their hearts and build a deep connection and relationship with each of them… which I trust they would want to reproduce with their own children.
But even more so, it is my heart to ensure my grandchildren witness me investing, loving, connecting and praying with my children… because before I go into glory, I want to see the 3rd generation (ie my grandchildren) benefit from the blessing that comes from watching and learning how their parents relate to their grandparents in a close way.
This is the great advantage of the third generation – they are first that can benefit and learn from how their own father relates to their grandfather.
And even more exciting is when you consider the even greater advantage that awaits the 4th generation!
Until next time,
15th February 2019
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 10 -
The blessing that comes through Abraham, Isaac and Jacob – provides evidence that spiritual benefits come through good fathers!
Last month we looked at the negative impact of poor fathers on world history. But what about the impact of good fathers on this world? In trying to answer that question, I also want to examine why genealogies are so key in Scripture.
Let me be quite frank…. up until recent times I have often been bored to death trying to wade through those genealogies in Scripture! I’ve found myself thinking:- “what the heck is this doing in the Bible!?! Of what possible use could all these ‘begots’ be to anyone?”
That’s how I used to respond to the genealogies.
But not anymore!
I have come to understand how critical genealogical records are in tracing a biblical monarchy. Family and tribal identities have always played a significant part in the history of Israel. The genealogies are simply the tracing of the “family trees”, linking the generations of God’s people for crucial historical purposes.
When you consider Religious duties - these have always been linked to the line of Levi and therefore were passed on to Aaron and his sons in Exodus 28:1:
“Then bring near to yourself Aaron your brother, and his sons with him, from among the sons of Israel, to minister as priest to Me—Aaron, Nadab and Abihu, Eleazar and Ithamar, Aaron’s sons.”
During the rebuilding of Jerusalem around the time of the prophets Ezra and Nehemiah, people were excluded from religious service if they were unable to provide proof of their genealogical history:-
Nehemiah 7:5 “Then my God put it into my heart to assemble the nobles, the officials and the people to be enrolled by genealogies. Then I found the book of the genealogy of those who came up first in which I found the following record…”
Ezra 2:62 - These searched among their ancestral registration, but they could not be located; therefore they were considered unclean and excluded from the priesthood.
Even in the New Testament, a lot of weight is given to the genealogy of Jesus Christ. His lineage was of the tribe of Judah. The Gospel of Matthew calls Jesus the son of David, as He was of the same line as King David which made Him of royal blood. Therefore, as a ‘son of David’… Jesus was in line to be King.
Elsewhere, Matthew refers to Jesus as the son of Abraham (who just happened to be God’s choice as ‘spiritual father’ to all who follow Jesus – more on that below).
In Matthew 1:1 we read: This is the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah the son of David, the son of Abraham: “The record of the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah, the son of David, the son of Abraham”
And in Luke 3: 23, 33-38 we find the genealogy of Jesus going back to Adam, and ultimately, God. Here is an excerpt:
23: When He began His ministry, Jesus Himself was about thirty years of age, being, as was supposed, the son of Joseph, the son of Eli,…
33: the son of Amminadab, the son of Ram,
the son of Hezron, the son of Perez,
the son of Judah, 34 the son of Jacob,
the son of Isaac, the son of Abraham,
the son of Terah, the son of Nahor,
35 the son of Serug, the son of Reu,
the son of Peleg, the son of Eber,
the son of Shelah, 36 the son of Cainan,
the son of Arphaxad, the son of Shem,
the son of Noah, the son of Lamech,
37 the son of Methuselah, the son of Enoch,
the son of Jared, the son of Mahalalel,
the son of Kenan, 38 the son of Enosh,
the son of Seth, the son of Adam,
the son of God.
You can see by the above genealogy that God literally sees Himself as our Father, and he sees us as His ‘sons’. Jesus confirms this when He teaches us to pray to “Our Father in heaven…”.
Something else I find quite interesting is that there are passages in both the Old and New Testament which refer to God as the “God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob”. In fact, in Exodus 3:15 God claims this name of the “God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob” as His memorial name forever:-
“God, furthermore, said to Moses, “Thus you shall say to the sons of Israel, ‘The Lord, the God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has sent me to you.’ This is My name forever, and this is My memorial-name to all generations.
It’s kind of difficult to get your head around it … but I try to imagine God coming up to me and saying He wants to use my family name to ensure I know Him as the God of my family… and He acts on that by calling Himself “the God of Paul; the God of Daniel (my firstborn); and the God of Daniel’s children…”. The fact that God chooses to make that name His ‘memorial name forever’ kind of blows me away!
This name which God chooses as one of His Names, identifies Him with a particular family. In this case Abraham’s family. Abraham was the key patriarchal figure; but God goes on to identify with Abraham’s son Isaac; and also his grandson, Jacob.
That’s three generations.
God’s blessing didn’t stop with Abraham; Isaac and Jacob. It was ordained to be passed down through his family line. But it’s in the third generation where the blessing really starts to kick-in because this is where Jacob is renamed Israel, and becomes the father over the twelve tribes of Israel.
As Christians today, we actually get to receive and enjoy the blessing that comes down that lineage through ‘Abraham, Isaac & Jacob’. How? Because we are all ‘sons’ of Abraham – because we carry Abraham’s spiritual DNA of ‘faith’ which was “granted unto him as righteousness” in Genesis 15:6.
Everyone of us who have chosen to become a disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ and to follow Him have been granted righteousness, simply because we ‘believe’. We believe by faith as Abraham did.
Galatians 3:29 states: “And if you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s descendants, heirs according to promise”.
Abraham was the very ‘father of our faith’, and every person who has decided to follow Jesus since is a beneficiary of Abraham’s faith; and therefore we get to enjoy the same promises as Abraham’s “heirs” because we are his spiritual “descendants”. Abraham who begot Isaac and passed that faith onto him; who begot Jacob and passed that same faith onto him… passed that faith all the way down to you and me.
We are all the ‘spiritual children’ of Abraham.
And that’s what good dads do … they pass spiritual blessings down the generations!
Next month, I want to connect this concept of good fathers passing on spiritual blessings to the tangible advantage that good fathering brings after the third generation. Because just as we saw with Abraham, Isaac & Jacob there is an increase in ‘blessing’ when it reaches the 3rd generation… tune in next month to learn how we too can benefit from this blessing three generations later if we continue to sow in righteousness…
Where will you be in this generational journey?
Until next time …
Centre Director, Sydney.
18th January 2019
Happy New Year everyone!
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 9 -
"Key figures raised under poor fathering have had catastrophic effect on the course of history"
The damage can be impossible to fully comprehend or calculate when children grow up under poor fathering and subsequently rise to positions of influence or authority over others. What is clear is that when fathers have been absent, dysfunctional, renegade, austere or violent, their offspring have been scarred and the results for the next generation have been horrendous.
To quote Gordon Dalbey: “The wounds we fail to deal with as parents, will be consigned to the next generation”. And it is my experience that whatever was unhealed in the previous generation has a manifestly greater outworking when inflicted onto the next generation.
The following examples of such key historical figures are taken from the book Faith of the Fatherless: The Psychology of Atheism by Paul C Vitz. The quotes in italics are his.
1696-1778: French Enlightenment writer, historian and philosopher famous for his wit, his criticism of Christianity, especially the Catholic Church, and his advocacy of freedom of religion, freedom of speech, and separation of church and state. His full name was François-Marie Arouet, but was known by his nom de plume, Voltaire.
“… a biographer, A.D. Aldridge, has noted that Voltaire demonstrated neither affection for his attachment to family traditions: “Although Voltaire wrote extensively about his father, he said virtually nothing in his favour”
1856-1939: Freud was born to Galician Jewish parents in the Moravian town of Freiberg, in the Austrian Empire. He rose to prominence as a neurologist and the founder of psychoanalysis, a clinical method for treating psychopathology through dialogue between a patient and a psychoanalyst.
“That Sigmund Freud’s father, Jacob, was a disappointment worse to his son is generally agreed upon by his biographers. Specifically, in two of his letters as an adult, Freud writes that his father was a sexual pervert and that Jacob’s children (which included Sigmund) suffered as a result”
1878-1953: Stalin was a Soviet revolutionary and politician who ruled the Soviet Union from 1922 until his death, holding the titles of General Secretary of the Communist Party of the Soviet Union from 1922 to 1952 and the nation's Premier from 1941 to 1953. Quoted as saying: “Death is the solution to all problems. No man - no problem”.
“Perhaps the simplest summary of Stalin’s relationship to his father is the following comment in regard to Stalin during his early years: “Undeserved and severe beatings made the boy (Stalin) as hard and heartless as the father was”.
1889-1945: Adolf Hitler was a German politician, demagogue, and Pan-German revolutionary. He was leader of the Nazi Party and rose to power in Germany as Chancellor in 1933 and Führer in 1934. During his dictatorship from 1933 to 1945, he initiated World War II in Europe by invading Poland in September 1939 and was responsible for killing 6 million Jews. Quoted as saying: “If you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed”.
“Like Stalin, Adolf received severe and regular beatings from his father. Hitler’s older half-sister Paula reported that Adolf ‘got his second thrashing everyday’”.
Madalyn Murray O’Hair
1919-1995: O'Hair was an American activist who significantly lifted the profile of atheism and pushed for separation of church and state. In 1963 she founded American Atheists, and served as its president to 1986, after which her son Jon Garth Murray succeeded her. She created the first issues of American Atheist Magazine.
“Whatever the cause of O’Hair’s intense hatred of her father (and for God), it is clear from her son’s book that hatred was deep and that it went back into her childhood; abuse by her father – psychological and physical – the likely cause”.
1893-1976: Also known as Chairman Mao, Mao Zedong was a Chinese communist revolutionary who became the founding father of the People's Republic of China, which he ruled as the Chairman of the Communist Party of China from its establishment in 1949 until his death in 1976. Quoted as saying: “Communism is not love. Communism is a hammer which we use to crush the enemy”; and “To read too many books is harmful”.
“Mao’s father is described as a family tyrant, and from childhood young Mao sided with his mother and other members of the family in implicit rebellions. He clearly hated his father and learned his first appreciation of revolution and rebellion in his own family setting”.
It wouldn’t take too much effort to continue digging-up key historical figures who were horrendously shaped by poor fathers.
So, suffice to say, it is impossible to measure the devastation perpetrated by the above people who seriously and negatively affected the world around them – and in some cases, whose actions tragically altered the course of all human history.
One could ask “Had one or all of the above-mentioned figures been properly fathered by good men, raised in nurture, acceptance and love, how would the course of history have been altered?”
Allow me to end this blog by repeating a quote of Derek Prince’s: “Fatherhood is man’s highest achievement” … because as fathers we are granted the privilege to represent the Father-heart of God to our children; and when we fail to do that well… the next generation suffers!
But Abba Father offers us an ancient path that can lead to restoration… if only we would stand at the crossroads and look for it (Jeremiah 6:16).
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
Paul C Vitz 1999, Faith of the Fatherless: The Psychology of Atheism, Spence Publishing Company, Dallas, Texas.
Background information on historic figures provided by Wikipedia.
23rd November 2018
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 8 -
"When Fathers Fail!"
Don’t assume that because a man loves the Lord that automatically makes him a good father!
In this instalment I’d like to look at some biblical examples of good Godly men who as fathers didn’t do such a great job!
I used to think that if a man loved Jesus and holds to the truth of Scripture, that must mean he is automatically a good husband and father. Let’s examine a few key figures in Scripture to see if that statement holds up under scrutiny.
Let’s begin with a well-known Old Testament prophet called Samuel.
The prophet Samuel proved to be one of the most anointed and powerful judges over Israel. As a child he had been dedicated to God by his mother Hannah, who handed the young boy Samuel into the care of the High Priest Eli, to honour the vow she had made before God (1 Samuel 1).
When Hannah announces to her husband Elkanah (in 1 Samuel 1:22) that she will take the boy “and present him before the Lord and he will live there always”, I find Samuel’s father’s response a little disconcerting: - (vs 23) “Do what seems best to you.” When a dad is prepared to “give away” a child that easy that raises concerns for me.
I understand that Hannah wanted to honour the vow she’d made before the Lord for being blessed with this son (even so, handing over her only child must have been very difficult)… but to have Samuel’s father agree to this so readily seems at best a little cold! (I know that if my wife came to me and suggested she wanted to hand over one of my five sons into the care of the high priest, I would have put up a little more fight than Elkanah offered!)
As the story unfolds, it is revealed that the High Priest Eli (whom Samuel was handed over to) had not invested well into his own two natural sons, named Hophni and Phineas (1 Samuel 1:3). We read in 1 Samuel 2:12 “Now the sons of Eli were worthless men; they did not know the Lord.” In 1 Samuel 2:22 we read “…how they slept with the women who served at the entrance to the Tent of Meeting.” (The Tent of Meeting was basically the place where the Presence of God rested amongst the Israelites. So these sons were showing serious contempt for the Lord by the nature of their sin!). Then finally in 1 Samuel 2:25 referring to Eli’s sons it states they “…did not listen to their father’s rebuke, for it was the Lord’s will to put them to death.”
And so Eli, having failed as a father to his own sons, is now tasked with raising Samuel as an adopted son. Eli clearly trained Samuel well in the pursuit of priestly and prophetic roles. Sadly, however, Samuel also picked up the poor fathering model that Eli offered.
We know this because in 1 Samuel 8:3-5 it states that Samuel’s sons:- “…did not walk in his ways. They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice.”
Interestingly, Samuel is then used by God to anoint a young David as king and set him apart. Samuel goes on to become a major father-figure to King David and even though King David adopts Samuel’s heart for the Lord, the poor model of fathering that Samuel was raised under also outworks its consequence in David as we see his sons rebel and do wicked things. (e.g. Read about Adonijah’s rebellion in 1 Kings 1, Absalom’s conspiracy in 2 Sam 15, and Amnon’s sin in 2 Sam 13.)
So, when we look at the legacy each man passes on to the next we see a negative outworking that flows down. In summary, Elkanah just allows his son Samuel to be handed over to the High Priest Eli. Then Eli, who fails as a father to his own sons, then raises Samuel as his ‘adopted’ son. Later we discover Samuel fails as a father to his own sons! And then King David, who is fathered by Samuel, also fails to raise sons who follow the Lord!
It is a sorry downward spiral of father’s failing with horrendous consequences!
And yet everyone of those men mentioned above loved and served the Lord with all their heart! Which powerfully highlights the point that we should never assume a Godly man is automatically a good father!
Clearly in all of the above instances, they are good men who do very good things in the service of the Lord but fail to raise sons who follow the Lord wholeheartedly.
This failure to father also has a significant consequence upon the nation of Israel.
When we read 1 Samuel 8 it describes how Samuel in his old age appoints his wicked sons as judges over Israel to replace him. But the elders of Israel were not happy with Samuel’s decision to do this (understandably!). In verse 5 “They said to him “You are old and your sons do not walk in your ways; now appoint a king to lead us, such as all the other nations have!”
Here we find an interesting principle. When key men fail to father and nurture the next generation to walk as sons of God, a nation suffers and turns away from Father God!
Samuel’s sons failed to make the grade (“…your sons do not walk in your ways” 1 Sam 8:5a)… and as a consequence a nation decides they do not want to be ‘Fathered by God’ any longer! Instead, in their disappointment and rebellion they choose to be ruled by an earthly king instead, like all of the pagan nations around them. (“…now appoint a king to lead us, such as all the other nations have.” 1 Sam 8:5b) All because good men had no idea how to raise their sons to walk in God’s ways!
The elders’ choice to ask for a king wasn’t so much a rejection of Samuel, or even his sons, as it was a rejection of the Lord God himself. For the Lord said to Samuel: “…it is not you they have rejected but they have rejected me as their king.” (1 Samuel 8:7)
In all this what cannot be overlooked is that the elders of Israel arrived at that decision to reject God based on a poor fathering/sonship model that had been offered by the prophets, priests and judges of Israel.
Who would have thought that as dads we hold such power as to affect the way a nation responds to God!
If we want to see that turn around in our generation, then we must find a way to encourage, train and equip men not just to be good Godly men, but to also raise them to be good nurturing, loving fathers who know how to connect and invest in the hearts of their sons and daughters!
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
18th September 2018
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 7
I am about to jump on a plane and head over to the UK for the Ellel Executive Leadership Meeting which is held twice a year. That meeting will then be followed immediately by the International Ellel Leaders Conference – both events are being held at Pierrepont in Surrey, England.
The International Ellel Leaders Conference is where Peter Horrobin (founder and International Director of Ellel Ministries International) gets to ‘father’ all of the key leaders from around the world.
Peter is acutely aware that as every year passes he has less time left in his purse to influence those who are called to carry the work of this ministry forward. So the International Ellel Leaders Conference is a key platform for Peter to remind all of the Ellel Leaders across the globe what the roots of the ministry are, and it also gives him the opportunity to re-cast the vision as we move into the challenging days that lay ahead.
In light of all that I thought it would be appropriate, before I fly out, to share a potent statement by Derek Prince on fathering. It is a statement that has a huge bearing on how I view my leadership role in all of the following categories:- Fatherhood, Marriage, Family and the Body of Christ itself.
Take a minute or two to absorb this powerful statement by Derek Prince:
“Fatherhood is man’s highest achievement.”
I had to mull over that statement by Derek for quite some time to try to figure out what he was trying to communicate in those few words… but I think I’ve finally got a handle on it. I believe Derek Prince was attempting to express to us in just 5 words - that as earthly fathers, we have been granted the privilege and responsibility to mirror the heart of God to the hearts of our children - and everyone else watching our lives. Whether we have realised that or not, may be another matter!
That is incredibly humbling… and very motivating for my prayer life!
But if I am really honest, when it hit me that God has placed that kind of power in the hands of every earthly father, my first thought was “God, what were you thinking!"
I was dumbfounded to be frank! “You are trusting us fathers with what? To reveal and model the heart of God to the next generation?!?”
But it wouldn’t be the first time God has done a crazy thing like this… just look back through biblical history… you have to admit that God is at least consistent!
- God chose a stuttering Moses to speak on His behalf to Pharaoh in order to set His people free!
- God places the Saviour of the world at the breast of a teenage girl!
- God picks a legalistic pharisee named Saul who went around breathing murderous threats against Christians, to be the guy that ends up writing more than 1/3 of the New Testament!
The sheer number and consistency of these stories is unyielding and unnerving! Because it means my role as a father is being written by the same Author! (You might recall Hebrews 12 reminds us that Jesus is the author and perfector of our faith).
So if Derek Prince is right and Fatherhood really is man’s highest achievement… that means I need to be asking Abba Father’s help every day to understand His heart a little more than I did the day before!
And don’t think Derek’s statement regarding fatherhood being man’s highest achievement is only aimed at dads being the best engaged fathers they can be to their own kids… this is a mandate for all disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ to model the love of the Heavenly Father to all those within their sphere of influence… because that will be our highest achievement! And if we all do that, that will be helping raise disciples that will change a nation.
Rest assured that Peter Horrobin will be ‘fathering’ and investing into all of Ellel’s key leaders this month as we gather in the UK with his deep insights and his father’s heart. Peter’s hope is that everything he imparts – will be taken back to the nations!
That is all anyone of us can hope for… that when we invest Kingdom truth into the hearts of others around us, they can then impart to others those same truths, and so on… leaving a legacy for generations to come.
At the back end of this overseas trip, I will get to do some ‘fathering’ of my own – I’ll be visiting some sons (and their beautiful wives) on the way home, and that will involve giving lots of hugs to my grandchildren!
James Dobson brings it home with this personal insight:
“When these parenting years have passed, something precious will have flickered and gone out of my life, thus, I am resolved to enjoy every day that remains in this fathering era”.
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
17th August 2018
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 6
God could have called himself by any name – but when Jesus taught us how to pray – He gave us one name for God that is vital to discipleship. That particular name is one I want to discuss! But before we do, have you ever looked up some of the different names of God and what they mean? The Scriptures reveal that God carries quite a few names! Each name offers a different attribute to His character.
The simplest form by which God is referred to in the Old Testament is El, likely derived from His being first and foremost, it is a Northwest Semitic word meaning "god or deity". Elohim is another name for God – meaning God plural (e.g. Trinity). The singular word in Hebrew is Eloah, which is likely to have been taken from the same root word and points to God as being strong and mighty, able to judge and to strike fear into the hearts of His enemies. Elyon refers to being exalted. Adonai refers to God as a powerful ruler. Similarly, El Shaddai, derived from "shad" i.e. Lord, also points to the incredible power of God.
Yahweh (YHWH) is the principal name in the Old Testament by which God reveals himself and is the most sacred, distinctive and incommunicable name of God (i.e. so holy, this name is not to be spoken). Based on Leviticus 24:16: "He that blasphemes the name of Yahweh shall surely be put to death", Jews generally avoided saying the word Yahweh and substituted Adonai or Elohim when reading Scripture.
In Exodus 34:14, God gives his name as "Jealous". Exodus 34:14 – “For thou shalt worship no other god: for the LORD, whose name is Jealous!”
The self-pronouncement by God in Exodus 3:14 to describe Himself as "I Am that I Am" suggests there is no other god that rivals Him. Elsewhere God is referred to in scripture as the "Ancient of Days"; the "Everlasting to Everlasting"; "Jehovah-Rapha" (meaning “The Lord Who Heals” in Hebrew); "Jehovah-Jireh" (the Lord will Provide); "Jehovah-Nissi" (the Lord is my Banner); "Jehovah-Raah" (the Lord is my Shepherd); He is the "Lord of lords"; "King of kings"; "Prince of Peace"; "Comforter"; "Enabler"; "Helper"; "Friend"; etc, etc, etc…
As mentioned earlier, God has many names in the Bible, but interestingly when Jesus taught his disciples how to pray, He could have chosen any one of many such powerful names listed in the Scriptures to call God by in the Lord’s Prayer. However, when teaching us how to pray, Jesus asked us to simply reference God as “Father”.
Matthew 6:9 “Pray then in this way: ‘Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name’…”
God’s own decision to take that name and title of “Father” immediately gives the role of fatherhood supreme importance. By choosing to use the term "Father" to describe Himself, God immediately elevated the role of being a father to a pre-eminent position!
Why would God call Himself "Father"?
Each time the term appears whether in Hebrew or Greek it literally means “the father.” It is a term expressing warm affection and loving tenderness and protection.
Interestingly, most psychologists now recognise that for those who have a belief in God, our concept of what God is like - will be formed in early childhood. Fundamentally, this perception of God is birthed out of the relationship we form with our earthly, natural biological fathers. (In the case where biological fathers are absent – that in itself will have an impact on our view of God – but the subsequent view we then develop will be further affected, for good or for bad, by other male authority figures that fill such a void.)
To put it plainly, being able to see God as someone who loves, cares, protects and provides for us as a good "Father God" is simpler and easier, if our natural father can better model God’s attributes to us.
However, for too many, the opening line of those who come to Ellel Sydney for ministry goes a little like this: “If God is anything like my father then I want nothing to do with Him!”
For those of us who have been raised by absent, harsh, critical, angry or abusive dad, they will understandably have a different picture of God to those people who were raised by engaged, warm, tender, safe and nurturing fathers.
As we look at these concepts of how we form our view of Father God, we must consider carefully how we actually see God and how we have responded to Him.
Inevitably we must ask two key questions:-
1. Has the way I’ve been raised affected how I view God? and the subsequent question;
2: Have I reacted to how I was raised in a way that has been sinful and damaging to myself and those around me?
(A great deal of the ministry we offer here at Ellel Sydney comes out of the truthful answer to those two questions.)
So, I wonder if I asked you to pause and ponder the following questions, perhaps even write or journal your honest responses – would you be willing to take some time out with God to explore the following:-
a) Of all the names of God that you are aware of, which one is your favourite and why?
b) Have you ever considered God to be your true Father? Why?
c) Is it possible that the way you were raised, and the influence of your dad or other male authority figures, could have affected how you view God today? (Spend time pondering this question carefully. Invite Holy Spirit to show you. Write honestly.)
P.S. Next month we’ll look at some examples where fathers failed and what the consequences were, then we’ll consider what fatherhood is meant to display to this world.
Until next time
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
19th July 2018
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 5
Raising Disciples who can impact a nation will require a great outpouring of Holy Spirit in the same way the Spirit of God equipped Elijah to move powerfully in his day! But that outpouring of the same Spirit which Elijah moved under has been promised!
How do I know it’s been promised? Because Malachi 4:5-6 says so:-
“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord. And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse”. (KJV)
Those last few verses of the Old Testament highlight that before the Second Coming of the Lord Jesus takes place (“the great and dreadful day of the Lord”)… the Holy Spirit will influence a generation in the same way Elijah influenced the people in his day (which just happened to be the same way John the Baptist was anointed to prepare his generation for the first coming of the Lord Jesus).
That Malachi passage also highlights the primary reason the world is in a mess – it’s due to the breakdown of the family unit! It even pinpoints the breakdown to the failure of fathers to connect with the hearts of their children. Now if God’s desire is to re-connect dads with their kids (as that verse suggests) then also take note that this passage points to the inability of fathers to connect with their offspring which leads to a curse upon the earth;- (“…lest I come and strike the earth with a curse”)… It just happens to be what is known as the Curse of Fatherlessness. A curse that affects the whole earth!
Just as a side note:- It is my experience that if fathers cannot connect with the hearts of their kids – by default, it means they probably are not caring well for their wive's heart, nor are they likely to be connected well to the heart of Abba Father either.
Even more poignantly, by discussing how ‘hearts need to be turned’ in that Malachi passage, God is highlighting that the problem is actually a “heart” issue! And only Jesus can mend broken hearts (Isaiah 61).
If we examine more closely those closing few verses of the Old Testament, where it mentions Elijah being sent in the last days:- “Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord comes”…
The “great and dreadful day of the Lord” is clearly referring to the Second Advent (ie 2nd Coming of Christ). So what that tells me is, before the hearts of the fathers can be ‘re-connected’ to their children, and the hearts of the children ‘re-connected’ to their fathers, there will have to be an outpouring in the last days of the same Spirit that empowered Elijah in his day! No lesser work of Holy Spirit will be capable of achieving the profound restoration that many broken families need.
I believe that outpouring of the Holy Spirit will need to be upon a whole generation. Perhaps such an outpouring will need to influence families over several generations. Simply because generational patterns take time to be turned around from negative patterns into kingdom patterns of what marriage and “fathering” is supposed to resemble.
Deliverance from an evil spirit can take place in a moment, but repairing the damage caused by that demon can take significantly longer! Healing a broken heart and transforming the way we think and changing the evil patterns that have come down the family line is going to take a little more time than we’d like!
Too many saints are expecting a “Big Zap!” to come from Heaven that miraculously changes everything overnight!
Oh man, how I wish it would occur that quickly!
What I am expecting is an out-pouring of Holy Spirit which gently leads future generations to grow into wholeness, maturity and wisdom as God transforms us into sons and daughters who understand what it is to be ‘fathered’. By and large it will be a leading of Holy Spirit that influences future generations to learn what it means to receive the love of Abba Father and to model the love of Father God to others.
Then in turn, having grasped what “fathering” is meant to look like… future generations will not be affected by the “Heart” issues that have plagued present and past generations.
Abba Father wants to reveal His heart to families, and through families… to the world.
I have no doubt that the Holy Spirit will ensure there are powerful miraculous events occurring in the midst of that generational shift, because it is promised to be an anointing similar to that of Elijah. Such a move of God must then by definition, carry an anointing for supernatural breakthrough and miracles not seen since the days of Elijah!
All of that gives me great hope for how evangelism and discipleship will unfold in the years preceding the return of Christ return.
Without doubt, this whole concept of “fathering” will be a crucial component in demonstrating the power of the gospel in the coming days. And it remains my heart to see a generation of young adults healed, restored, equipped and prepared to become those who have allowed themselves to be “fathered”, for they will be the generation who carries the same Spirit that anointed Elijah!
I sure could use your help in preparing the way for that era!
(Does anyone remember the song: “These are the days of Elijah”!!!...)
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
21st June 2018
Fathering and Sonship – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 4
I mentioned last month I wanted to explore what that four hundred year gap between the Old Testament and New Testament really represents! In this article I would like to look more closely at just how loud that ‘period of silence’ is actually speaking to us!
You might recall me sharing about an Old Testament passage in my previous blog which played a fairly major part in my own personal restoration journey. It centered around Deuteronomy 23:2 which is the verse that highlights the curse of illegitimacy:-
“No one of illegitimate birth shall enter the assembly of the Lord; none of his descendants, even to the tenth generation, shall enter the assembly of the Lord”
Interestingly, this Scripture suggests when someone is born illegitimately (ie conceived out of wedlock) there is a curse that may fall upon the illegitimate child that is for 10 generations! And we learned last month – that a Hebrew generation is considered to be 40 years.
Remarkably, when you do the numbers on the effect of this curse – you find a startling revelation of how this passage relates to the ‘period of silence’ between the two Testaments.
If a Hebrew generation is 40 years, multiplied by a curse that is carried for 10 generations… then that means 40 x 10 = 400 years of illegitimacy!
Not so co-incidentally… the gap between the Old Testament and New Testament is also 400 years!
That 400 year span is often referred to as the inter-testamental period where there was no prophetic voice - until the book of Matthew is written.
However, that ‘period of silence’ is actually speaking quite loudly to us!
What this period is actually ‘screaming’ at us is:– those 400 years represent the consequences of the curse of “illegitimacy” whereby the sins of the fathers have for generations failed their sons and daughters. (Lamentations 5:9 states: ‘Our fathers sinned and are no more, and we bear their punishment’.
One of the primary consequences of this period of illegitimacy has been where earthly fathers have failed to connect with the hearts of their children. This has led to subsequent generations carrying an inability to receive the love and acceptance of our true Father in heaven.
We all are wounded (or ‘cursed’) in such ways… because so many of us have been impacted by an inability from our earthly fathers to connect with our hearts – and this correspondingly has affected our inability to connect with the Heavenly Father.
The Old Testament ends by pointing to a curse of fatherlessness in Malachi 4:5-6 (I’ll have more to share on that next month…) which works in rather well sadly, with this curse of illegitimacy.
But God promised He would return the hearts of his children to the heart of The Father (by sending the Spirit of Elijah). So when Christ appears in the New Testament He opens a way to remove the shame and illegitimacy that stood between Father God and His children.
Jesus of Nazareth, through the power of the Cross overcomes the power of sin; Jesus also breaks both the curse of illegitimacy (Deut 23:2) and the curse of fatherlessness (Mal 4:5-6) which hang over all nations - in order that we might be reunited to our true Dad!
Only in Christ can the effects of such curses be reversed. Christ even states in His own mission statement (shared in Luke Chapter 4, when He opens the scroll and reads from Isaiah 61) saying that He came to ‘heal the broken-hearted’… in other words, Jesus came to deal with those “heart” issues that Malachi highlighted.
It only takes one key prayer, involving repentance and forgiveness, and all such curses can be broken. However, it takes far more than just one prayer to raise up and disciple a new generation that is capable of ushering in the return of the Lord. That will need a new model to be established showing what it means to be “fathered” – and that will require a whole new strategy involving a deeper understanding of fathering and sonship… and more importantly it will require a whole new outpouring of Holy Spirit!
Without doubt in my mind, this whole concept of “Fathering” will be a crucial component in demonstrating the power of the gospel in these approaching last days.
It’s my heart to see a generation of young adults prepared to be transformed by the same Spirit that equipped and anointed Elijah!
I’m seriously hoping every saint would want to be part of ushering in that era!
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
22nd May 2018
Fathering – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 3
What if every Christian who feels like a shame-filled illegitimate orphan could be transformed into a person who knows they are loved, known and valued by a Holy God?
So, who did the homework from last month?!?
Did anyone find out how many years ‘one generation’ is considered to be in Hebrew thinking? (One Hebrew generation is considered to be 40 years by the way!)
I wonder how many looked up the passage I suggested to read in Deuteronomy 23:2? (Just in case you didn’t… here it is:) “No one of illegitimate birth shall enter the assembly of the Lord; none of his descendants, even to the tenth generation. Shall enter the assembly of the Lord” Deut 23:2
Interestingly, this Scripture highlights that when someone is born illegitimately (ie born out of wedlock) there is a curse that falls upon the illegitimate child that is for 10 generations!
This particular passage was particularly important for my own personal journey.
Quite a few years ago, I was struggling with all sorts of issues in my life. I was in the early years of my marriage, but that marriage was already in deep trouble. I was full of shame. I felt worthless, unwanted and unloved. I carried little hope of anything changing… basically I felt like an illegitimate child that had been rejected and abandoned!
I was at a point where I had nowhere to turn. Then God kindly sent a man into my life for just one week. In fact, that week completely changed the trajectory of my life. There was a conference that was run by the church I was attending, and during that week we had one of the key speakers stay in our home. During his stay he was led by the Lord to bring a specific verse to me (you guessed it… Deut 23:2). After reading that passage out to me, he asked: “Paul, were you an illegitimate child due to being conceived or born out of wedlock by any chance?”.
The answer was ‘Yes!’ (My parents conceived me one year before they got married). But there was no way this man could have ever known that information about me. No one knew! I hadn’t even shared that information with my wife at that point in time. Clearly, it was Holy Spirit that had revealed this to him. Abba Father was pursuing me. He wanted me back in His embrace.
This guest speaker prayed with me as he led me to forgive my parents and all my ancestors for their sin which had brought this curse upon me (remember this one carries consequences for 10 generations!). He then prayed asking Jesus to break the power of the curse of illegitimacy off my life… when he commanded it to depart, I literally felt that unholy spirit leave me… and it forever changed how I felt about myself; how I saw myself; and how I saw God! After the ministry time was over…I knew I was free! I remember crying (tears of joy) for the first time in about 20 years as I worshipped and thanked Father God for His kindness towards me.
Although there was much God still needed to restore in me over the coming years, from that moment onwards, no longer did I feel like a slave - but instead from that point on I knew I was deeply loved. Literally overnight, I had shifted from being a shame filled illegitimate orphan, to knowing that I was wanted and of great value to Father God. In my heart I suddenly knew I was His beloved son!
To this very day… that was the biggest shift God has ever done in my heart in a single moment.
What if every saint who feels worthless, unwanted, unloved and hopeless could experience a massive shift in their heart such as that?
What if every Christian who feels like a shame-filled illegitimate orphan could be transformed into a person who knows they are loved, known and valued by a Holy God?
Do you think that would change a disciple of the Lord Jesus into a warrior who could have a powerful influence on all those around them?
If everyone could experience God’s intervention in a powerful way such as that… it would inevitably cause us to become incredible warriors for the kingdom of God!
The way Father God wants to do that for each of us will be different of course – because we are all so different, with different life stories – but nonetheless the fact remains… God wants to lavish His unconditional love upon all of His sons and daughters. Because He is building His “Last Days Army”.
And that is how I believe we can begin to raise disciples that can change a nation… by introducing them to their ‘True Father’ in a powerful way that transforms them from ‘orphaned slave’ to ‘sons and daughters of God’. Imagine what an army of saints like that could achieve in this world!?!
Next month I want to explore what that four hundred year gap between the Old Testament and New Testament really represents! I want to examine just how loud that ‘period of silence’ is actually speaking to us! I will unpack how God wants to break the curse of illegitimacy and the curse of fatherlessness that hangs over all nations… and I will discuss in-depth why fatherhood is so crucial to the sharing of the gospel in these approaching last days.
In my heart, I have a passion to see “…the hearts of the fathers returned to the children, and the hearts of the children returned to their father”… as promised in the closing verses of Malachi.
But that will require a great outpouring of God’s Spirit in the same way we saw Elijah move powerfully… but it’s been promised… and it’s coming!
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
16th April 2018
Fathering – The Key to Raising Disciples that will change a Nation Pt 2
This next multi-series of blog articles on 'Fathering' that I want to write will take us deep into 2018! So over the next several months my objective is to link the vital role of ‘Fathering’ to the raising of disciples that will change a nation.
To achieve that goal, I believe we need a strategy for discipleship that centres around ‘intentional fathering’ as part of everyday life. And I’m not talking about just in our ‘church life’… but in every aspect of life. There needs to be a new way we orient ourselves that allows God to ‘father’ us in ways we have never allowed Him to do so previously.
I want to relate to my wife, my children, those I work with, those I minister to – in the same way my Heavenly Father relates to me. That requires a continual stripping away of every ‘unfathered’ place within me!
I have to hold to the hope that most people desire to go on that very same journey.
Because if we all allowed God to ‘father’ us in such ways… it would lead to authentic and real relationships that mirror the heart of God to all those we invest in within our sphere of influence. Only then would we truly begin to raise formidable sons and daughters of God for the next generation.
For many of us, to pursue that kind of a discipleship process, would lead to feeling like our lives were falling apart as Father God begins to dismantle the ‘unholy’ places within us. I was introduced to a line from a song recently called “Just Be Held” by Casting Crowns that sums this up beautifully:- “Your world’s not falling apart. It’s falling into place”…. provided we allow Him to ‘father’ us.
So, before I can unpack that process, it’s essential we embark on a journey to rediscover what the Biblical model of fatherhood looks like.
So I’m going to go all “bible nerdy” and do some study of the Scriptures. Try to keep up!
When I read the New Testament gospels… I consistently see that the ‘Fatherhood of God’ is the central theme and message of Jesus’ life.
Jesus makes statements in the gospel of John that point to His ‘modelling of the Father’ as a key reason as to why He came. Look at these verses:-
Jesus said: “I and the Father are one” (John 10:30).
“Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6)
“Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.” (John 14:9)
“Believe me when I say I am in the Father and the Father is in me.” (John 14:11)
“that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me”. (John 17:21)
These passages indicate that at least part of Jesus’ role on earth was to demonstrate and reveal the character of Father God to the world. To know Jesus, was to know the Father. Clearly, Jesus is saying that when you experience Him, it’s as good as meeting and experiencing the Father in Heaven. Just as the Father has sent me (to represent His likeness)… so I am sending you (as sons) to also represent the Father.
In John 20:21 Jesus says: “...Peace be with you; as the Father has sent me, I also send you…”.
The word ‘as’ is pivotal in this scripture because Jesus is saying that He was sending out disciples ‘as sons’ in the same way that He Himself had been sent by the Father.
This statement encapsulates how vital Jesus sees ‘fathering’ as a key component of this ‘sending out’. In other words, when Jesus invests into His disciples to be ‘sent out’… it clearly involves learning how to represent the Father – as Jesus represented the Father.
In the same manner as Jesus came to represent the Father... He desires to transform us as disciples (‘sons') who can also be sent out to effectively represent the heart of the Father to this world.
But to do that effectively, means we will need to know the Father - like Jesus knew His Father. Here we strike a problem!
It is our constant experience at Ellel Ministries that those who come to us to be restored and discipled carry a distorted picture of what Father God is like. That is because our concept of God is impacted and shaped by the influence of our earthly fathers.
Sadly, the ‘Father of Lies’ (who is the Devil; John 8:44) has done a very good job of distorting our experience of what Father is like… through our wounded or absent dads!
The Scriptures reference this father wound in Malachi 4:5-6 (KJV) -
“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord. And he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse”.
These last two verses that close the Old Testament become a key turning point for this journey of rediscovering why fatherhood is so crucial to the gospel and the approaching last days.
The Book of Malachi is the last book in the Old Testament. So in that above Malachi passage, the final word written in the Old Testament is the word ‘curse’! Essentially the OT ends with what is described as the Curse of Fatherlessness. The disastrous consequences of this curse has caused universal and global consequences.
This curse relates to the lack of fathering and sonship we observe in the world even today.
It results in a husband walking out on a marriage and abandoning his children; it results in husbands not being able to invest into their wives' hearts; it results in dads wounding their kids with their angry or harsh words or actions that bring harm. These father-wounds are then modeled to the generations that follow and we see repeated patterns occurring within families who come to Ellel Ministries seeking help.
After Malachi penned those final words there would be four hundred years of silence.
Though no one puts an exact date on it, some scholars suggest the writing of the book of Malachi was between 445 and 432 BC. So from the time the final words of Malachi in the Old Testament, to the first words written by Matthew in the New Testament, Israel experienced four centuries without a prophetic voice.
400 years of silence.
In next month’s blog I want to look more closely at just how loudly that ‘period of silence’ is actually shouting at us!
Next month I want to explore what that four hundred year gap between Old Testament and New Testament actually represents!
(NB If you’re looking to do some homework between now and next month on this stuff, do some research on how many years ‘one generation’ is considered to be in Hebrew thinking? See if you can dig up the answer! Then maybe look up Deuteronomy 23:2 while you are at it! There are some powerful points to be drawn from all of this…).
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
20th March 2018
Raising Disciples that will Change a Nation!
How ‘intentional fathering’ needs to become part of every day discipleship if we are to raise formidable sons and daughters of God for the next generation.
For those unaware, apart from being the Centre Director of Ellel Sydney here at “Gilbulla”, I also happen to be an ordained minister, endorsed by the Crosslink Christian Network. As an ordained minister it helps significantly in conversing and building relationship with pastors and ministers with whom Ellel Ministries desires to connect.
The reason I share this with you is because, as an endorsed minister with Crosslink, I usually attend the annual Crosslink National Conference in Canberra each year. It is a great opportunity to connect with senior ministers from across the country. It’s also an opportunity whilst mixing with church leaders to stay in touch with what pressures they are confronted with at the coalface of church leadership. It can also be a bit of a ‘circuit-breaker’ for me that opens up an opportunity for Father God to connect with my heart in a way that often surprises me.
I have to admit, I kind of showed up to last year’s Crosslink Conference without really knowing what the conference was about. The title of the event sounded like it had something to do with evangelism. However, to my genuine surprise, I discovered it was about how to ‘father’ the present generation of ‘sons’ and ‘daughters’ to become the next generation’s leaders! (That topic just happens to be very close to my heart!).
I remembered sitting back listening to the various speakers bringing their slice of the kingdom pie on this powerful issue… I realized I was hearing my own core message being delivered (…for the most part, far better than I could have delivered it myself!)
The highlight for me was listening to a genuine ‘father-son team’ in Peter Nicholes (dad) and Caleb Nicholes (son) from Southern Lights Church in south-eastern Melbourne.
The father, Peter Nicholes, who is the founding father of that Church, shared testimony of his early life and the specifics of his own father-wound. As his testimony unfolded, Peter described an amazing rescue and healing by Father God via the intervention of key individuals who ‘fathered’ him, diverting the course of his life and changing forever the way he invested in his own children. However, it didn’t just change the way Peter fathered his own family, it changed the way he fathered Southern Lights Church!
After Peter finished sharing, Caleb his son took the microphone. Caleb shared what it was like to be raised by his dad, with the ‘intentional fathering’ that was deliberately invested into him, including a story of how his dad Peter arranged for Caleb to experience a Rite of Passage at age 13yrs where he was powerfully blessed and invited to begin a journey into Godly manhood by his Dad. I have to say I don’t meet too many other fathers who, like myself, have gone to the trouble of making that intentional investment in their sons! (The main reason is our own dads were unable to model that to us… because they didn’t receive it from their dads!).
At that Rite of Passage for his son Caleb, Peter Nicholes felt the Spirit of God prompt him to talk to his 13 year old son about seeking God on whether the Lord wanted Caleb to succeed his dad as the Senior Pastor of Southern Lights Church! Caleb agreed to seek the Lord in the years that lay ahead regarding that assignment. In fact, Caleb went on to explain that the Lord set a deep desire in his heart at that young age to be ready to take over the reins of his dad’s flock by his 30th birthday!
Peter (the father) set about from that point to establish into young Caleb all that would be needed in character and gifting to take over his dad’s mantle. Together they achieved that goal a year earlier than expected… Caleb became his father’s successor as the new Senior Pastor of Southern Lights church at 29 years of age.
That was about 7 years ago. Caleb has been leading that church now since 2011. They went on to explain that the discipleship model they offer within their church focuses very strongly on fathering and sonship as the main premise to raise and disciple the next generation of leaders.
Listening to both Peter and Caleb share their testimonies of how they are transforming shame-filled believers into formidable sons and daughters of Abba Father… I sat there quite transfixed to their every word!
Both men know full well there is a Curse of Fatherlessness that assaults each generation!... and they have developed a powerful, practical and intentional way of overcoming that curse!... (that involves intentional fathering; discipleship and prayer ministry) all within a local church setting!
I have to say, I was impressed with what I was hearing. But have you had that feeling of “this looks a little too good to be true!”.
I was left wondering if I visited their church… what would I really find?
I approached Peter and Caleb Nicholes about coming down to Melbourne to go hang out with these guys for a few days to watch, listen and learn from them. They welcomed the idea and it was arranged.
So late last year I went down to Melbourne to investigate the heartbeat of Southern Lights Church and see what kind discipleship model they were offering. In summary, I was impressed. What I found were quality people who are determined to see the next generation of saints raised and developed, and the ‘vehicle’ they are using to do that is called “Excelerate Discipleship Training” or their EDT program. (‘Excelerate’ is deliberately mis-spelt by the way!). This program is the closest I’ve seen to our own “Year of Discipleship” or YDT program here at Gilbulla. And as our relationship grows with this church I’m hoping Ellel Sydney can build a symbiotic relationship that allows both organisations to benefit and learn from each other.
On that trip to Melbourne I happened to take my second eldest son Matthew down with me… and it changed the direction of his life! He had planned to go overseas to continue his discipleship path before he hopped on that plane to Melbourne with me. However after meeting many of the students on the EDT program firsthand whilst down in Melbourne… Matthew came home with a serious wrestle with God on his hands! He spent a week grappling with God over the next step for his life… it was a tough week for his heart. But as Father God gently came alongside my Matthew, he came to the conclusion that Abba’s best for him was to apply for the Excelerate Discipleship Training program in Melbourne, and so Matthew was accepted into the 2018 intake and is now living down there and participating in their discipleship program… and he’s loving it!
So now with one of my precious sons closely involved, I have a personal interest in staying connected!
Having been genuinely encouraged by what Peter and Caleb Nicholes are offering on the subject of ‘fathering’…. I thought I might add some of my own learning to this most powerful of subjects and why it’s such a crucial component to raising disciples in the days that lay ahead!
So watch out over the next few months for another multi-part series I’m developing on “Fathering and Sonship” and how that feeds into raising disciples that will change a nation!
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
23rd February 2018
Review Regarding Religious Freedoms
Last week on 14 February 2018, the deadline closed for submissions regarding the Review into Religious Freedoms here in Australia.
(If you didn’t even know there was a Review being held into Religious Freedoms here in Australia, then sadly, you probably weren’t the only one! I have to say, there wasn’t a great deal of time made available to get submissions prepared… nor was it well advertised that such a review of religious freedoms in this country was even taking place).
The stated objective of this Review ordered by the Australian Government was to examine and report on whether Australian law (Commonwealth, State and Territory) adequately protects the human right to freedom of religion. Whilst undertaking this Review, the Panel that has been assembled is charged with considering the intersections between the enjoyment of the freedom of religion and other human rights issues. Once the Panel’s review findings are complete, it will make recommendations to the Prime Minister.
How we arrived at this point for such a Review to be taking place is likely due to the recent marriage debate here in this country. It all centres around how we see ourselves as human beings, how we view our sexuality, how we view marriage and the design we believe God has for our happiness as a person (assuming you believe in God).
But sadly, this subject is so volatile and reactionary, so filled with accusation and vilification, that reasonable conversation has become almost impossible between the opposing parties. So it appears the government has ordered this Review to potentially bring about even more legislation changes to protect whoever they deem needs to be protected.
Regardless of the Review’s findings, I would like to point out something I feel will only be helpful to the person wanting to take the teachings of Jesus Christ seriously:- Jesus believed humanity has a design to it. He said we are made in the image of God — a truth that would do wonders for this planet if the world would embrace it. Jesus also believed that gender was part of the created order, teaching that we were made “male and female” Matthew 19:4 (quoting Genesis 2). Now, whatever else that implies, Jesus clearly felt that gender is something woven into our created being, not something of our own choice or making.
Therefore, I believe the Christian starting point on this issue has to be this: human gender is something designed by God. And only by finding His design for us can we flourish. For He alone can assure us of our true identity and worth as a person. Once you abandon the truth that human gender is something designed by God, you will find you need to distance yourself from Scripture as a whole, or rewrite it, or reinterpret it in ways that become completely incompatible with the Christ that the Scriptures point to.
You can of course choose to abandon the Scriptures. However, once you abandon the reliability of the Gospel witness of Jesus Christ and depart from the Scriptures Jesus clearly based his whole teaching on, you will no longer have anything resembling Christianity. Because you will no longer have anything resembling who Christ is or what He taught.
Christians here in Australia have for many generations been blessed with great freedom and privilege. Those freedoms are fast diminishing. At this time, our government is reviewing exactly what our religious freedoms will look like in the days ahead. Federal legislation, up until very recently, reflected a view of marriage akin to what Jesus said in Matthew 19:4 where it states that people are created by God as either male or female and marriage was a reflection of that. The Scriptures go on to say that the idea of marriage described in those passages presumes a unique relationship between a man and a woman who are joined together by God and live their lives in an exclusive life-long union where the two become one.
Since the success of the “Yes” vote in the same sex marriage postal plebiscite last year, legislation in Australia has now been passed that redefines the definition of marriage allowing any two people to marry.
Some people in our society have already demonstrated they are prepared to accuse, judge and condemn people who choose to still agree with the Biblical viewpoint stated by Jesus in Matthew 19.
The catch-cry of “bigot” has often been used to describe those who hold to the above-described biblical viewpoint that marriage should be between one man and one woman.
The assumption is that those who hold the traditional biblical view must therefore hate people who have a different view. That is simply not the case. To take that stance is just a form of public bullying to try and silence another’s point of view. For my own part, if someone has a different view about gender and marriage, I will respect those people who hold that view. I don’t share their view, that’s all. It’s stunning how blatantly irrational the cry of “bigotry” is in this instance. For example, if you examine some of my own close personal relationships – you will find there is often disagreement! I’ve been married for nearly 30 years and my wife disagrees with me from time to time on certain issues. I have disagreed with friends at times. I have even disagreed with my children at times. But I still love them all dearly. The idea of disagreement assuming hatred is really just a malicious attempt to intimidate. Sadly the people who are using this approach receive a lot of favour from some media organisations and they are experts at using social media to punch out their slogans.
Sadly as Christians, I believe we have laid part of the foundation for this attack that we are now under. For too long we have pointed angrily to the Scriptures and accusingly highlighted the sin. But I wonder how many of us have actually spent time coming alongside a person who is distressed about the gender they were born as? Or invited a homosexual over for dinner? Or had a lesbian come and spend time with our families?
John 1:17 states in NIV: “For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ”. We seem to have forgotten that truth needs to be spoken with grace and love.
My heart would be to see every Disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ not just be willing to quote the law of Scripture on this issue, but to actively pursue a course which would see us guilty on two counts:- 1.Guilty of speaking truth, and; 2. Guilty of showing undeniable grace and love. The first is much easier than the second.
I’m not sure what the outcome of this Review into Religious Freedoms will be (and though I will be praying that as Christians we get some protections back we seem to have lost…) if I were a betting man, I’d put money on the outcome not being so favourable towards Christians. (1 Thess 3:4; 2 Tim 3:12)
If the findings of this Religious Freedoms Review place Christians in a worse position than we have ever found ourselves in before, Jesus reminds us not to be alarmed! We also need to remember that Jesus had some things to say about people who take adversarial positions from ours:- love them, bless them, do good to them and pray for them. We as Christians are the ones who have a clear mandate for such a time as this.
I would also suggest you consider connecting with people from the LGBTQI community. Listen to their views and their feelings. Find out how to love them as people. Just like every other human being on the planet, regardless of whatever life has thrown at them… they have been created in the image of God just like you and me; and they are loved by Him.
It may cost you some of your latent prejudice to hang out with homosexuals, but it won’t cost you your conviction as to what the truth is.
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
24th January 2018
G'day ... and Happy New Year!
The Romance Part 3
Over the back end of 2017, the running theme has centred around grasping what it means for Father God to ‘romance’ His children. This is the final instalment in that series. (Why not go back and have glance at the past few blog entries to see what this “Romance” is all about…)
In last November’s article I made this statement:-
"At some point in this “romance” we have to take a chance that God is actually safe and good! The struggle to believe that He is good is often the obstacle that stands in the way of letting God pursue us. If we have bought into the lie that God is not good… then we won’t believe God has our best interest at heart; we won’t believe He can be trusted. Ultimately, we will not trust that God is safe."
And then I followed that statement with:-
So let me dig a little deeper on this issue:-
- Can you learn to trust God in a way that lays down all of your defenses?
- Could you ever allow for a life that exists beyond trying to protect yourself?
- Is it possible to move away from the realm that always requires analysis; to let some portions of your life be impractical; to cease evaluating all things based on their utility, function or effectiveness?
- Are you willing to let go of your doggedness to control? Bottom line - are you willing to let go… and let God in?
In learning how to allow Father God to ’romance’ us… we need to understand that it is our fear that stands in the way of trusting Him. Our anxiousness actually drives us toward rebellion and control… and that pushes God even further away! That lack of trust ‘closes the door’ on The Great Lover!
So, I need to ask how serious you are about allowing God to become more intimate with you?
Allow me now to ask some more questions…
- Are you willing to let desire and hunger rise within you? (Even though it will undoubtedly rattle and unnerve you?)
- Will you allow Him to come so close as to invite healing and restoration for your heart?
- Are you willing, at some level, to begin to be “undone” by a holy God who has been pursuing you relentlessly for some time now?
If you are game enough (or desperate enough!) to whisper “yes” to those questions… then we may proceed.
To enter into this Romance requires us to slow down, or we will miss how the Father is courting us (John Eldredge refers to it as “the wooing”). Turn off the TV and Netflix; get off all your devices. You might want to put on some gentle music that speaks to your heart. Perhaps you could even step outside into the sunshine for a walk – daring the Creator to meet you in His creation. Maybe you could take up creative writing or begin journaling. Maybe try sketching or just paint onto a blank canvas whatever is on your heart.
Better still, what has stirred your heart repeatedly over the years? What grabs your eye – and your heart – every time you see it? Go back to that… recover what was lost back then! (Better yet, ask The Father to help you recover it! He doesn’t want you to do this alone anymore… He wants to Father you).
All this is very hard to do – I know. Especially if we have spent years burying our heart behind a ‘to do’ list! But remember—“what the evil one does to a good warrior… is to bury him with battles” states Eldredge. Satan’s goal is to wear us down with battle after battle. But life is not meant to be all about the battle. There is a Lover of our soul who has been ‘calling’ to us for some time now. The romance is always central. Because ‘The Romancer’ wants to be central to our hearts. We need Him to be central to our hearts!
Listen to the Psalmist David:
Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me, even then will I be confident.
One thing I ask of the Lord, this is what I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord. (Ps. 27:3–4 NIV)
David, the bloodied warrior king, knew what it was like to be in the thick of the battle. But he also confidently knew what it is to have God come through for him in the midst of those battles. David’s heart will not fear – because he has found a place (“though an army besiege me” ) where God’s perfect love forbids fear from taking hold (1 John 4:18 reminds us that Gods perfect love casts our fear!).
David has ‘war’ breaking out all around him. But, he does not make ‘war’ the central issue. What he seeks is not the battle—what he seeks is to spend “all the days of his life” dwelling with the Lord. David is seeking to bathe in the beauty that only a romance with God can provide. For David knows that from a place of intimacy with God, the Lord can then give David the battle plan he needs for victory!
For David to say that he seeks “to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord”… suggests we must remember that the real battle is for the Romance!
What we are fighting for is the removal of everything “that stands between our face and God’s face” says Thom Gardner.
To enter into this romance is to discover a freedom and a restoration that emanates only from deep intimacy with God. That is what my heart yearns for… What does your heart yearn for?
May I suggest that if we make any kind of New Year resolution for 2018, make it one that lines up with King David’s pursuit of ‘The Romance”… one that says, Lord Jesus, I want to seek “to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord”. And remember, the real battle is actually to prevent you from entering into the Romance! Because from that place of intimacy with Father God is where we discover the battle plans that lead to victory.
Don’t let the enemy steal that from you any longer.
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
22nd November 2017
The Romance Part 2
Over the previous couple of blog entries, I have been attempting to unpack what it means for Father God to “romance” his children. Before continuing that theme, I’d like to ask if you attempted either of those ‘heart exercises’ I suggested last month? (If you’ve just joined the conversation I would highly recommend going back and reading my last two blog entries, then give those exercises a go!)
Regarding this “romance”, I firmly believe Abba Father has been trying to pursue me for quite a while. (The greater truth is that He’s been trying to get my attention for decades. I have been too dull to notice Father God’s advances towards me until more recent years).
What I have learned personally on the journey thus far is that we cannot orchestrate what “The Great Romancer” does in this expedition of the heart.
Father God simply calls and invites. Our role is to accept or reject. For too many years I chose to ‘reject’ His gentle invitations.
But I have also come to understand this… to gain the most out of what Father God is up to - requires a stance or a posture that we must take. It requires an openness to His pursuit of our heart. It requires vulnerability on our part.
Most of us, sadly, are not so great at being vulnerable or opening our hearts… for that is how we got hurt in the first place!
For other people their life experiences suggest “Father” is not a safe term.
Whatever the negatives are in our story… we won’t find it easy to open up to the “romance” that we are being invited to enter until those areas are healed. The ‘Catch 22’ situation we find ourselves in, is that we will need to trust Abba Father in order get healed!
If we don’t learn how to let God begin “romancing” us we will never be able to let go of the fears that prevent God getting close to us (or let anyone get close for that matter!).
If we can just take a few deep breaths; and let go of the steering wheel even just a little… we might be surprised how God might come alongside us. If you can let go, even just a fraction… that may release God to connect with you in a more intimate way.
Unfortunately, many find it a struggle to believe God would ever give them anything good. If your formative years were not all that they should have been, and you’re one who struggles to trust… then you probably find it difficult to believe that God has good things to give you.
If you’re in that camp… I have some things I’d like you to ponder:-
Scripture says God is a good Father. Would an evil father give their child a snake when they ask for an egg – no of course not – so how much more will your Heavenly Father, who is good, give the Holy Spirit to those who ask? (Luke 11:11-13).
At some point in this “romance” we have to take a chance that God is actually safe! The struggle to believe that He is good is often the obstacle that stands in the way of letting God pursue us. If we have bought into the lie that God is not good… then we won’t believe God has our best interest at heart; ultimately, we won’t believe God can be trusted.
No romance can truly succeed without trust.
So let me dig a little deeper on this issue:-
Can you learn to trust God in a way that lays down all of your defences?
Could you ever allow for a life that exists beyond trying to protect yourself?
Is it possible to move away from the realm that always requires analysis; to let some portions of your life be impractical; to cease evaluating all things based on their utility, function or effectiveness?
I’m basically asking are you willing to let go of your doggedness to control?
Bottom line - are you willing to let go… and let God in?
If the answer is ‘yes’… then you are closer to entering into this “romance” with God than you first thought.
In the Blog to follow (which will be in the New Year), I’ll wrap up this little mini-series on “The Romance” with a closing article next January.
For now let me wish you a very happy and holy Christmas from myself and the whole Ellel Sydney team. Let me leave you with the description given in Isaiah 9:6 of this God who is pursuing us: “For unto us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will rest upon his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counsellor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace…” (who wouldn’t want to be “romanced” by that God!)
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Sydney
24th October 2017
Last month I wrote about the passing of my Uncle Mick and how his death tapped into something deep within in me. What it touched into was a longing to return to a very special time of ‘romance’ in my childhood. It was a delightful season which God took me back to so He could come alongside me and reveal things I had not previously seen or understood about that season. Through that, Father God brought further healing and clarity to my heart in some much needed areas (See last month’s blog to read more about my story).
Since then I have had some conversations with one or two folk who were touched by what I wrote in the last blog, but the one thing they could not grasp was that a Holy God would want to “romance” them! And judging how a handful of others have since asked me “what exactly is this romance with God that you’re referring to?”... that suggests to me there might be more than just a few Christians who find it hard to comprehend that God wants to “romance” them.
So over the next one or two blog entries, I might try to unpack what it means for God to “romance” his children.
To be honest, ‘the romance” is not an easy thing to describe! It’s about the mystery of how a Holy God continually looks for ways to pursue our hearts and this idea that God wants to “romance” us is really describing the intimate ways God tries to connect with us.
The biggest obstacle to entering into this “romance” with God – is actually ourselves!
You see, whether we realise it or not - we have shut our hearts down. The wounds we have suffered and the lies we consequently believe have caused us to close our hearts. It’s a form of protection. But sometimes in attempting to protect ourselves – we harden our hearts. For most of us it’s just too risky to open up and allow a mysterious romance to begin with an Almighty God… in which we have no control over the outcomes. It is always our fears that drive us to control things in life… and being in control of our life gives us the illusion of feeling safe.
This self-protection mode we find ourselves in urges us to block Father God’s advances towards us.
In those moments where our fear and rebellion close our heart to God’s advances – it is trust that has been lost. Our God is a gentleman. He will not draw near to a person who outwardly is saying: “Where are you God? I need you!”, but on the inside is screaming: “Don’t come any closer! I do not trust you God!”.
And so Father God will not draw near out of respect for our truer wishes… but the consequences are that we miss out on His embrace; and He misses out on cuddling His kids.
If we are serious about wanting to go deeper on this ‘romance’ with God… it will require an unravelling of all the above-mentioned issues that lead us to be afraid; untrusting and controlling. Undoing all the root causes of that is not an easy or a swift assignment.
The first time I heard about God wanting to “romance” us came from a book called “The Sacred Romance” by Brent Curtis and John Eldredge. The theme of God desiring a sacred romance with us is brilliantly unpacked in this book. (If you are serious about wanting to understand this better, do yourself a favour and call the Ellel Reception and order the book!).
The key point from “The Sacred Romance” is that the Lord desires to come alongside us by recovering from our memory those fond childhood moments – through which He may want to speak to us.
So how does Father God connect with us and “romance” us through childhood memories?
Well, Holy Spirit could surprise you in a number of ways, but it will always be very unique and special to your story, for only Father God truly knows your heart:-
- It might take place as you hear a song on the radio that takes you back to a different time and deeply impacts you…
- Or perhaps a book you are reading touches something deep within you and moves you powerfully…
- Or you find yourself watching a movie and a particular scene brings a tear to your eye…
When we experience any of those above moments, we are often rattled and confused by what is surfacing in our own hearts. In such emotional instants, when something deep in our spirit is uncovered, we usually dismiss it quickly or bury the memory or feeling… why? Because we like to control our lives, remember. We don’t like it when Father God makes advances towards us that cause us to become undone. So we resist and close our hearts once again.
To enter into “The Sacred Romance” we need to learn to respond differently in those moments.
Whichever way God chooses to get our attention, whether it be songs; books; movies or in other ways… His desire is to surface a longing or yearning in our hearts, so He can address something in us today as the adult. He wants to go deeper with us. He wants to “romance” us. God is in fact courting us in that moment.
The next time a Holy God slips past your guard and you are ‘undone’ by a song; or a book; or a line in movie;… I want to suggest you ask these questions:- “Father God, is that you calling to me? Why is this impacting me? What are you trying to show me or reveal to me in this moment?”
I hold great hope for those willing to ask such questions that they will enter the sacred romance.
Ultimately, the “romance” is about Father God’s pursuit of His children’s hearts.
To gain eyes to see and understand this requires us to take a certain position. It requires a re-orientation of how we view God. It requires a shift in how we learn to recognise Abba Father reaching out to us. I’d like to explore this further next month…
In the meantime, I’d like to you to consider these two exercises:-
- Would you make time where you can just stop; pause; breathe; and be still. Don’t rush this. Take a few minutes to quieten your heart. Then from that quiet place, invite Holy Spirit to meet with you. He just may take you back to a special time during your formative years. A memory of His choosing; not yours! Not a memory that you have to strive to come up with; but rather a memory that Father God surprises you with! A time perhaps when you were young and all was good, safe and fun-loving… And if such a memory comes to mind, just simply keep your eyes closed and stay in it. Enjoy it. Allow Abba Father to make Himself known to you in the midst of it. Better yet, ask Him to show you where He is in that memory. Then simply enjoy His presence…
- The next time a Holy God finds a way to slip past your guard and some emotions surface, please don’t bury that thought or feeling. The next time you are ‘undone’ by a song, book movie, etc., ask this question:- “Father God is that you calling to me? Why is this impacting me Lord? What are you trying to reveal to me in this moment?”
To do either of the above is to ask God to “romance” you.
Until next time,
Centre Director, Ellel Gilbulla
20th September 2017
Uncle Mick's Passing
On Sunday, 3rd September 2017, an uncle of mine named Robert (Mick) O’Connor passed away.
I had penciled-in to go and visit him in hospital the very next day on Monday 4th September, but death is no respecter of diaries. I was deeply disappointed not to have seen my Uncle Mick one more time. I would have loved to have enjoyed a few last moments with him, laughing and reminiscing about extended family holidays and hearing some very entertaining stories (none that I could repeat here!).
What I really wanted to say to him was a personal thank you for his ‘father-like” investment in me in the absence of my own dad. It would have been nice to have honoured him in that way face to face. However, that was not to be. And just as disheartening was the fact that his funeral clashed with a long standing commitment I had made to run a Modular event at our Ellel Perth centre… so my disappointment was doubled when I could not attend his funeral held on the 10th September. (However, I must report that God honoured that sacrifice by doing some amazing things in the lives of those who attended the WA event!).
But in all, I have to honestly report that my uncle’s passing last week has been somewhat unsettling for me.
Uncle Mick was in some way “the last of the Mohicans”! His passing represents an end of an era for my extended family. All of my older male ancestors are now gone. He was the last of my parent’s generation.
I am now the elder patriarch of my family line. And I find that rather sobering.
So the question I have been pursuing in these last few days is “Why has my uncle’s passing unsettled me?”
Admittedly there has not been much time to just stop and try to process things. But once I completed my Perth assignment and settled back into Aisle seat 28B on flight QF569 home-bound for Sydney, that gave me 4 hours to be still and invite Father God to reveal some missing pieces of the puzzle to me. Here is what Father God has been showing me ...
A book came to mind that I read years ago by Brent Curtis and John Eldredge called “The Sacred Romance”. One poignant point from that book that stayed with me was how God could use a special time in your childhood to “romance” you today as an adult – (ie God getting your attention today as an adult, by recalling to your memory the way He pursued your heart in fond childhood moments). The message of ‘The Sacred Romance’ is that God can ‘call to us’ as adults by surfacing precious moments in our childhood in a way that deepens our walk with Him today. Perhaps even reveal something fresh that He wants us to pursue for His kingdom purpose in the future.
With regard to my own “Romance” in childhood, Uncle Mick (and his era) represented a special window of respite for me from an otherwise broken and dysfunctional upbringing. It was a unique time in my childhood that has long since passed. But nonetheless it is a time set deep in my memory and my heart which the Lord has been ‘calling’ me back to recently. Almost as though there is more healing and restoration He has yet to do in my heart or more of destiny and purpose He wants to reveal from that childhood experience.
That “Romance” period of my life involved every Christmas school holiday from ever since I could remember until I was 18 years of age. Every summer my mother, my brother and I would travel and gather with the whole extended family for about a month at my grandfather's holiday home at Narooma on the south coast of NSW.
They were an amazing four weeks every year in my childhood, where we’d alternate between days at Lake Corunna water-skiing; days playing and swimming at Narooma or Dalmeny beach; and days out chasing bream and flathead on streams and lakes!
If I close my eyes I can remember the smell of the freshly caught fish cooking with lemon-pepper seasoning on the open wood barbecue in the backyard or a big sizzling steak hitting the hotplate! Cousins running around everywhere playing ‘chase’! Aunties all busy in the kitchen or attending to children’s needs. I can still picture the intricate sand castles we kids erected on the beach whilst all the adults lazed around like beached whales sun-tanning on their beach towels. Back then sun protection consisted of a beach umbrella and zinc cream (which only came in one colour – humiliating white!).
I can remember the smell of high octane V8-engined water-ski boats thundering across the water pulling us along. With every new level of waterskiing skill that I gained, it was testimony to my uncles who patiently coached me until I’d mastered each skill. It was like a series of mini rite-of-passages for me… learning to ski on knee boards; then two skis; two skis to one ski; one ski to no skies (ie barefooting!). And the cheer of encouragement those ‘proxy’ fathers gave me when I mastered a new level… It made me start to believe that I did have what it took to conquer the challenges that lay ahead in my life. There was a significant sense of value and worth imparted to me from those men during that era. That is an investment I will be forever thankful for!
My Grandfather, Uncle Graham and Uncle Mick (my mother’s father and her two younger brothers) all played key roles in filling an empty place in my soul at a critical time in my development. My early formative years were filled with the trauma of a parent’s separation and divorce, the abandonment of a father who’d moved out and the uncertainty that followed.
Over the years, I have come to appreciate more and more just what a staggering gift and dramatic rescue those summers were for me. (Thank you Father God!). Oh how I wish everyone could have been as blessed as me during those fun-filled family Christmas holidays.
In fact the “Romance” can come for each of us in many ways, thank God! What was it for you in your childhood? Did you chase grasshoppers; visit the old library with a grandparent; read favorite books? Was it your first snow trip; roasting marshmallows over an open fire; secret tree houses built high up in a tree? What fond memories of your childhood does God keep bringing to mind? And what is He trying to communicate to you through re-visiting that time?
Can I just say this from personal experience… that re-discovering that time and allowing Father God to show you where He was in those years and what He was doing, perhaps previously unseen by you —can be one of our life’s greatest treasures for us as an adult. What God may speak into our hearts during that process could be profound.
Although I did not get to say this at my Uncle Mick’s funeral, I would like to say it here:
“Thanks Uncle Mick (and Uncle Graham and Grandad) for the legacy you deposited into my heart and into my spirit. My own five sons and daughter have benefitted greatly – because they are now receiving what was poured into me during that season. I pray that I am half the patriarch you all were. May you all rest in peace”
And I want to also say a huge thank you to my Heavenly Father, who for so many years I believed had abandoned me during those early formative years (just as my own earthly dad had done). But in fact God was right there during that turbulent period of my youth weaving and orchestrating His rescue plan for me!
He truly is an amazing Father.
Until next time,
Centre Director, Gilbulla
23rd August 2017
Ever had a day when everyone seems to get a look-in except you?
Let's quickly re-visit the story of Korah's rebellion from last month in Numbers Chapter 16.
A Levite priest wants to usurp Aaron and take over the priesthood, and at the same time remove Moses from leadership!
The key person at the centre of this story, Korah, was a descendant of the Kohathites. They were Levite priests granted high duties in the service of the Lord at the Tabernacle. But for Korah, this high honour was not enough. He desired more. His ultimate ambition was to assume the role of High Priest. He wanted to replace Aaron. So he manipulatively rallied others to his cause in an attempt to achieve that ambition. But to achieve that goal, he would also have to depose Moses as Leader!
Korah rallied a large group of prominent men to come alongside him. In Numbers 16:2-3 it states: “With them were over 250 Israelite men, well-known community leaders who had been appointed members of the Council. They came as a group to oppose Moses and Aaron…”.
Now, let’s pick up where we left off last month and see what happens next…
The text describes how the disgruntled men who stood against Moses and Aaron were challenged to come to the Tent of Meeting with fire in their censers. (This trial was now to be decided by fire!). The 250 men aligned with Korah came arrogantly to stand against Moses and Aaron at the entrance to the Tent of Meeting. The Almighty spoke with words of impending doom for this rebellious group (vs19-21). Their punishment was fittingly ironic: The 250 men who dared to present themselves as priests before the Lord with fire in their censors were themselves put to death by fire (vs 35) sent from the Lord, after they had been swallowed by the earth!
What a powerful vindication of Moses and Aaron by the Lord God Almighty!
Interestingly, it was the true Priests who were asked to collect the censers of the 250 deceased impostors. The true priests plucked the censors from the impostor’s charred remains and hammered them into bronze sheets to form part of the Altar in the Tent of Meeting. That bronze Altar became a memorial to the folly of a “self-proclaimed” priest (vs39-40).
So, what lessons are in this story?
Back to my opening question! Ever feel like everyone else seems to be getting a look-in except you? Ever had days where you feel like you should be getting a lot more recognition offered to you? I’ll bet there have been times you grumbled and complained because you felt you were owed something… right!?! Perhaps it has even crossed your mind to whine to others about your plight in the hope of gaining a following that supports you in your cause…. (you wouldn’t be the first!).
What Korah’s Rebellion teaches me is that whenever I’m “owed something” I am on very dangerous ground! The temptation is often to take things into your own hands and try to manipulate to get the result you want.
Instead of taking that track… far better to take my complaint to Father God.
Once I’ve unloaded all my disappointment and anger on God privately… it’s amazing how much clearer I can think AFTER the emotions have been ‘handed over’ to the Lord. Suddenly, the “fog” clears and I can begin to see what it is the Heavenly Father needs me to understand at that time.
Allow me to offer some simple advice…
…next time you’re thinking you’re owed something and you want to take matters into your own hands (to self-promote)… consider what happened to Korah and his 250 mates!
Sadly, just as Lucifer was not satisfied with the key position he had been given in heaven, so too Korah and his followers were clearly unhappy with the high position given to them. Korah was operating under the same ‘Luciferin influence’ that caused the very first rebellion in heaven (Rev 12). The similarities are too many to discard!
The outcome for both Lucifer and his fallen angels and similarly Korah and his rebellious priests – is not something I particularly want to experience!
I have never seen it work out well for those who take the path of ‘self-promotion’. But those who keep their heart right and choose to put their trust in the Lord (like Moses and Aaron) are often vindicated in due course.
Maybe the next time you feel hard done by; or overlooked; feel unheard; unvalued; or not appreciated…instead of trying to get the result you’re after (via grumbling, gossiping; or manipulative means of self-promotion) you might want to ask yourself these questions:-
“What are you trying to teach me in this situation Father God?”
“What issues in my heart are you trying to surface through this road-block?”
“What is it you want me to see about myself, that I’ve never had eyes to see before?”
“What are you asking me to let go of Father God, which I have been resisting?”
“What is it you want me to do Lord, that I have been too fearful to do previously?”
“Is there anything unholy within me, Father God, that you want to dismantle?”
I do not hold much hope for those who insist on the path of self-promotion (and I certainly do not want to be standing next to them when the fire falls!).
However, I hold great hope for those who are humble enough and courageous enough to ask God those above-mentioned questions!
In fact, it’s my experience that those prepared to ask the Heavenly Father those kind of probing questions about the state of their own heart… they are usually the ones who end up being both vindicated and elevated by God – in due time at the appropriate hour!
Go back and read through those questions again.
Allow them to sink in, so when you next feel ‘owed something’ or ‘overlooked’… those questions might come to mind… and save you from a truck load of trouble!
Until next time,
Centre Director, Gilbulla
19th July 2017
When We Think We're Owed Something
Have you ever felt like you are owed something, or deserve better or even feel like you are being overlooked?
I want to follow on from last month’s concept of ‘feeling overlooked’ where we examined how Lucifer wanted to steal God’s throne for himself (described in Isaiah 14 in the Five “I Will’s”). You might recall the outcome involved Lucifer and about one-third of the angels being thrown out of heaven (see Rev 12).
Interestingly, that kind of desire to elevate oneself isn’t really isolated. Scripture reveals similar stories from time to time where something unholy surfaces in the heart of a person and the consequences that outwork are disastrous!
This month we’ll look at an individual in the Bible who wreaks havoc simply because he felt he deserved better! This person takes the path of ‘self-promotion’ which always a dangerous path!
In the Book of Numbers, Chapter 16, there is a story about a man named Korah who led a rebellion against Moses. The outcome is shocking!
Every time I begin to feel disgruntled, or overlooked or when I think I’m owed something… this tale reminds me to check my heart attitude before I say or do something that I may later regret.
It is a story that sobers me every time I re-visit it!
Let’s explore it together and I’ll offer some key “insights” as we go…
The key person at the centre of this story, Korah, happens to be a descendant of a man named Kohathite.
The Kohathites were Levites who were granted high duties in the service of the Lord at the Tabernacle. But for Korah, this particular high honour was not enough. He desired even more. His ultimate ambition was to assume the role of the High Priest. He wanted to replace Aaron. So he manipulatively rallied others to his cause in an attempt to achieve that ambition.
The scriptures reveal that Korah “…became insolent and rose up against Moses”. (Numbers 16:1-2).
In fact, Korah had rallied a very large group of prominent people to side with him… It states in Numbers 16:2-3:
“With them were over 250 Israelite men, well-known community leaders who had been appointed members of the Council. They came as a group to oppose Moses and Aaron…”.
I always find it interesting that when a person ‘rises up against’ those in rightful authority… they often convince others to side with them in their offense!
Insight No 1:- When someone else is offended and begins to gossip against those in authority… be wary of the enemy’s plot to ‘rally a mob’. This strategy is designed to get others to also rise up against Godly authority… do not join them!!
It is not our role to ‘remove’ key leaders from positions of authority. That is God’s role. Daniel 5:21b states: “…the Most High is sovereign over the kingdoms of men and sets over them any one he wishes”.
God is the one who ultimately appoints and removes those in leadership. Be wary of those who want to go about such things in ungodly ways… it only ever leads to pain and misery.
So how did Moses respond to Korah arriving on his doorstep with 250 grumbling men?
Moses wisely chose to let God be his defender rather than squabble with this aggravated hoard. He simply declared:- “In the morning the Lord will show who belongs to Him and who is holy…”. (vs5).
Insight No 2:- Moses immediately recognized what was unfolding before him was unholy. Moses was confident that neither he, nor Aaron, had done anything to deserve the assault that came against them. Therefore he trusted that the Lord would defend him!
Sometimes I wonder if we act too soon to defend ourselves with rash responses and actions when situations come against us. If our hearts are truly right before God and there is no wrong doing on our part… maybe we need to have a little more faith that our Heavenly Father will come through in defending us.
Do you believe that Abba Father wants to protect and defend you when you come under assault?
When we look closer at what steps Moses took when he was under assault… he did offer this strong rebuke:-
“You Levites have gone too far!” (Vs7). “…isn’t it enough for you that the God of Israel has separated you from the rest of the Israelite community and brought you near to Himself to work at the Lord’s tabernacle and to stand before the community to minister to them?”(vs 9-10).
“…but now you are trying to get the priesthood too. It is against the Lord that you and all your followers have banded together”. (vs 10-11).
Insight No 3:- When we rise up against leadership who have been rightly appointed by God, those above verses demonstrate it is not just the individual leaders we are challenging… We are also standing ‘against the Lord’ who appointed those leaders (when we grumble, gossip and complain about them!)
Furthermore, I never cease to be amazed at how those who are offended end up with ‘distorted lenses’… for example when we get to Verse 13 we find this group charge Moses with having led the people “out of a land flowing with milk and honey”! Now that is bizarre… because by some strange alchemy… in the minds of those coming against Moses, Egypt (the nation that had enslaved and tortured them) had somehow transformed from prison to paradise!
It truly is amazing how sin blinds us to the truth! Wounded embittered people often lose sight of the truth and buy into deception and lies.
Next month we’ll continue exploring this tale of ‘Korah’s Rebellion’ to discover whether or not God rescues Moses and Aaron from this angry mob… the end result is truly astonishing!
Until next time,
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
24th June 2017
Be Wary of the Five "I Wills"!
Have you ever felt like life is just unfair sometimes?
You know those times when we think we’re owed something!
Maybe your boss is under-selling you! Or he’s just not seeing your true potential? Did you ever wish you could just elevate yourself to the position you believe you deserve?
The problem with self-promotion is that it doesn’t have a good track record in the Bible!
You might recall there was once a mighty Angel in heaven named Lucifer, who also felt a sense of entitlement! And that led to a rebellion in heaven, where Lucifer and one third of the angels who also rebelled with him – were all cast down to earth (Rev 12).
In Isaiah Chapter 14 we get an insight into Lucifer’s sense of entitlement expressed in verses 12-15, in what theologians refer to as the Five “I Wills” that display Lucifer’s dissatisfaction, pride, rebellion and desire for self-promotion.
Vs 12 “How you have fallen from heaven O morning star…” (in scripture, angels are often referred to as ‘stars’!) “…you have been cast down to earth”.
Vs13 “You said in your heart, I will ascend to heaven." (Self–will)
“I will raise my throne above the stars of God.” (Self–exaltation)
“I will sit enthroned on the mount of assembly on the utmost heights of the sacred mountain.” (Self-enthronement)
Vs14 “I will ascend above the tops of the clouds.” (Self-ascension)
“I will make myself like the Most High.” (self-deification)
Vs15 “But you are brought down to the grave to the depths of the pit”
Lucifer chose a path ‘independent of God’ – which is really the definition of rebellion.
Satan believed he knew better. In his pride, he exalted himself. He wanted to take the place of God!
Consequently, he was brought down by the Most High. We see in Rev 12:7-9, the Arch-angel Michael and two-thirds of the holy angels that stayed true… threw Lucifer and the rebellious one-third of the ‘stars’ (angels) out of heaven and down to earth (see also Rev 12:4). Even Jesus testified to having witnessed ‘Satan fall from heaven like lightning’ in Luke 10:18.
Lucifer thought he deserved the top job.
In God’s eyes, that kind of pride made him dangerous!
Ironically, when we feel we are owed something… that can make us dangerous too! It never ceases to amaze me how we often want to take things into our own hands and manipulate the situation to our advantage… to get the result we believe is the right outcome. We might whine or whinge to others. It could be through gossip or possibly speaking poorly of those in leadership over us. Basically, we’ll do whatever it takes to make those who are ‘ticking us off’ look bad! And then do or say whatever it takes to make ourselves look better!
Can I offer some simple advice I have learned on the anvil of life’s experience…
…next time you’re thinking you are owed something and you want to take matters into your own hands (to self-promote)… Just consider what happened to Lucifer!
Sadly, that once mighty Angel wasn’t satisfied with the lot he had been given… and I have never seen it work out well in the long term for those who take the path of self-promotion.
But those who choose to trust in the Lord, who are prepared to be taken on a journey… I often see elevated in due course.
So, consider again the Five “I Will’s” when next you feel overlooked:-
“You said in your heart, I will ascend…” (Self–will)
“I will raise my throne above the stars…” (Self–exaltation)
“I will sit enthroned on the mount of assembly…” (Self-enthronement)
“I will ascend above the tops of the clouds…” (Self-ascension)
“I will make myself like the Most High…” (self-deification)
The next time you are offended and sense of entitlement begins to rise within … check your heart for any of those above sentiments … and remember -
“God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)
Perhaps instead of trying to get the result you are after (via self-promotion) the next time you feel overlooked, it would be far better to humbly ask a question like:-
“Father God, is there anything that needs to change in me, before You see me as ready to be promoted?”
It’s my experience that those who are prepared to ask the Heavenly Father those kind of questions are usually the ones who end up being used powerfully by God in the long term!
In my next blog, I might share another biblical scenario of a man named Korah who also thought that he was overlooked and was ‘owed something'.
Until next time,
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
24th May 2017
Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart - Part 4
Yep, you thought last month's instalment was the final one .... but, no there is no end to being thankful, even in times of panic and despair as we read in this next instalment.
In this series on “Thankfulness”, I have been attempting to broaden our view of what it means to practically to live a life of thankfulness.
In Part 1 of “Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart”, I recommended starting a ‘Book of Remembrance’ which is basically a Journal recording key people whom God has used to positively shape and mold us as individuals. It’s a tool that allows you to recall and be thankful to God for the integral part key individuals have played in our lives.
In Part 2, an invitation was offered to seek out family or friends whom God might bring to mind to approach and say what you’re thankful about regarding the impact of their life upon you.
In Part 3, we focused on the Luke passage about the ten lepers healed by Jesus where we learned how important it is to cultivate a grateful attitude before God, who clearly notices when we don’t say thank you!
Now in this fourth instalment, we’re looking at Daniel and how he demonstrates that thankfulness steadies the heart under pressure!
In the Book of Daniel (Chapter 2) we read about King Nebuchadnezzar having a dream that troubled him greatly! The King refused to share with his mediums and occult practitioners (ie the ‘Wise Men’) what he had dreamt, demanding that they must tell him not just what the dream was about… but also share what the interpretation of the dream is!
None could offer what he demanded.
As they had all failed King Nebuchadnezzar, decreed that every one of the wise men in the land were to be put to death!
At this point in the story, Daniel the prophet of God and his friends, who was included amongst these wise men, were also placed under this death penalty. However, Daniel asked the King for more time! He was granted that time.
Daniel then asked his friends to intercede. Stunningly, we read in Daniel Chapter 2, Verse 19 that “During the night…”, suggesting Daniel seems to have gone to bed! - where in the middle of the night, the Lord revealed the mystery of the King’s dream to Daniel!
Now, let me ask you this question… would you be able to sleep the night before your execution?
No! …me neither!
But Daniel, appears to have rested peacefully overnight, where God came to him and gave him the needed interpretation! Then the scripture states that Daniel praised the God of heaven throughout the verse in Daniel 2:19-23. In verse 23 Daniel says” “I thank and praise you, oh God of my fathers; You have given me wisdom and power, you have made known to me what we asked of you”.
Clearly, this man of God knew what it meant to wait upon a holy God with a thankful trusting heart… even in the midst of impending death!
In fact, I imagine Daniel’s heart was already poised the night before – through a trusting, thankful, peaceful heart that waited patiently on God to come through... and Daniel indeed experienced his God come through for him and his friends!
And the key in this stressful circumstance?... Thankfulness!
Thankfulness and praise steadies and protects the heart from panic and despair!
The key here is that God always had this situation under control. In His sovereignty, the “crisis” was no surprise to God. Daniel’s intimate relationship with God gave him the faith and trust to know that. In fact in every “crisis”, there is always an opportunity for God to be glorified, provided we can give thanks in unnerving situations and learn to ask Him to rescue us in the midst of our trial.
God is never surprised by a ‘crisis’. He has everything under control – whether we can see that or not!
However, for most of us, we rarely attempt to steady our hearts in a crisis. Simply because we usually fail to trust in our God to come through for us. We usually believe it depends all on us. But if we could learn, to steady our hearts with thanks and praise… we too just might see God to display His hand in a powerful way.
Remember, the key lesson Daniel teaches us is that thankfulness steadies the heart from panic and despair! If we can learn that from Daniel… we just might see how God could move come to miraculously come through more often for us when crisis comes in our life.
Next time you’re faced with a pressured situation that carries an uncertain outcome, ask Father God to steady your heart. Choose to be thankful in such pressured situations – regardless of the negative circumstances that surround you – try it - see if panic and despair aren’t put to flight!
Your God is dying to come through for you! And He will!
(Why not just thank Him ahead of time?)
Until next month…
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
18th April 2017
Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart - Part 3
In Part 1 of “Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart”, I recommended starting a ‘Book of Remembrance’ which is basically a Journal that records key people whom God has used to positively shape and mold us as individuals. It’s a tool that allows you to recall and be thankful to God for the integral part key individuals have played in your life.
In Part 2, I provided an invitation to seek out family, or friends, whom God might lead you to approach and share what you are thankful about regarding the impact of their life upon you.
In this 3rd instalment of learning to cultivate a grateful attitude and a thankful heart, I would like to begin by looking at this passage in Luke 17:11-19 on the ten lepers who were healed by Jesus:-
Ten Healed of Leprosy
11 Now on his way to Jerusalem, Jesus traveled along the border between Samaria and Galilee. 12 As he was going into a village, ten men who had leprosy[a]met him. They stood at a distance 13 and called out in a loud voice, "Jesus, Master, have pity on us!"
14 When he saw them, he said, "Go, show yourselves to the priests." And as they went, they were cleansed. 15 One of them, when he saw he was healed, came back, praising God in a loud voice. 16 He threw himself at Jesus' feet and thanked him—and he was a Samaritan.
17 Jesus asked, "Were not all ten cleansed? Where are the other nine? 18 Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?" 19 Then he said to him, "Rise and go; your faith has made you well."
Allow me to ask this question:- “How many lepers returned to say thank you to Jesus after being healed?”.
Only one! Right!?!
A despised Samaritan returned alone to Jesus, throwing himself at Christ’s feet to acknowledge him as Lord and to say thank you to Him. What a great shame that the other nine, who were also miraculously healed by the Saviour – failed to return and say thank you and acknowledge Him as Lord also!
Now, note carefully this critical point in the story that highlights how Jesus responds to this failure to show gratitude… Jesus asked in Verse 17-18, "Were not all ten cleansed? Where are the other nine? Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?"
After Jesus had healed all 10, with only 1 returning to say thank you, He asks “Where are the other nine?”
The key point here is that God notices when we don’t thank him!
God loves gratitude – because it’s actually worship!
Our thanksgiving reveals a grateful heart… it is like worship to Him.
Allow me to ask… when you have done something for someone and they fail to say thank you… do you notice their ingratitude? (You do, don’t you!).
If you were to keep getting requests for favours from a particular person, which you continually help them with… but they never say ‘thank you’… do you think you would eventually notice that lack of appreciation?
I’m fairly sure you would indeed notice their lack of appreciation!
Then recognize that the One whose image we are molded from also notices when we fail to thank Him!
God notices ingratitude.
We often pray asking God for some favour, or healing or other request to meet our life needs at specific times.
But I wonder how often we actually remember to pause and deliberately thank a holy God when He has actually answered our prayer?
Here is my practical assignment for you:-
Sit down quietly, ask the Lord to remind you of the things you have asked Him for in prayer over the last 12 months… (either for yourself, or for someone else).
Then, once you have a list of prayer requests made over the last year or so… consider which of those prayer requests have actually been answered?
Once you have identified how many of those prayers have been answered…ask yourself this question: -
“Have I deliberately paused to offer thanks and praise to God for coming through for me on those prayer requests?” (Remember, God notices ingratitude).
If you haven’t actually stopped to thank Him… It’s never too late!
Until next time,
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
20th March 2017
Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart - Part 2
In Part 1 of “Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart”, I recommended starting a ‘Book of Remembrance’ (ie a Journal recording the key events and people whom God has used in a positive way to shape and mold you). It’s basically tool that allows you to recall and be thankful to God for the integral part key people have played in your life.
In Part 2 here, I would like to build towards another practical suggestion that I will offer at the end of this article, which I hope will also help improve how we relate to others around us – particularly when it comes to cultivating a grateful attitude and a thankful heart.
Let me begin by reminding you of a scripture we often use at Ellel Ministries when discussing how the words of others can affect us…
“The tongue has the power of life and death” (Prov 18:21 NIV)
The words we speak over others can either bring blessing and encouragement, or they can bring rejection and curse!
With regards to cultivating a thankful heart, one way we can show gratitude and appreciation for those God has put around us, is to actually tell them how thankful we are for their influence they bring into our life today!
Through the healing retreats and ministry we offer here at Ellel Gilbulla, we are often asking Jesus to ‘undo’ the damage caused by negative words that have been spoken over people by others (e.g. parents, siblings, other family members, etc,).
The tongue that is capable of causing incredible wounds… is also capable of speaking wonderful encouragement and life giving words over people.
I’d like to share a story that will help ‘set the scene’ for regarding how we can better use our tongues to bless and be thankful for others.
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Next month I will be posting the final instalment.
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
23rd February 2017
Learning to Walk with a Thankful Heart - Part 1
Have you stopped to consider what God thinks about thankfulness?
It’s an important point to ponder… because it has to do with where our heart is!
I’d like to do a multi-part series in this blog on ‘Thankfulness’. Each article I hope will bring some practical aspect to help overcome the negativity this world can throw us.
In this Part 1, I’d like to start by making you aware how thankfulness is closely linked to praise and worship. Have a look at Psalm 100:1-4:-
1 Shout for joy to the LORD, all the earth. 2 Worship the LORD with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. 3 Know that the LORD is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture. 4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.
Note the link between thanksgiving and praise.
Also, did you know that it was a duty for the priests in the Old Testament to thank and praise God every morning and every evening! (Read 1 Chron 23:28-30). Back then it was a dutiful requirement for the priests to be thanking God at least twice a day to set a model for all the people. Clearly, God saw thankfulness as important enough to have the Levites model it regularly to the Israelites, in the hope that everyone would follow suit… and learn to live a life of thankfulness as part of their daily worship of Yahweh.
I’m pretty sure the Lord still requires the same of us today, simply because as a modern day Disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ, to have a thankful heart ensures we avoid the pitfalls of a grumbling generation that were left to perish in a desert long ago.
Back when Moses led Israel to the edge of the Promised Land, it was here that a generation faltered, simply because they failed to recognize all God was doing for them. Instead of thankful hearts, they were ungrateful, complaining, hard-heartedness and rebellious. Listen to the following Scripture in Hebrews 3:7-9 referencing that grumbling generation that were left to die in the desert because of their lack of appreciation for all God had done in rescuing them from Egyptian slavery:-
So, as the Holy Spirit says: “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion, during the time of testing in the wilderness, where your ancestors tested and tried me, though for forty years they saw what I did. That is why I was angry with that generation; I said, ‘Their hearts are always going astray, and they have not known my ways.’ So I declared on oath in my anger, ‘They shall never enter my rest.’ ” See to it, brothers and sisters, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God.
Clearly, in that passage, God viewed that whole generation as being ungrateful for how He rescued them during the Exodus. That passage uses words like: “sinful”; “unbelieving”; and “hardened heart”; which is seen as “rebellion”! Even more concerning is this sobering statement by the Lord that “they shall never enter my rest”!
All for failing to be thankful!
It got me thinking about how we might allow ourselves to be blindsided in the same way. To the point where we fail to be thankful and appreciate what the Lord has done for us! If that occurs, we could also fail to enter His rest, courtesy of our complaints, grumbling and hardened hearts!
To explore that further, I want to look at some key verses that have challenged me to become more mindful and appreciative for the things Father God has done for me.
In Phillipians 1:3-6 we read:-
“3 I thank my God every time I remember you. 4 In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy 5 because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, 6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
The Apostle Paul in that verse is being thankful in recognizing those people God put alongside him during his kingdom exploits.
I am not good at remembering and being thankful for those God has brought alongside me over the years who have impacted me. But, quite a while back a mentor suggested to me I create a ‘Book of Remembrance’. It’s a journal recording all the key people God has brought alongside me over my journey, to remind us of how every one of them was used by the Lord to play an integral part in who I have become today. If it wasn’t for that “Book of Remembrance” I am sure many of those precious folk that have crossed my path would have been long forgotten. And every time I pick it up when things are not going so well, God always finds a way to lift my spirit and encourage me.
So, who are the people that God arranged to be alongside you during crucial moments in your story? How did God use them to bless you? How did Abba use them to bail you out of trouble? Or rescue you?
To have that ‘on file’ reminds me regularly that God has never forsaken me. It builds into me the faith that He will be with me in my future trials. Also, recalling how the Lord used those folks at pivotal points in my life ensures I have a far more grateful and thankful heart, not just for those people, but far more gratitude for Father God who ordered their steps. Such a book reminds me of His wonderful deeds in my life… and it reminds me to be forever thankful for those individuals He used!
The obvious question now is – who are those people whom you “thank God every time I remember you”?
Why not start creating your very own “Book of Remembrance”?
It could be a great antidote to a “sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God” (Heb 3:12).
I guarantee you that when you start to grumble, feel negative, or ungrateful… pull out your “Book of Remembrance” and re-read it. It will help ward off ‘hard-heartedness’ that leads to rebellion. And instead you will be thanking and praising God for His intervention in your life.
Go on, give it a try…
Stay tuned for Part 2 next month!
Paul Ryan. Centre Director
Ellel Ministries Gilbulla
24th January 2017
The Difference Between Guilt and Shame
Last month we enjoyed an excellent weekend here at Ellel Ministries Gilbulla with Ken Hooper from Peninsula City Church in Victoria sharing about moving from Slavery to Sonship. It was a brilliant weekend. The testimonies gave full credit to the work Father God had done in every person who attended.
Sitting in and listening to Ken got me thinking about the impact of guilt and shame on a person and how shame in particular affects our ‘sonship’. In fact, Ken’s input reminded me of another great teaching on shame that comes from Gordon Dalbey’s ”Fight Like a Man”.
Both Ken and Gordon’s perspectives exercised my mind regarding the following question:
“What exactly is the difference between guilt and shame?”
So, here are some thoughts regarding my answer to that question…(and I want to give credit to both Ken and Gordon for the truth they have collectively helped me to understand about this topic).
Firstly, I have come to understand guilt as the feeling we experience after we have stepped outside of God’s protective covering. When we are experiencing guilt, it is my personal conviction that we are feeling exactly what God intends us to feel after we have sinned. At that moment we sin, our conscience will be actively telling us “you are guilty of breaking God’s commands! Confess. Repent. Get back under God’s covering, quickly!”
God has given us a conscience for that very purpose.
So if our conscience is functioning as it should, you are supposed to feel guilty after you have transgressed. (Although, if you have hardened your heart and sinned in an area long enough - your conscience can become seared and shut down to the sensation of feeling guilt).
Guilt is in fact the emotion we are designed to feel when we have done something wrong. And it’s been given to us by God so that we can do something about it!
We may need to apologise. Go and say we’re sorry. Correct a wrong. It is meant to make us run back to God!
Guilt moves us to get relationships right with God and with others whom we may have hurt or failed. Guilt moves us to confess sin, to repent, to be forgiven, to be reconciled.
In one of his psalms, King David expresses what he is feeling as he responds with a broken and contrite heart, speaking of how guilt affected him. Listen to how he expresses it:-
“When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. (Selah) Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD “ - and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” Psalm 32. 3-5
I love the honesty of David sharing how his heart was in a real mess when he tried to cover over his sin. It was destroying him not just emotionally, but also affecting him physically. I know these symptoms well when I have been burdened by guilt. But once David opened up to God and confessed his sin, God forgave him and released him from the weight of that burden.
Another Psalm where David has to face the mess he has created is in Psalm 51. David wrote this psalm after committing adultery with Bathsheba:-
“For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge”. Ps 51:3-4
In fact, that whole Psalm is about David expressing his plea for mercy and being aware of his sin and asking God to create in him a new and clean heart, asking the Lord to deal with his sin and blot out his transgressions, to wipe it away, to cleanse him. In other words, remove his guilt!
Guilt is designed to let you know that certain thoughts, words or actions were wrong or inappropriate. Another benefit of feeling guilt is that it can actually help you identify what your sinful behaviours are… leading you to know exactly what needs to be repented of, and what we need to seek God’s forgiveness for!
If I had to summarise and define the role and purpose of guilt I would offer this:-
a) Guilt helps us recognise, through our conscience, what we did was wrong.
b) Guilt should be accompanied with a spirit of conviction that always leads to hope (for change; forgiveness; etc,
c) Guilt leads us to repentance so we can be cleansed and set free
d) True repentance deals with the sin issue and therefore removes the feeling of guilt that used to attach to the sin before it was placed under Jesus’ blood
e) God’s purpose and plan is that we do not continue to carry either guilt or shame… because Christ is our guilt and shame bearer at Calvary – He died in our place to remove the stain each of them carries.
Gordon Dalbey makes a key statement about the difference between guilt and shame:-
“It’s one thing to make a mistake, even to choose to do something when you could choose to do it right. That prompts guilt, which goes away when we make amends, and do it right next time. But when you are incapable of doing it right, when the more you try, the more you get it wrong, the gap between what you ‘should be’ and what you ‘are’ is filled with shame”.
Shame is something that goes much deeper, than guilt. Shame touches right into the core of our being. It attacks our identity; our ‘sonship’. It affects how we see and feel about our self.
Even worse, shame lies to us about how God sees us.
The key difference between Guilt and Shame is really this:-
Guilt says: “What you just did was wrong.”
Shame says: “Something about you is very wrong!”
Guilt says: “Your response was bad”
Shame says: “You are bad!”
To read how to overcome guilt and shame, click here to download a PDF of the full article
Until next time!
Paul Ryan. Centre Director
Ellel Ministries Gilbulla
26th November 2016
Managing or Leading?
Ever since I was first entrusted with some form of leadership responsibility, I have regularly prayed asking God to help me understand as best I can exactly what ‘leadership’ encompasses.
John Maxwell defines leadership as primarily ‘having influence’…
I can certainly resonate with that… as a parent you undoubtedly offer leadership to your own children and want to positively influence the direction of their lives. As a Connect Group Leader or Small Group Leader you want to have influence over those you are caring for weekly. As a boss in the work place you obviously desire to exert influence. As a Church Pastor, you would certainly see one of your key imperatives is to guide, equip and influence your flock to be all they can be for Christ in their sphere of influence within the community.
John Wimber, the founder of the Vineyard movement, defined Leadership as ‘managing conflict’…
I can absolutely resonate with that too! In my very first role in leadership, I was a little shocked at how much just one particular decision I would make caused some people to become quite confrontational! Sadly, in leadership you can never please all of the people, all of the time. (The truth is ‘people-pleasers’ do not make great leaders). Real leadership is going to press a few buttons in those under you!
However, what I am finding in my own experience is that real leadership requires vision… vison to see what others cannot. In other words, to foresee a kingdom future that others cannot foresee. A future that with God’s supernatural help, can be brought into being!
I read an article on a recent flight from Sydney to Melbourne where the author was summarizing the collective consensus of a secular conference in America of corporation giants and elite institutions. The conclusions of that conference about leadership in general came up with some startling conclusions.
They agreed that much of society was being guided, not by leaders, but by managers!
The summary overall included the observation that there was a serious shortage of genuine leaders across all sectors, who possessed the vision and character to take any organization into the future confidently and safely. That summary spoke of fear, uncertainty, and confusion amongst managers in the current light of world pressures with wavering financial markets, governments toppling; and terrorism rising.
For me, it re-surfaced my questions about what exactly is leadership? And how do we go about offering real leadership to a troubled world?
Most books I have read on leadership largely deal with improving leadership performance using better programs and theories for organizational structure and implementing better management technology tools.
If this is all that is offered at seminars and in training manuals for present or future leaders… it’s easy to see how we get the idea that to lead effectively… you just need to be a good administrator who uses great management tools to take your organization forward.
But are you in fact a good leader, simply because you are a good administrator or manager?
I don’t believe so.
It is possible to have a great leader, who is also a very good manager. Or even an excellent manager, who can also lead. But I think it’s crucial we understand that the two functions are in fact very different.
Tom Marshall in his book on “Understanding Leadership” states that management is really the stewardship of resources that makes an organization more effective and efficient. To achieve this requires logistics, information, teams, budgets, ways to measure performance, progress reports and systems to bring corrective action when required. You could be gifted in one or all of the above areas - but still not be leading.
Tom Marshall further states that Managers have to react to various situations as they arise, then bring remedial action to change the outcome or enhance the result. That is what defines good management.
If you have all those skills… wonderful!... But Tom Marshall stresses that does not necessarily make you a good leader.
True leadership of others is not management, nor is it administration.
Tom Marshall warns us “do not mistake a good administrator for a good leader! A good administrator makes for a good manager… but not necessarily a good leader”
Tom Marshall defines the key quality of Leadership as ‘having Spiritual Foresight’… (ie having the ability to envision a future kingdom reality that others cannot see).
Over recent years, I have been asking the Lord to open my eyes to ‘see’ what His redeemed future looks like for the sphere of influence I have been given responsibility over. Gradually the answer to that prayer has been coming with an increasing sense and belief that the God will guide Ellel Ministries into becoming a significant para-church ministry that will provide hope, shelter, healing and equipping for many in the difficult days that lay ahead. It will also be a very ‘visible’ ministry that offers sought after transformation for the Body of Christ here in this nation. It will be a ministry that works very closely with Church Leaders and assists them in developing their people to fulfil that church’s vision.
Most of what I (and my excellent leadership team around me) are doing right now, involves positioning Ellel Gilbulla to be positioned and ready to be that kind of influence for the Body of Christ in our nation.
I have observed that it is only restored, whole and mature Leaders that can possess spiritual foresight. So I have been asking Father God to continue honing my character when it still needs to be refined. I have seen too many wounded and insecure leaders make decisions that either appease others, or make decisions that best serve themselves. That kind of leadership does not serve God’s purposes well.
Kingdom Leadership encompasses having influence over others in a way that safely offers the security that the Father’s Heart intends. But it is balanced by leadership that also offers loving discipline… because Hebrews Chapter 12 reminds us that God only disciplines those He loves as ‘sons’.
True leadership also appropriately manages conflict with wisdom from on high… such kingdom leaders raise disciples that have been mentored and ‘fathered’ well, who become sons and daughters capable of offering real transformation to others. True Kingdom leaders recognize that true kingdom fruit produces ‘eternal seed’ that will reproduce. Those same sons and daughters being restored and raised up, will understand they need to be more conformed to the likeness of Christ if they are serious about becoming leaders of calibre.
Have I become a leader that ticks all those boxes yet? Not quite. But I am growing. And Abba Father is faithfully answering my prayer day by day.
My heart is not just to become such a leader with that kind of spiritual foresight and character… I want to be raising many others to become such leaders for the next generation!
How about you? What kind of spiritual foresight and influence are you offering to those around you?
Until next time!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Miinstries Gilbulla
25th October 2016
How God Develops Men Into Maturity
In the light of our “Proven” men’s event coming up soon in our calendar (24-27 November) I thought I might write some reflections on how God develops a man into maturity.
Ladies, I would ask that you please excuse the fact I am directly targeting men as I write this article… our evidence at Ellel Ministries strongly suggests that if a man can be transformed by his Heavenly Father… then every woman will indirectly benefit. However, I would suggest you still read on… simply because Holy Spirit may find a way to impact your heart too by what is written. At the very least it may help you understand us men a little more.
So where does a man go as an adult to learn his true worth... to know that he has what it takes? Where does a man go to learn his true nature and character... one that can never be stripped from him? And how do we find that kind of identity?
How do we get that deep heart knowledge that helps us understand who we truly are and believe in ourselves? Who can give a man that kind of identity and help him discover his real identity?
Why, God alone can!
In the last book of the Bible we read of The White Stone of Revelation (Rev 2:17) which is given only to those who ‘overcome’.
“He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. To him who overcomes, to him I will give some of the hidden manna, and I will give him a white stone, and a new name written on the stone which no one knows but he who receives it.” Revelation 2:17 NASB
That passage seems to speak of a new name which is given only after we have learned to overcome obvious adversity (that is, must come through tests, trials and ‘initiations’ that will have to be faced).
It stresses that name is given only “to him who overcomes”. That is to those who have what it takes! And with that comes a new identity which is forged within us in the process of ‘overcoming’.
In the end, what is given is our true identity, which can only come from God.
The only way I have witnessed a man receive this new name and new identity involves several key steps:-
• Understanding first where you have come from and what has shaped you
• Facing a series of trials that life will serve up to seriously test you
• There is often an arduous journey that has to be undertaken
• And you will have to face down your enemy ... and if you will face this enemy (usually within) and trust your Father God to help you ‘overcome’ him... then a new name and identity is given.
It might seem innocuous when just simply written down like that… but let me assure you from personal experience… this is no easy journey.
You see, to find our true identity – our real name - can only come through a series of initiations, tests and trials over time. Father God wants to travel with us on that journey. To succeed it will require something of us as men. (Many men never complete this journey. Some never undertake it!). But for those who allow Father God to strip away our masks and develop us, once we have ‘overcome’ – we are indeed given a new name – in fact, our real name. We’d much prefer to take an easier road.
But there is no other way. Not if we truly want to become ‘sons of God’, true Kingdom warriors… proven men. If this is your desire… then this is the only way!
To find out how you can overcome, download this PDF.
Until next month!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
28th September 2016
Addiction – why is it such a struggle?
Whether we are prepared to admit it or not… most of us are addicted to something. If you’re unsure about that, ponder on this definition of addiction from Gordon Dalbey: “An addiction is something you do consistently to avoid facing the truth about yourself.” (Read over that a few times… allow it to sink in!)
So now, let me ask, when pressure comes on you… what habit, or escape, or comfort, or way of ‘busyness’ do you consistently run to, rather than go to Father God for comfort and help? And what is the truth about yourself that you are unwilling to face? Or allow Jesus to heal?
Those are the questions that need answering if we truly are to be free from our addictions.
My personal understanding of how essential those questions are to this topic has come from learning about addictions through this ministry that I serve and also from the impartation of two key men.
The first of those men is Gordon Dalbey. He has been a personal friend and mentor who has invested into me from time to time over the last decade (something I am very thankful for). Regarding this topic on addiction, I’d like to highly recommend his book ‘Fight Like a Man’ wherein he unpacks many powerful truths on this key subject and in particular how shame impacts on addictions.
The other man who has influenced me greatly on this subject is Gerald May. I’ve never had the privilege to meet this man, however, he has passively mentored me through his excellent book “Addiction & Grace” which carries powerful insights.
What I’ll share with you from here on will draw significantly from both of these men of God from their abovementioned books, and from my experience in ministry at Ellel Ministries.
For most people who come to us trapped in some form of an addiction, they are not always just held captive by what we might refer to as a ‘classic addiction’ like alcohol, nicotine, drugs, sex or food. Addiction can have many faces, especially if it is something we are substituting to avoid letting God reveal a deeper level truth about ourselves that we have never wanted to face.
Examples of other types of addictions might include:- another person (codependency); or addiction to a style of music or a certain artist; to a sport or activity; etc… it’s something you do consistently to avoid facing the truth about yourself.
If we dig deep enough, what is usually unearthed is a behaviour or habit that we’ve allowed to become ingrained into our personality (like a besetting sin). That behaviour is what we have substituted for going to a Holy God for true comfort. Eventually, if you go to that habit or comfort often enough, you will eventually lose your ability to say ‘no’ to that pattern of behaviour and you will find yourself trapped.
You will have been ‘mastered’ by it. Enslaved to it. You have become an Addict.
In Webster’s dictionary it notes that the word addict comes from two latin roots, the preposition ‘ad’, meaning “toward,” and the verb ‘dicere’, meaning “to speak.” Join the two together and we get: addicere, which means “to speak toward,” or as in Webster’s definition: “to give assent, to give [oneself] up to a [a strong habit].”
In other words, if we’ve “given oneself up to a strong habit” we have actually ‘given assent’ (ie approval; sanction; agreement) to something in our lives. Another way of saying it is we have given permission for that habit or false comfort to have a prominent place in our lives… a permission we never should have given. What we have done is elevated it above the throne of God! In other words, if we have a habit or behaviour or false comfort… a more relevant place in our life than even God… when we do that we break the 1st Commandment: ‘Thou shalt have no other gods before me’.(Exodus 20:3 NIV). In verse 5 in Exodus it adds this: “You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God”
Friends, whenever I break this commandment, I am committing Idolatry… and it always gets me into a truck load of trouble!
However, the bigger concern for God isn’t that we have sinned, but that we have chosen to run to a ‘lesser lover’ to comfort us… rather than run to the One True Lover of our Soul! That is what breaks His heart… we reject Him and settle for an act of idolatry that places us in bondage and if it gets out of hand - could eventually destroy us and those closest to us.
Think about it for a minute…whenever life goes pear-shaped or calamity and despair descends (eg a fight with your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend… or a relationship breakup… or a scolding from a boss… you fail at something… a rejection… a betrayal… etc), usually the first thing we run to is some form of false comfort like getting busy at work, or alcohol, or chocolate, or pornography, etc, etc.
In the past whenever I responded like that, you could hardly say I was taking my issue or my pain to God to seek His comfort… could you?
In fact, when life’s pressure mounts and I willingly (rebelliously?) choose to run to ‘something else’, rather than run to Abba Father… I am choosing something else over and above Him. I am in fact, bowing to an idol. I am trusting in something else other than a Holy God to rescue me or take my pain away. And that is what the enemy is depending on… because that is the hook upon which he gets us addicted (Latin: “Addicere” – Webster’s definition: “to give assent, to give [oneself] up to a [a strong habit].)”
Every time we run to something else for comfort other than God, what we are doing is really a surrender of sorts. Any time we surrender to a false comfort of the enemy… there is usually a snare waiting to trap us. Romans 6:16 NIV states “Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey…” To surrender to an ungodly habit or false comfort is to ‘offer yourselves… as obedient slaves’ and the result is we fall into the enemy’s grip. All because we refused to receive true comfort from The Comforter. Instead, we surrendered to the enemy’s ploy of false comfort.
Curiously, the same action that gets us addicted in the first place… is the same means by which we must be rescued… ‘surrender’!
One path of surrender to the Father of Lies makes us ‘slaves’ … the other path of surrender to Abba Father makes us ‘sons’!
To read more about my testimony and how you can be set free from addictions, you can download the PDF here.
Until next month!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
22nd August 2016
Why do I break the 4th commandment ... and brag about it?
If I was to own up to one command I have broken more than any other, sadly it would be the 4th commandment: “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.” (Exodus 20:8 NIV).
And if I am really honest… it is the one command that I think at times I have even bragged about when I break it!... “I’ll bet you didn’t work as many hours as I did this week!… And next week is looking worse! The family won’t see me for days!”.
I know there are peak periods of stress in each of our lives and work places that we just have to absorb. But I am finding that the ‘tyranny of the urgent’ is upon me every day of the week and it is stealing me away from my family and from an intimacy with God that I need to start fighting to recover!
When we consistently indulge in overwork we end up overwhelmed and exhausted. All of the rushing at great speed, becoming busier and busier somehow makes us - less human. I don’t know about you, but it results in me becoming irritable, anxious and impatient around others. I have no time for those who need me to stop and just listen. I find myself not actually wanting to stop and talk to anyone when I am overwhelmed with tasks that have to be done! Before I know it, this bullet-train of busyness grows at ever increasing speeds; and I find myself chained to a missile I don’t know how to get off or disarm.
I am certain you know what I am talking about.
Surely, if we just judge all of the above by the fruit it produces in our hearts… busyness is a clear work of the enemy. It is certainly opposed to true rest.
I once understood Sabbath to be a day of diligence, spiritual focus, bible study, prayer, and religious practices. I also understood that day to be Sunday. But more often than not Sunday’s are full of rushing around with getting to and from church, then later that day mowing a lawn, then preparing some job lists for the week that lay ahead… it felt anything but a rest day!
In the Old Testament, three different Hebrew words are found that carry the concept of rest: (i) sabat; (ii) nuah; and (iii) saqat.
- Sabat – the root word for Sabbath – implies ceasing or coming to an end of an activity as God did when He completed creation in Genesis.
- Nuah – suggests relaxation, being settled, the absence of movement and a psychological release from pressure or tension.
- Saqat – signifies an absence of inner anxiety from external pressures. Each of these words communicates a rest through a trusting relationship with God. The benefits implied include security, confidence, peace and an absence of fear or anxiety.
I am slowly coming to understand Sabbath is not merely the cessation of work, it is turning from work to something entirely different from what we normally view as ‘rest’ or ‘leisure’.
When we take a holiday, we are not just taking time off work, we’re usually attempting to disconnect from the pressures of work by indulging in diversions. We sunbake on beaches; sip cocktails at a poolside; lose ourselves in a novel; block out the world with our earpieces listening to our favourite playlist as we travel. But actually none of this is Sabbath. It is simply escaping our work pressure in the hope of filling ourselves with a temporary pleasure, hoping we get ‘rested’ before we have to go back to work again!
Dan Allender in his book ‘Sabbath’ takes up this discussion:- “Many modern day vacations have the allure of cotton candy – a brightly coloured candy puff on a stick that promises a feast of fullness and is nearly impossible to eat without sticky compromise. Once we tear into the sugary diversion, it disappears in a flash and offers no substance. It is not enough, and it doesn’t satisfy, even for a minute. The end only increases the desire for more”… a challenging, but I believe accurate, description of what our traditional holiday patterns have become. Rarely are they true rest.
Sabbath is meant to be far more than a ‘Cotton Candy’ diversion from our work pressures. It is meant to be a rest that involves an encounter with God Himself.
Mary Dalbey in her book ‘The Rest of your Life’ says: “to partake in such a rest designates not the absence of work, but rather the presence of trust (in God)…. Biblical rest doesn’t mean comfort and ease, nor idleness or irresponsibility. It doesn’t even necessarily require the cessation of activity, but instead bestows serenity and security even in the midst of strenuous activity. God’s rest doesn’t require the luxury of a settled life, but rather the comfort of a secured soul”.
I am learning that Sabbath rest is not about what we don’t do. It’s about what we allow and trust God to do for us!
Biblical peace doesn’t mean the absence of conflict or perfect tranquillity. Biblical peace promises not the peace that surpasses ‘sugary diversions’, but the peace that surpasses understanding (Phil 4:7). True peace can only found in the Prince of Peace. It’s not a state of being, it is the cultivation of a relationship with the Almighty. Sabbath rest is only found in a deep and intimate connection with Abba Father. Sabbath is meant to be a day of delight in the safe embrace of my Creator.
Jesus of Nazareth never wanted us to live separated from Him by the idolatry of busyness. I don’t know about you… but I need to repent of bragging about breaking one of God’s commands and I need to start asking the Father to help me surrender all of my anxious ways that lead me into rebellion! The moment I surrender to Him… I immediately find Holy Spirit doing a work in my heart that puts me back on to experience true Sabbath rest again.
So, what is causing you stress; driving you to overwork; robbing your peace; stealing your rest?
If you would like the Lord to help identify the answer to the above… then consider these reflection questions to ask Father God:
In regard to what causes you stress, or robs your peace…
- What would you lose by letting it go?
- What would you gain by letting it go?
- What prevents your letting it go?
- Are you able to ask the Father to help you surrender it to Him today?
The more time I spend surrendering to Abba Father, the more He delights in exposing the counterfeit ways I find solace and pleasure (that I used to think were joy!). The result is I am growing hungrier to enter true Sabbath rest… an invite to run into the everlasting arms of my Heavenly Father.
And I hope you realise that same invitation is open to you too.
Until next month!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries, Gilbulla
22nd July 2016
I'm still getting used to this blogging business, and learning as I go ... so here's the second one!
Our heart here at Ellel Gilbulla has always been to resource the local church and support the frontline of the Body of Christ. Our schools and courses are all designed to offer core training that transforms lives and offers prayer ministry skills for any disciple who desires to be equipped!
In Matthew 28:19-20 we have Jesus' last words to us before he ascended back into heaven:-
19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”(NIV)
We take very seriously the Great Commission and everything we do is centred in offering true kingdom discipleship. We trust in His promise to be with us until the end of the age, helping us by His Spirit to go and make disciples… teaching them to obey everything that He has commanded!
Peter Horrobin, the Founder and International Leader of Ellel Ministries globally, stated some years ago that: “Unless we bring a person to a place where their relationship with Jesus is more important than anything else (including their healing), all ministry is pointless!”. Peter’s main point here is that discipleship is first and foremost centred in being conformed to the likeness of Jesus Christ – and anything less than making Jesus Lord over every area of our life… is simply not true kingdom discipleship!
In fact, it is our experience that where Jesus in not Lord over some aspect of our life (eg fearful responses, addictions, lies we believe, etc.) then that points to an area that requires Jesus' restoration. And that is quite simply our main goal here at Ellel Gilbulla … to bring every saint to the place in their discipleship where Jesus is in indeed Lord over every area of their life.
Until next month!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries Gilbulla
26th June 2016
Welcome to our first monthly newsletter!! Each month we want to send you an article of interest, an update on upcoming courses and perhaps something that the Father has been teaching me. It will be different every month … a bit of a surprise package really, but for this inaugural monthly newsletter, I just want to offer an initial welcome and a thank you for being part of the continuing journey of Ellel Ministries at Gilbulla.
In fact, ‘welcome’ is a big part of what we do here at Ellel and as most of you would know it is part of our key verse, Luke 9:11 .. “Jesus welcomed the people, he spoke to them about the Kingdom of God and healed those in need of healing”… This was the God-given blueprint for how this ministry was to function from the very beginning at Ellel Grange in the UK back in 1986. It is also the basis on which we launched Ellel Ministries here in Australia when Ellel Gilbulla was opened in 2002!
“Jesus welcomed the people”… that word ‘welcome’ embraces a practical expression of love. If we welcome you in a way that connects with your heart, makes you feel safe, loved and accepted – you will be far more ready to hear what we have to teach! We want everyone who comes in contact with this ministry to know that they are loved first and foremost by our Father in Heaven. Only then will that person be willing to receive what God has to offer through our ministry.
And so at Ellel Gilbulla we are following this time honoured blueprint for the way God wants us to minister by showing the love of the Father as we welcome and connect with people, teaching them about the kingdom of God, offering the Saviour's healing and restoration to all those in need.
I like that blueprint!
Until next month!
Paul Ryan, Centre Director
Ellel Ministries Gilbulla